RANT: She will NOT steal my progress!
Toxic relationships whether with a spouse/SO/family isn't good for any of us. It is HARD to distance ourselves from relationships, sometimes it HURTS other times we CAN and SHOULD just walk away.
I'm sorry you are going through this Nik; you deserve better. Loving yourself and taking care of YOU and the DIVAS is the right thing to do.
I'm sorry you are going through this Nik; you deserve better. Loving yourself and taking care of YOU and the DIVAS is the right thing to do.
Proximal RNY Lap - 02/21/05
9 years committed ~ 100% EWL and Maintaining
www.dazzlinglashesandbeyond.com
I'm so sorry you have to go through that with your mom. Reading this, though - I really like the way you are handling it. Its proof that you have come a long way in how you deal with things, right?
About your kids - I like your attitude. I have one overweight child. I struggle with it. I so don't want her to grow up with my weight issues, but I also don't want to pass on any insecurities to her. Its a hard road. She eats for comfort, and she eats horrible food when she has the chance. (I don't keep much of the way of anything unhealthy in my house, but when we go out or she is at friends homes she eats what she wants.)
About your kids - I like your attitude. I have one overweight child. I struggle with it. I so don't want her to grow up with my weight issues, but I also don't want to pass on any insecurities to her. Its a hard road. She eats for comfort, and she eats horrible food when she has the chance. (I don't keep much of the way of anything unhealthy in my house, but when we go out or she is at friends homes she eats what she wants.)
(((HUGS))) You are a great person. With high regard to your mother.
If I recall, this is the same person who served you and your children fried chicken with all the fixings in the past. If she is so distraught - she would not do that. Mother or not, with history like that between the 2 of you - I would let her have it. That and more.
Are you sure you are not a saint? Kidding.
You have a lot of tolerance for that. Or she trained you so well... she verbally abuses you and you still doing things for her... over and over and over... I know.... family... been there...
(((HUGS)))
If I recall, this is the same person who served you and your children fried chicken with all the fixings in the past. If she is so distraught - she would not do that. Mother or not, with history like that between the 2 of you - I would let her have it. That and more.
Are you sure you are not a saint? Kidding.
You have a lot of tolerance for that. Or she trained you so well... she verbally abuses you and you still doing things for her... over and over and over... I know.... family... been there...
(((HUGS)))
Hala. RNY 5/14/2008; Happy At Goal =HAG
"I can eat or do anything I want to - as long as I am willing to deal with the consequences"
"Failure is not falling down, It is not getting up once you fell... So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again...."
in regards to your lil divas... when they get older, could they get WLS as my big babygirl did? Does your insurance cover it as mine did? She went to children's obesity camp for like 4 summers, did their obesity clinic and studies... then after takign growth plates and xrays to make sure she'd finished growing they covered it.. it's just that it was an exclusion at that particular job... till the FBI says it was a go.. and so I transferred everything
Babygirl got her surgery March 3rd... 
She's from 339 to 200 as of 6/14/2012.. SOO proud of my bigbabygirl 
She's from 339 to 200 as of 6/14/2012.. SOO proud of my bigbabygirl 
Wow, you are truly an impressive woman. You handled it perfectly and I literally laughed out loud about the Frosty......Great lesson to share with us all. Thank you.
HW: 328 GW: 164 CW: 159 Height - 5' 8"
GOAL REACHED 12/15/2012!!!!!!!!!
RNY Surgery Date: 6/21/11
LBL/BL - 11/6/2012 Arm Lift with Abdominal Lipo - 12/11/2012 - Dr. Paul PIn
Love me without restriction, trust me without fear, want me without demand and accept me for who I am. 
- unknown -
Oh I can so relate with you. Why are they like that? My mom has never had any type of addiction problems other than the "it's all about her syndrome", so I can't relate to that but the rest of it....YES! I find myself NOT talking to her for the same reason because regardless of what is going on with me, she will find a way to relate it back to her and a problem that she has that I obviously could careless about according to her. Wish I had words of wisdom to help but I can't because I can't fix my own problem! LOL Take a deep breathe. You are and have done a great job! Take care of Nik and the divas. 
Tonya
HW: 274 PreOp Diet: 271 Surgery: APRIL 25, 2011
I love my new life!!!
HW: 274 PreOp Diet: 271 Surgery: APRIL 25, 2011
I love my new life!!!
All I have to say is.... THANK GOD YOU DIDN'T MOVE IN WITH HER when you were debating it a while ago. Not only for your sake, but especially the Diva's! Don't let her or anyone else get your down... pretend you have a bubble all around you when she talks to you and anything negative just bounces right off you... You do not have to allow any of her negativeness get through!
RNY Maintenance"Create your day"
Most Active
Recent Topics
