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Fire the judgey therapist. We aren't all judgey I promise.
Eating at night is a big sign of emotion regulation or what we call low distress tolerance. That isn't necessarily your fault, actually, but, well, goodness look at what's been going on. That is awful...I am so sorry for your loss.
My rule is we don't take things away without replacing them. Instead of eating, could you do something else? Don't laugh, but there are weighted blankets great for anxiety and PTSD that are very comforting. some people will hug them or wrap themselves in them. Have hobbies or things to keep your hands busy...things you enjoy which are not eating. I have had PTSD and nightmares so I get it...they suck, and they don't really care that I don't want to scarf donuts. If you absolutely have to eat, and yeah I feel you on the protein, have alternatives and ditch the rest. I had to be ruthless because I literally would eat anything when I had similar issues. Now I don't keep any at home because I can't. I have to get a hysterectomy within the next year or so myself.
There is nothing I can say to make things better, because they are awful, but I can say that you have made it through a lot. It may not seem like you can ever have relief from anxiety, however that doesn't mean tomorrow you won't.
The one thing I will say: be kind to yourself above all else. you deserve kindness and compassion, esp. from yourself.
You are not a bad person who is choosing to shoot themselves in the butt. You are not an eff-up. You are not terrible. You are suffering, and frankly anyone who doesn't get the power of comfort when we are suffering, especially a therapist, should hush up.
My sister had the same issues regarding sleep. We read some articles about the weighted and magic blankets. We also checked some videos. I didn't trust a piece of blanket can recover you from insomnia. But dramatically it helped my 24 years old sister. She was suffering since last 2-3 years. I won't say a weighted blanket will fully recover you from insomnia or sleep-related issues. But it will help you in another way. Take my words.
Sources I read,
https://tonic.vice.com/en_us/article/qve9kb/the-blanket-that s-heavy-with-promises-of-perfect-sleep
https://www.webmd.com/sleep-disorders/news/20180402/seeking- better-sleep-under-a-weighted-blanket
https://pushtofitness.com/weighted-blanket-for-adults-guide/
I'll just say this right up front. There are not going to be many success stories from folks who've gone from proximal to distal. It's a pretty awful surgery frankly and one that I wouldn't encourage for anyone. You'll be lucky to lose maybe 30ish pounds and you're sure to more than offset that positive with increased vitamin malabsorption. For life.
But I'm not your surgeon and don't know your situation. You may be the exception to the rule and it will work for you. If your surgeon is recommending this particular revision, they should be able to give you a more than adequate list of pros and cons and I'd start there.
Can I ask why you are revising? Because that makes all of the difference. If you're revising for any other reason than mechanical failure, be aware that you'll be forced to face down the regain monster eventually. There just aren't that many options out there.
Also you might consider posting this question in the RnY Forum for more traffic.
Good luck finding the right course of action for your body.
I am being scheduled for a revision surgery in June, he will fix my hiatal hernia, as my stomach is up in my chest, he will fix the obstruction at the distal end of my pouch and revise my pouch. Looks like a big surgery for me. Please research and find a surgeon that is VERY knowledgeable in revisions.. my doctor is, he told me that there are only two surgeons in the state that I live it that would even touch me and he is the one I found my lots of research. Good luck.
I feel for you 
Our stories are so close. I had lapband 2008 and had it removed 2009.rny was in January 16th of this year.mine pouch started closing about 2 weeks ago out of the blue. i have been in the hospital and er 3 to 4 times.exactly the same on everything else.broth is really getting old and it has to be thin not thick .just remember that there is somebody else that feels just like you.i will also do the same.Pain and discomfort can make you go crazy and isolated.no body truly understands what we are going thru right now.the feeling in our bodies now are not like anything that can be described.
Does anyone have any success stories, Pros and Cons?
"For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways," declares the Lord. "As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts" (Isaiah 55:8-9, NIV). 
Hi, I've had sleeve since 2011 but am having loads of heartburn and reflux and annoying belching.
i will be having an EGD next week and my surgeon said depending on the results I may be eligible to revise to bypass.
Would this be a wise decision? My BMI is 30. Would it help me lose more weight? What are pros/cons to revising and what will be biggest change for me in going from Sleeve to bypass?
I would be so appreciative of any info you can provide! Thanks!
I was sleeved in 2012. Lost all my weight and maintained for a number of years. I began getting severe GERD. I went to the gastro who did an endoscopy and told me to go see my surgeon. I reluctantly agreed to surgery about 1 year later.
It has helped the GERD. I went from 4 PPI meds to 1 a day. I occasionally have an attack which awakens me at night with burning and difficulty breathing as the acid begins to infiltrate my lungs. However, the constant coughing and sounding as though I have laryinjitis is gone.
As stated above, only you and your surgeon can decide if this is the best surgery for you. Honestly, I really did not want the revision but given the alternative of possible changes in my esophagus I did what I had to do.
It is a very different surgery experience than the sleeve for me. I developed food aversions something I never had with VSG. My pouch is small and I can only eat small amounts. I have lost some weight but it is very different than the original surgery. Weight is not falling off at all. I do want to lose 30 pounds and it is coming off slow with many stalls.
Wishing you all the best in whatever decision you make. Keep us updated.
oops. Revised Sleeve to RNY due to GERD.
Thanks for catching it
Hala. RNY 5/14/2008; Happy At Goal =HAG
"I can eat or do anything I want to - as long as I am willing to deal with the consequences"
"Failure is not falling down, It is not getting up once you fell... So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again...."
Some patients get revised to sleeve when they deal with uncontrolled GERD.
Or regain. But - IMO - only a few regains are due to metabolic issues, most are due to overeating, or eating the wrong foods (carbs, too much, etc)). In the second case - Sleeve or RNY - they would have regained regardless what surgery they had.
Hala. RNY 5/14/2008; Happy At Goal =HAG
"I can eat or do anything I want to - as long as I am willing to deal with the consequences"
"Failure is not falling down, It is not getting up once you fell... So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again...."
