I hate surgery wars. Why do people have to push push push push their surgery. I think there are three very good surgery options for WLS. One I really don't think is good but if people decide to have it then that is their decision. I think it is important to learn as much as you can about the differet surgeries but seriously....surgery wars just tire me and irritate me beyond all belief.

I agree with you I find it irritating.  I don't mind people downing the band because the stats are just terrible for long term success.  I think people need to just put the facts out there and let those considering surgery decide for themselves.  Don't shove your preference of surgery down someone's throat.  

I see what you mean. I always say whatever works for you. Surgery like most things in life aren't "one size fits all." Everyone needs to decide what they are willing to live with long term.

I don't think when people speak about surgeries they shouldn't use generalizations. I would approach is like this......I chose RNY because and I didn't feel like VSG, Lapband, etc...... was for me because of XYZ reasons.......The journey is going to be different for everyone and our successes cannot be measured all the same way......Therefore, everyone should seek the best option for themselves......which is part of the journey

 You will find people that like to push their beliefs on others in every corner no matter the topic.  I just don't open those threads anymore. I choice what I choice based on my life and will never tell someone else their choice is wrong since I do not live their life.

actually cheryl it is hard to do that on the main boards. someone will post something about having a bit of difficulty with their particular surgery and those that are against that particular surgery will crawl out of the woodwork like rabid maggots coming in for the kill. They will say- we told you do, and did you know BLAH BLAH BLAH.

I know what you mean by surgery wars. I chose mine because it was the one I felt best about- I didn't chose the others because well didn't feel good about those and to be honest don't have enough long term research out there......

Totally OT here, but I just have to say that your avatar is absolutely adorable!

dealing with a surgery war is actually quie simple.  Don't read them!

People will always try to push their ideas on people it happens every where not just here.  If you get frustrated with them just stay out of them or have a good laugh at how high schoolish adults can actually be.

Dittos to what Paul said!

It has the potential, reading all the surgery war posts, to make one doubt themselves and the decisions we have made, even if we have been tremendously successful and that can be harmful to our progress.  A few months ago, I had myself convinced that I should have had the DS and that my RNY was somehow going to turn on me and I would have tremendous complications that would ultimately lead to failure.  Then I sat myself down and did a little research.   I laid out all the pros and cons--availability, insurance, BMI, co-morbitities, etc. and came back to the fact that I made the best choice for me, at the time and given my personal cir****tances.  Long term is unknown but long term RNY is much more acceptable and a lot less frightening than long term morbid obesity.  I am happy with it all and hopefully I will take care of myself well enough to utilize this tool to the max.  Plus, it's not like I can un-ring that bell!  So long story short, if I open a topic and I see that a surgery war is brewing, I hit the back button and come to the comfort of my RNY forum.

I can undertand a "pro xxxx surgery" if you're on the xxxx forum. But to go onto another surgery specific forum and post your biased views on another type of surgery is another issue that is troublesome to many.  I had RNY surgery and view only the RNY, Main, and CA forum, as that's where I live. The final decision should be between the pateint and the surgeon.  The patient should inform themselves as much as possible ahead of time, so they can ask appropriate questions. DAVE