Random Poll o' the Week: the strange habits of non-ops...

Yep, I always did that. Diet coke and Giant size value meal. I used to worry the employees were inside laughting. Never again!

I would always panic when seated in a booth. I say a table and my daughter begs for a booth, gee, what's the attraction?

I had a great moment. Went to pick someone up at the airport and guess what I fit in the chair with my purse next to me in the same chair. It was such a great feeling.

 My favorite non-op moment is when my brother tells me something that would good (or okay) for me to eat when we go out to dinner and I am scanning the menu and seeing what substitions I can make. He always tells me stuff that is horribly bad for me, but thinks it's good for me... like mashed potatoes. Last this happened I asked him, "So when did you have gastric bypass surgery?"

When non-ops say they are dieting and then get something like a huge slurpee at 7-11 all the while complaining about how fat they are when they are actually very skinny or at a healthy weight.

My worst ever non-op moment is when someone who may be overweight (but only by 20 to 50 pounds) tells me about how they wish they could get the surgery so they could get their weight off and how easy that would be. This actually happened to be in the OR when I went in for my pre-surgery endoscopy. (Umm... no, you really don't want the surgery and no, it isn't easy.)

Once a month at my job we have a "potluck" at our weekly supervisor meeting. Last month it was Chinese. Since I am pre-op I was able to eat, just some of the chicken and broccoli since I am trying to lose - but I just sat there, borderline nauseated as I watched the people across from me eat - the snarfing, smacking, chewing, inhaling and "MUST. EAT. NOW. " atmosphere certainly served as a good appetite suppressant for me!

Damn! This is the best poll you've ever done!

Here's mine (and it takes a loooooot for anything to bother me so when I say these, they really do bother me that much):

- my gym that offers good,healthy RTDs..but they also make "from scratch" shakes, too, and they provide nutritional info -- um, seriously, the best one they had was 370 calories and 68 grams of sugar!

- the one or two trainers who drink one of the above mentioned shakes while working with clients.

- the skinny ******es who get a candy bar, ice cream, icee, etc. and eat about a fourth of it and can just leave it and say "i'm full" OR leave like 5 bites of food on their plate..KILLS ME! I'm such a member of the clean plate club which is why I use a small plate so i can still manage to do that.

- those who see me and are like "whoa, you look amazing! I need to have that done!" Um, yep, like surgery did all the work. Naaah, I don't do anything to help it along...

Those are my tops....

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People just get on my last damn nerve in general, lol.  However, non ops can really piss me off with their ignorant anti wls comments accompanied by behavior that promotes obesity or is aimed at shaking your self esteme and self confidence.  Here's a few:

"Well like you have to eat less after surgery anyway so like why not skip the surgery and just like eat less. " This while they continually push food at you be it at home gatherings or in resturants with huge portions. 

"You never really needed surgery cause you know you coulda just gone on a diet and exercised.  Calories in, calories out.... " This while passive aggresively attempting to sabatage your past diets; your pre op diet; and your post op succes by offering you foods they know are not part of your plan. 

"When you're full just stop eating"  This while readily acknowledging alcoholics and drug addicts can't help themselve but you should be superhuman when it comes to your food adiction. 

"I think you looked better before surgery"  This while in the past having made comments about your weight and how you would looke if you lost weight; having questioning your ability to get dates and fit in social circles because you were fat; having applied fat, gluttonous, and lazy stereotyps to you despite knowing how you really are. 

Sometimes I really really dislike people..

The one thing that irks me to no end--and I just don't understand at all is when non-ops who can stand to lose a few pounds complain out loud about how fat they are and how much they want to lose weight--all while eating fried fish, mac n cheese, chicken tenders, etc. why complain if your not doing anything about it?  I never complained about being fat--because I wasnt doing anything to lose weight!

The gym I was going to until about 4 months after my surgery did pizza night the first tuesday of the month  & bagels the first wend morning of the month.

REALLY!!!  is that even neccessary so either your walking in/out or excersizeing next to a big pile of boxed up carbs.  I stopped going to the Gym on Pizza night.  (Eventually found a more fun way to work out and stopped going all together.)

 I am super new at this but there have been a few comments that have made me stop and think WTF....

1. I work with 2 very, very heavy people, much heavier then I ever was.  When they found out that I had the surgery they began to list the 100 reasons why they won't get it done, "oh my aunts, friends, cousin's, sister's, son's, co-workers mother-in-law died from that, so I don't want to take the chance"  But you will continue to be 400lbs and that WON"T kill you?  Ok?  

2. A very thin friend likes to "watch" me eat, checking on my portions and commenting all the time on how that just isn't enough food to live on.  I just tell her that I had enough food post surgery to last a life time!

3. And I just hate naturally skinny people who can push the plate away when they are full....no reason for the hate just jealous I guess.

This is a fun post! :) Thanks for asking!! 

1) I fricken can't stand when I go to a restaraunt and tell the waiter/waitress that I don't want anything to drink not even water and they look at me like I have three heads! Then constantly ask me throughout the meal, "are you sure you don't want anything to drink??"

What is it to them??? 

2) I hate when people tell me about a friend that had WLS and then regained all or some of their weight... 
This drives me nuts for a couple of reasons...
A.) It sounds like they are scruitinzing and judging the person that had the surgery. 
B.) It is like they are saying, you know that is going to happen to you. 

 

The women I work with that weigh 100lbs and tell me how fat they are,  One of these days I am going to say do you want to see FAT and lift my shirt and show them my belly.lol    At least while I can I am in the beginning phase of WLS.