You don't have the children, your husband is just as responsible. Please be careful. Terrible thing to say, if you think it could escalate, bonk your self in the head with a pan and call the police. There is no use to put you and your children in danger.  It is hard to navigate these waters and even more difficult to get out of abusive relationships. Statistically 1 in 10 abused women make it out. Those are sobering numbers.... I speak from experience. Not with my husband now, put the man I had children with. 12 years, I understand. Contact a shelter if you have to as a last resort. If you have family that will help you, I suggest you contact them for help. Ask them to be honest with you and see if they have seen abusive traits in your husband before, it could save your life and your childrens. I am sorry you are going through this, it is never easy to just walk away. I sincerely understand. I dont get on line much, but as everyone else, I am deeply concerned. Please take care.

Huh?  how would bonking herself in the head with a pan help?

Is it because the sheriff didn't think he "hit" her, but a lump on the head is different?

Injuring herself and lying about what happens seems like a bad idea to me.  Besides that fact that if she hit her head that hard, she could actually end up injuring herself, if it's discovered that she lied about that injury then everything she says would be doubted.

I agree with you...I can;t believe this.  I don't know why I am surprised.  My youngest daughter is in a similar situation.  The police were involved in one incident.  Her husband was waiting for trial due to threatening to shoot someone at a gas station on top of another fire arm violation.  The police had him in the patrol car, and my husband went over to talk to the officers.  He explained the situation.  They looked on their computer and told my husband he was clean that nothing there and let him go.  We could not believe it.  They told her to go back to the apartment and get some clothes and leave for the night.  She told them she needed her vehicle; he was driving it.  They would not give it to her, AND IT IS IN HER NAME!   She finally got it.  I called the assistant DA the next morning and told him about the incident.  When he entered his name everything came up.  He said to me, "I don't know what they were looking at, but it is all right here."  This seems to happen more than I want to admit when it comes to law enforcement and domestic violence.  One officer flippantly told me, "a woman can accuse with just a tap on the arm."

If you can't leave for yourself.... The least you can do is leave for your children. NO child at ANY age deserves to witness any sort of abuse. There are sooooooooooooo many options and resources out there - that can help you out of that situation.
Again, do it for your children. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Oh, I am so sorry that this happened. We all support you. I would like to set the record straight, he DID hit you. His chest/stomach HIT your most vulnerable place AND HE KNEW IT. HE KNEW THAT IT WOULD HURT YOU AND POSSIBLY CAUSE YOU SERIOUS, SERIOUS INJURY. THIS IS VERY SERIOUS AND YOU WERE ASSAULTED!! I would call your surgeon and let him know what happened. He will want to know that you experienced trauma to your tummy. Watch for signs of your belly showing distress and respond to those signs immediatly. Bless your heart. I still can't believe it. I am 8 weeks out and the thought of someone bumping my belly even now, makes me break out into a sweat. Please take care of you and your babies. Again, we are so here for you.

 Been there done that.  I left my husband for one reason.  My child.  I did not want to have her grow up and be treated like that by any man.  I raised her pretty good.  She never smoked, never drank and never did drugs.  We are really close now.  It wasn't always perfect but i would do anything for my kids.  

You should probably get strong..let your kids see mom is strong..they learn everything from YOU.  Get yourself a restraining order...keep him away from you for now.  Fight hard to keep him away from you.  Contact social services and get yourself and kids on assistance temporarily and contact your local legal aid.  AND get yourself some counseling.  YOU can make it without anyone. You can do it on your own.  

If you don't feel better within a day i would contact your doctor.  take care and never say never.. 

I have no words of wisdom or advice, but would like to say sorry that you are going thru this and (((hugs)))

Oh my dear let me tell you I have been there!  You do not deserve that nor do your children! 

You need to get strong

now first!!  You can't help your children if you are not healed and well!  Get well, then GET STRONG!!!  Get all of your ducks in a row and start working on yourself!  Get a PLAN to get you and your children out!!!  Do you have any family that can help you out! 

NO one and I mean NO one deserves to be treated that way!  I went through it all and came out a MUCH stronger woman!!  I knew I had to grow some what we say "balls" and start standing up for my self and my children but I had to do it SMARTLY!!!!  NOT dangerously!!! 

You don't want your children to have grown up seeing their mother being a weak, wounded woman!  You need to show them what you can do in this life and do it for them!!

It is probably all about control for him.  Quietly get control of your life and GET THE HELL OUT!!!

I see you are in Florida, I almost went to Dr. Lieberman but I am seeing Dr. Bass in Naples. 

You can always send me a note and I am always here for a fellow sister who is in need!  There are people here to give you strength!

You and your children are in my prayers!

Jo