Just had Surgery Done..mixed feelings..please help
California Mom,
I apologize if I offended you in any way. I certainly had no intention of making people as angry as they have become. I just try to analyze things from various perspectives. I always encourage people not to shoot the messenger.
As an old friend of mine used to say, "at some point in life you have to eat the fish and spit out the bones." This will most likely be one of those times for you. In the end, you will know the right move to make and you will make all of your decisions based on what is in the best interests of you and your family.
I wish you every success and total physical and emotional healing as a result of the ordeal that you have been through.
I apologize if I offended you in any way. I certainly had no intention of making people as angry as they have become. I just try to analyze things from various perspectives. I always encourage people not to shoot the messenger.
As an old friend of mine used to say, "at some point in life you have to eat the fish and spit out the bones." This will most likely be one of those times for you. In the end, you will know the right move to make and you will make all of your decisions based on what is in the best interests of you and your family.
I wish you every success and total physical and emotional healing as a result of the ordeal that you have been through.
HW 240/ SW 229/ GW 146/CW 125; OH Support Group Leader
Starting size: 18W-20; Present size: 0 or 2; 5'5-1/2" tall.
Current BMI 20.4 as of 2/13/2013 (normal for the first time in my life).
Goal weight reached on 8/12/2010; As of 1/13/2013, 21 pounds below goal
From my surgeon's blog:
"As a surgeon, one of my duties is to discuss Informed Consent. There are two components to this: One aspect of this is the consent part. This is where discussion of risks, benefits, and complications takes place. It is also where options are discussed. A patient cannot give a consent if it is not informed and this is the second component. A consent is not informed if the patient was not provided with all the options and details."
I honestly don't think the "consent" your husband gave is valid because I very much doubt he actually had the knowledge necessary to make such a decision on your behalf. Did he actually know the differences between the surgeries? Had you two discussed your preferences beforehand?
Get yourself a lawyer.
"As a surgeon, one of my duties is to discuss Informed Consent. There are two components to this: One aspect of this is the consent part. This is where discussion of risks, benefits, and complications takes place. It is also where options are discussed. A patient cannot give a consent if it is not informed and this is the second component. A consent is not informed if the patient was not provided with all the options and details."
I honestly don't think the "consent" your husband gave is valid because I very much doubt he actually had the knowledge necessary to make such a decision on your behalf. Did he actually know the differences between the surgeries? Had you two discussed your preferences beforehand?
Get yourself a lawyer.
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on 12/6/09 5:43 am - TN
on 12/6/09 5:43 am - TN
Hello CaliforniaMom
I am so sorry to read about what happened! But it is best to have a positive outlook on things. You are alive and well and I am sure that the RNY will work for you. Just follow your guidelines and you should be on track to lose weight.
Welcome to the forum!
I am so sorry to read about what happened! But it is best to have a positive outlook on things. You are alive and well and I am sure that the RNY will work for you. Just follow your guidelines and you should be on track to lose weight.
Welcome to the forum!
Hello! I understand you are upset and you have a right to be. I would talk to your surgeon and have him explain to you (again, if necessary) what precluded him from doing the DS and why he did the RNY instead. Did you 2 talk about perhaps him not being able to do the DS and maybe having to do the RNY instead?
Next, ask yourself...... if he could NOT do the DS because of scar tissue, would you have wanted him to abort the surgery, wake you up and tell you that he hadn't done it? That's the alternative. I haven't been in your position, but I think if I was, I'd prefer to have a RNY if that would be my other choice. Just because its MY choice, doesn't mean it would have been yours. Just food for thought.
Next, ask yourself...... if he could NOT do the DS because of scar tissue, would you have wanted him to abort the surgery, wake you up and tell you that he hadn't done it? That's the alternative. I haven't been in your position, but I think if I was, I'd prefer to have a RNY if that would be my other choice. Just because its MY choice, doesn't mean it would have been yours. Just food for thought.
Poof, there goes another pound
~~~ ~~ ~ Barbara, wavin' from the Jersey Shore ~~~ ~~ ~
~~~ ~~ ~ Barbara, wavin' from the Jersey Shore ~~~ ~~ ~
Did you sign papers that said if he felt that the DS was not an option then he could deviate to the RNY?
What test did he give you prior to surgery?
If he had issues he could have done and ultrasound prior to you going under the knife, and then let you know what he could do for you.
Sounds like he let you slip through the cracks.
I would not be a bit happy if My surgeon would have giving me a band if i was scheduled for rny.
what if you would have had complications during the surgery cutting your stomach up into pieces and redirecting your intestines is a lot different than rolling it up like a sausage.
What test did he give you prior to surgery?
If he had issues he could have done and ultrasound prior to you going under the knife, and then let you know what he could do for you.
Sounds like he let you slip through the cracks.
I would not be a bit happy if My surgeon would have giving me a band if i was scheduled for rny.
what if you would have had complications during the surgery cutting your stomach up into pieces and redirecting your intestines is a lot different than rolling it up like a sausage.
"When we stop running away from the situation that is scary - that is the moment we discover how strong we really are. So, acknowledge your strength...rejoice in it...and start breathing in life, as the beautiful, strong soul (being) that you truly are." - Rachna Sirtaj.......Love & Peace
Hello Again;
I appreciate all your comments and have decided to consult with my Doctor and see from there. One of the main reasons why I wanted the Duodenal switch was the dumping factor.
I will be gathering my documents; but most importantly; letting my insurance know what is going on..just in case.
Thanks for all your support. I don't mean to cause any drama...I realize a lot of people have their own different opinions. And I appreciate all of them.
I will keep you all updated to my progress...
I appreciate all your comments and have decided to consult with my Doctor and see from there. One of the main reasons why I wanted the Duodenal switch was the dumping factor.
I will be gathering my documents; but most importantly; letting my insurance know what is going on..just in case.
Thanks for all your support. I don't mean to cause any drama...I realize a lot of people have their own different opinions. And I appreciate all of them.
I will keep you all updated to my progress...
I know that this sucks in general... but do not think that all RNYrs dump... I do not at all. I cannot tell you of my indescretions with food this past week!!! I just wanted to say that to help you feel a little better about what is going on!!
Regardless of what you decide to do, you will have people here to talk to!
Regardless of what you decide to do, you will have people here to talk to!
I agree with the others that you should consult a lawyer. You may like your surgeon - we really have to like and trust the person we choose to rearrange our systems - but I think his judgment was **** poor. You may decide not to pursue any legal action, and that is totally your choice, but I think it's good to get it on the record that this happened and allow a medical review board or the hospital the opportunity to discipline or at the very least, counsel your surgeon.
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