Surgery in 11 days and he leaves now?

Hi Ginger,

I can totally relate to what you are going through, it is hard to be married or in any relationship that is not equal.  If he is not there for you in the roughest times - divorce, or no divorce - he doesn't deserve your love.  I can only imagine things that are going through your mind and I hope you know all of us ladies are there for you!    Life is too short and I am glad we all have made the first decision to take back our lives. 

Good luck on your surgery. 

-Lisa

I hear that!  What's the saying? If he's not there for your worst times, he doesn't deserve you at your best times?  Something like that.. anyway, I believe it 100%.  Today, things are a bit clearer and I'm looking forward to and concentrating on my new life to come.  I refuse to let him be the center of my attention any longer. 

Thanks for your comments, I appreciated them.
Ginger

Wow...what a jackass.   How are your kids handeling all of this?

Short, simple and to the point! And uhhh pretty honest if you ask me.  He is a jackass!
My kids are coping.  My oldest one (16) is having a hard time and is crying off and on.  The two youngest ones (7 and 8) took it hard and cried for about 20 minutes but other then that.... sadly, I think everyone is enjoying the quiet, tension-free, stress-free home today. 

Thanks for asking!
Ginger

Hi Ginger,
I work in Lehigh Acres and live in Estero/Bonita Springs.
I can releate to you due to the fact that I my ex and I seperated 6 weeks after I had my surgey.
I had my surgery August 2009 and almost 2 years later it has turned out to be the best thing that could of happened for me.
If you would like, I can give you my email and phone number.

Good Luck,
Patti

Hi Patti,
I appreciate you commenting.  I live in Lehigh Acres and have had a horrible time finding a job since moving here 2 years ago.  I know if I had a job, I would be able to at least have some friends.  It's hard being out here without anyone that I know.  Seriously, been here 2 years and I know all of 3 people on my block and two women at church.  None of them are overly friendly and I've tried so hard.  I'm just struggling here.  I think that's probably part of all of this, somehow and it's definitely not helping any.  

You look like you've had great success in your journey and I look forward to being where you are in a few years!! 

I tried to email you through OH but for some reason it didn't allow it.  If you'd like to email me, please do.  

Thanks for your comments, it always helps to be reminded others have been where you are today... and survived!

Ginger

What a d-bag..I am so sorry you are having to go through this! The good thing though is that you are taking care of YOU and doing what needs to be done for YOURSELF. Stay strong and best of luck to you!

Yes, yes he is!!  I'll make it through and I'll make it through better off!!  He has NO Idea what motivation he just gave me.  I WILL get through this and I WILL be happy and I would be willing to bet he'll kick himself in the pants for not having treated me better.  

Thanks for your kind words,
Ginger

He sounds like a schmuck.  I wonder if it is because he knows you will be healthier and less dependent on him.  Good luck - glad Mom is there for you.

I agree... he's being a bit of a butthead at the moment.  Hell, who am I trying to kid? He's been a butthead for years.... maybe even since birth!

I do think you're right though... he's seeing happier and healthier days ahead for me and I think he's scared. 

Thanks!
Ginger