Talking to a brick wall!
When people give in to your mom it is a like a drug, she can not get enough. Yes your dad does sound like an enabler. He should be told that YOU have grown up and THEY are the ones who are married. Yes he may be on the road BUT he chose her and he chose that job, correct? He chose her for better or worse. He should grow a few and tell her to stop acting like a baby.
YOU should be selfish from time to time. But wait that would make you the bad awful unappreciative daughter right? WRONG!!!!! Sounds like your mom is using you because you are her best friend, well honey it is time for her to go find another best friend and let you live your life.
My mom and I did not get along at all (especially after I found out she was sleeping with my exhubby, whom I was married to at the time- his butt got sent packing), she was ALWAYS making em out to be the disappointing one. I was always bending over backwards for her and it was not good enough, nothing was good enough. One day I snapped and told her I had had enough I was NOT going to be killing myself to make her happy.
Boundaries need to be set. If she pouts and gets mad- so what. Remember it is OUR decision to get mad not anyone elses. SHE makes the decision to get mad, she sounds like a 4 year old who got her favorite doll taken.
YOU should be selfish from time to time. But wait that would make you the bad awful unappreciative daughter right? WRONG!!!!! Sounds like your mom is using you because you are her best friend, well honey it is time for her to go find another best friend and let you live your life.
My mom and I did not get along at all (especially after I found out she was sleeping with my exhubby, whom I was married to at the time- his butt got sent packing), she was ALWAYS making em out to be the disappointing one. I was always bending over backwards for her and it was not good enough, nothing was good enough. One day I snapped and told her I had had enough I was NOT going to be killing myself to make her happy.
Boundaries need to be set. If she pouts and gets mad- so what. Remember it is OUR decision to get mad not anyone elses. SHE makes the decision to get mad, she sounds like a 4 year old who got her favorite doll taken.
I agree. I called her on the way home from work and told her I was not going. I'm tired after a long day, still gotta cook, kids to see about. She didn't say alot but she didn't go either. I hate that is the way it has to be but....enough is enough.
Tonya
HW: 274 PreOp Diet: 271 Surgery: APRIL 25, 2011
I love my new life!!!
HW: 274 PreOp Diet: 271 Surgery: APRIL 25, 2011
I love my new life!!!