Jealous of my best friend
My best friend of 26 years had RNY at the end of september. She is doing awesome, shes lost like 40+ lbs already, and you can drastically see it. I'm jealous! I wasnt like that in the begining of my RNY.I know everyone is different, somes lose fastet then others.. But why me? Why did my complications happen? It doesn't feel fair.
I want to be happy for her I do, its awesome shes getting healthy. But I can't shake this feeling of jealousy and unfairness
I feel like a horrible person.I've actually avoided this past month.I just don't think I can handle seeing her. I know my revision is close and I need her. But I just don't think I can handle it. Is this normal? I keep telling myself to get over it shes your best friend the one who has been with you through thick and thin, no pun...
I feel horrible, we should be closer now then ever, yet it feels we are farther apart now.Any advice please?
on 10/27/12 2:23 am, edited 10/27/12 2:24 am - WA
It's okay to feel what you are feeling, they are your feelings. You will probably do very well on the DS it will be your second chance. I was like you I lost 60 pounds and stopped at 9 months although I was trying no more would come off. I have gained back all of my weight. My insurance approves another surgery but I went to 3 surgeons who promptly refused to do one because my pouch is still small. I feel no restriction or pain or dumping so I pretty much have to watch it on my own. Now I am trying to just diet and exercise as if I never had the surgery. So, in short ...........I am jealous of you.............
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I am 4 years out from a proximal RNY
Muzzled,
Have you by chance, sent your records on to Dr. Keshishan or Dr. Roslin, to have them individually review your small pouch issue, and to give you a fair opinion to see if you would be a candidate for an RNY to DS revision?
Just curious......
RNY 2/26/2002 DS 12/29/2011
HW 317 SW 263 BMI 45.1
SW 298 CW 192 BMI 32.9~60% EWL
LW 151 in 2003
TT 4/9/2003
Normal BMI 24.8 is my GOAL!!!
GBP (RNY) 2/26/02 298 lbs, TT 4/9/03 151 lbs, DS 12/29/11
HW 317 SW 263 BMI 45.1/CW 192 BMI 32.9/GW 145 ~ Normal BMI 24.8
**Revision Journey started 3/2009 Approved 12/12/11**
on 10/28/12 3:21 pm - WA
No I have not. Since The travel and stay is going to be a major expense for me (I am on disabilty so the money is a huge issue)I am trying to save the money I would need (should take about a year) and while I am doing that I am dieting and increasing my exercise. If I am successful at losing it by calorie counting then I will just let the savings sit in the bank and see how that works out. But I have not given up entirely on the idea and when I am closer to having the money to travel and stay the whole time that his website states then I will send over my records. Thank you so much for thinking about me Jamie that is so nice of you.
You are entitled to feelings, for sure!!!! I sure hope that you can overcome this, and when your revision date rolls along that you are closer to your best friend!!!!!
RNY 2/26/2002 DS 12/29/2011
HW 317 SW 263 BMI 45.1
SW 298 CW 192 BMI 32.9~60% EWL
LW 151 in 2003
TT 4/9/2003
Normal BMI 24.8 is my GOAL!!!
GBP (RNY) 2/26/02 298 lbs, TT 4/9/03 151 lbs, DS 12/29/11
HW 317 SW 263 BMI 45.1/CW 192 BMI 32.9/GW 145 ~ Normal BMI 24.8
**Revision Journey started 3/2009 Approved 12/12/11**
