Hit in the stomach...

About 5 hours ago my husband and I got into a pretty big arguement and it got a little physical.  He ... well for lack of a better term "belly bumped" me.  Shoved his chest and stomach into my stomach.  You know. what guys do (usually to other guys) when they're trying to start a fight.... the step before punching.

Anyway, I'm 4 weeks post op and it HURT LIKE HELL!!  I've been nauseated every since. I'm not sure if it's nerves or if something is wrong. It's not super painful anymore but just kinda a dull ache. I didn't call my surgeon but without a lot of actual pain, do you guys think I'm ok?  I just can't believe he did that.  Who does that to their wife let alone their wife that just had surgery? 

Yes, I know I'm in an abusive relationship but unfortunately I have no job and 5 children to care for.  I'm SCREWED. I've applied for at least 20 jobs in the last week alone..... as soon as I get a job, I can ask him to move out and hopefully he will.  I'm praying I get a job this next week. I can't go on much longer like this. 

Ginger

Call the cops and they will ask him to leave ... in fact, they'll give him somewhere to go AND provide the transport!

He will also continue to be financially responsible for you and your children - the judge will make that quite clear!  Your safety is more important than whether or not you have a job.

Please, call 911!

I called the sheriff.  He said if he had actually HIT me, as in punched me, then it would have been grounds for arrest but the fact he bumped me (however, hard it was) they didn't think the arrest would hold.  So he said if he comes home and even raises his voice to me then I should call 911 and they'll come back out.  That particular sheriff is working my area tonight and he said he'd love to come and set him straight. 

I'm hoping he just didn't damage anything. 

Ginger

Wow!  That is one tolerant (and misguided) Sheriff - here in Colorado if the Sheriff is called out, someone is going to jail ...

Please don't hesitate to call again if he so much as lays a finger on you, or if you feel worried about your or your children's safety.

Look after yourself, Ginger

Kim

I'd call your surgeon.  This needs to be documented for future reference and for his opinion.

Wow, that is terrible.

I don't know about the pain or nausea, but I hope you are ok and I hope you are safe.  No one should have to live like that, fighting and hitting each other.  I do agree you should report it.  If at another time it gets worse and you try to explain he has done this before the first question will be "did you report it".  No report and it's like it never happened.

So sorry.... 

Wow, I'm really sorry. Just be mindful of your body for the next 24 hrs in case you start feeling worse. I have to say that I hope you can get him or you out of there soon. I saw a lot of violence in my home as a child and the damage to your children is, well, huge... Think about a shelter? Welfare? Divorce? Family? Whatever you can do to keep yourself and your children safe. So sorry...

Call the cops, job or no job there is no reason for you to live in an abusive relationship and your children witnessing this type of situation. 

There are resources available for you and your children.  Please don't feel you have to stay there, you don't deserve this nor do you have to take it.

I am so sorry! What he did is terrible and uncalled for. Did you tell the sheriff that u had just had surgery on your stomach? And i agree what the other poster has said, you don't deserve to live like that, no one does and your children don't need to be in that kind of environment either. There is help out there for battered women. Call your local domestic violence center and they will help you. In most places they will help you to file a Protection from Abuse order and go with you to court. They usually have a shelter if needed plus they offer counseling. It might not be a bad idea to go to the ER and get checked out. That way, even if nothing is wrong, it will be on record. And God forbid, if something is wrong, the sheriff should have enough to make the arrest "stick." Don't mess around with your life, please get help. Best of luck to you.

Assault and battery doesn't have to be done with a fist; the
fact that the rat actually physically pushed you and that you
are now in pain should be enough.