"You'll probably never get married..." (men's thoughts?)

I cannot for the life of me imagine what kind of person would have the audacity to say something like that, but I personally think that your brain is wonderful. The fact that you share so much of it with this community speaks volumes to your desire to help others. It's also admirable that you continue to develop it via education. Why would/should that intimidate anyone, especially a potential suitor? I'm in my 40's and in my opinion (since you asked) is that strong, intelligent, well spoken women are sexy. So keep your eyes open because I'm sure there is someone out there just waiting for the opportunity to enjoy you and your intellect equally.

Jim

I asked my husband (who is 42 BTW) and he said that was crazy. I have to agree. I find that men these days find an intelligent woman sexy. I think you will have no problem getting married. My MIL got married for the 1st time @ 50 and she is a very intelligent woman.

I think that "most" people want a mate with similar education/intelligence for conversation purposes. Now that being said, my dad never finished high school but, he was a very intelligent man. He was knowledgeable in many area's b/c he spent all of his free time reading.

Personally, I love reading your responses b/c you are so helpful, full of knowledge and funny to boot!

I think any man would be lucky to have you! You have a good head on your shoulders and know how to assert yourself when need be! The only ones who will be afraid of you aren't worth having because they're likely the control freaks!

Thanks to all for the feedback.  I agree with everything people said (and have never been one to worry about what men thought of my "brain"... I have always had a very low tolerance for smart girls/women who pretended NOT to be in order to attract (or not scare off) boys/men), but I guess this was just a bad time to hear this.  The man from the relationship I broke off about a year after I had surgery recently got married... and didn't even have the courtesy to tell me himself... so I think maybe I'm feeling a little insecure about the subject.  Being 40+ and single is EASY to explain when you weigh over 300 pounds, but less easy to "explain" at a normal weight.

I do now wonder about the person who said it, though... whether SHE is feeling insecure (or jealous?) and the comment was a way to try to bring me down. She's quite bright but only attended college for a year before getting pregnant and married (in whichever order, LOL).

Lora

HA!! I knew it was a woman that said that to you!! Yes she is jealous of you Lora.. you are a double threat to her.. before you were her fat smart friend.. now you are her thin beautiful smart friend... you have both and she is jealous!

Personally I have two Masters and I have NEVER dated a man that said anything or indicated in any way that I was intimidating to him.  I was married for 13 yrs to a professional educated man.. and after divorcing him until I met my current boyfriend lets just say I dated ALOT all walks of life, from a CFO of a major Boston hospital to a gutter cleaner (No I'm not joking LOL he was from Columbia and so fine with his six pack and sexy accent LOL)  You will find the right guy that loves you for who you are!  I think most men find intelligent women very sexy!   My boyfriend is a landscaper and because of family problems never graduated high school but he's incredibly intelligent. I don't judge people based on their education or lack of and I sure hope I'm not being judged based on mine. Your degree is an amazing accomplishment you should be proud of.  I hope to go back to school when my kids are older, there are so many things to learn!!  You should never let anyone look down thier nose at you Lora, you are too good for that! 

I would say she is definitely projecting her fears onto you. Weather she is jealous or not, she is certainly projecting.
 
You're going to be absolutely fine in the relationship department! Concentrate on your education and the rest will fall into place when you least expect it!

T.

I married my wife even though I was a lowly BA in Math and she had an MBA.  It never even entered my mind.  Why would any man want a stupid wife?  BTW we were 31 when we met (and got married 5 weeks later - 24 years ago). 

I had a double major for my B.A. and one of them was Math (the other was Classics... Latin and Greek languages, and ancient history, literature, philosophy, etc.)...

Lora

Sounds to me like you are a catch!!

I don't believe that. There are self-confident men out there who are not intimidated by our brains. Let me ask you, this, are your expectations too high? I mean if the very nice but nerdy, slightly balding guy down the street asked you out, would you give him a chance? I think sometimes we focus in on a "type" and need to broaden our horizons.

I think my boyfriend is sexy as hell, but other people looking at him definitely do not see what I see and sadly I get asked quite often why I am dating him. We were best friends for years before we started dating. I did not think he was attractive when I first met him, but the more I got to know him, the more attractive he became. He's also 50 pounds heavier now than when we met. Again, I still think he is sexy.

Hope my narcotic induced rant is making sense. I should probably go to bed now....

Laura