When is this going to get better?

 Please don't flame me. I don't think I can take it.

I am a strong person. Or feel like I was before I had the surgery. Since the surgery I am sick all the time and just having such a hard time. I can't eat that many different things and I can only drink hot tea and even that makes me sick a lot. I know I have been posting a lot and whining a lot I just feel so lost and scared. What if it never gets better? What if I reach my goal but deppression is all I can focus on? Whst if I will never be comfortable again? I want to live comfortably and eat so I'm not sick or dehydrated. Sometimes I just want to go back before I ever did this. Sometimes I want to call my surgeon and ask for a reversal. I don't even know if I can do that. I just need some encouragement and I need to know that people understand. I knew this would be hard but I just couldn't prepare myself for how hard it would be.

I cannot say that I know how you feel, because I was one of the lucky ones who had no trouble eating or drinking after surgery... and was on soft foods day 3 . (I did struggle with post-op depression, though.)  What I can tell you, however, is that in all the time I have been here on OH, I have never seen -- or even heard of -- anyone who did not feel better eventually.  For some it was a couple of weeks, for some it was a month, for some it was two months.... but it will NOT last forever.  If the depression continues, you might want to consider asking your physician about antidepressants for a few months until your hormones calm down.

Hang in there.

Lora

Oh Honey,

I am so sorry you are feeling this way.  Just know this:  there is light at the end of the tunnel.  In the begining I think most people stuggle with the feeling sick and difficult with different foods.  As long as you follow your surgeons and NUTs eating and drinking plans, you will be ok.  It is a tough journey in the begining, but it is so worth it.  I am 11 months out and after about the 3 month mark I started to feel much better.

Remember you need at least 60g of Protein and 64 oz of water/liquid.  Concentrate first on the protein and the liquids will eventually come.

Good luck

Christy

I had my surgery on 1/24 and I am just now starting to really feel better...able to eat without acid reflux, nausea, or throwing up.  IT WILL GET BETTER!  I felt the same way for the 1st month post-op.  Ugh!  What had I gotten myself into!  I really think that is normal.  Everything you knew about eating has been thrown out the window.  As the days go by there will be new little hiccups, but they, too, shall pass.  I have not been depressed, but I have been told it is very normal.  In fact, my family doctor recommended to go to a psychiatrist.  You may want to think about that.  Our brains have been through a lot!

Keep the faith...take it one day at a time...and those days turn into weeks and months.  Have you started working out?  That may also help with your depression.  Just walking 15 minutes a day does wonders!

Good luck!

 I can honestly say I completely understand how you feel!  Feel free to read my profile.  I am on of the unlucky ones that has had several complications.  I am 8 years post op and sometimes I feel like it has never gotten better.  But I remember it has, and who knows what the future would have been like had I never had the surgery!  One of my biggest regrets along my journey was focusing too much on my complications and not working on the reasons I was overweight to begin with.  Then when the complications got better, it just hit me and I was even more depressed and scared!  Hang in there, it can get better!

Stephanie E

 I had a lot of the same problems you did. Eventually it went from throwing up to just being nauseous constantly. I was miserable and never wanted to eat and serious depression was setting in. Especially the day I dumped really badly after eating out and had a break down. Feeling better and 'normal' hit me suddenly one day. It didn't seem like a gradual process at all. One day I woke up and just felt wonderful! I still have a few things like occasional nausea and discomfort but it's all managable. It'll come faster if you just keep fighting and don't let yourself get down. Get all your water down and eat what and when you can. You can do it!

You likely have a stricture, did you see the link I posted!? 

You need to call and be a burr on his butt and tell him you can't keep ANYTHING down....seriously, call him NOW

and if he tells you it's nothing, call him in the MORNING and in the evening and all weekend long

He needs to pay ATTENTION to you..... strictures can develop as early as NINE days according to the study I posted..... so you need to get a scope.

It WILL get better, I promise

I agree with Lady Lithia!!!

You're LESS than a month out of surgery!?! It's going to tak a good 3 months to get "better", this is major surgery, not a "outpaitient" easy surgery...But more along the line of open cardiac surgery.

Stop trying to "force" everything and hoping to wake up "thin and healthy"...It takes about a YEAR and hard work. Simple as that.

Good luck.
Warmly,
Jackie

Does your surgeon know that you are unable to keep anything down? You most be careful not to get dehydrated.