Common Courtesy

       The "bullies" on here are usually  the most insecure ones.    Why else would somebody enjoy bashing others just to show out and get laughs !!!   If this journey was easy NONE of us would be here much less having WLS.         Yes,  we all know HOW and WHAT to eat but its nice to have a little encouragement every now and then too.    

 And thank you for taking up for me on the other post. 

I too have been bullied here on this forum, because of the revision surgery I want. On the other hand there are many who are very nice, supportable and encouraging revisioners. 

I appreciate you two Chocalate Toy and Ladytazz for being there for me.

 I toltaly agree with you and there seems to be the same people on here that can be condsending and down right mean. If people understand they wouldn't be answering questions. I think if it wasn't for some people on here with the support they give a lot of people that are having a hard time emotionally and health wise would have more problems because they won't have some where that they can go to if they feel scared or have any questions. They don't need people making them feel like a dumb ass for asking something. Glad to see someone else speak out for a change. Most of those people are really just not liking themself or their life.

 Hi Chocolate!  I haven't been following the other posts and also haven't seen any of the nastiness you've mentioned (I'm really glad because I would probably would have to say something...).  Because of all the years of therapy and self examination I've done, I have found that being blunt, although tactful, is the best way to go for me.  I lived in a home where the elephant in the room was never ever acknowledged and I know how devasting it was to my family.  I much prefer open honesty, even if it's uncomfortable.  

So, Thank you!

Aloha, Barb

WOW - just joined this forum - I was hoping for some help and support for my up and coming revision.

Ladies, Please...


Thanks Anyway - I will find support else where.

Ok... Let me start out by saying that I am not taking sides here... I just have been around here for many years lurking and posting... I know that over on the DS board there are some Vets that seem like they are 'mean' but in fact they are trying to help... It has to be very hard to see people that have come to you and ask you questions and you as a vet answer them and the person totally goes against what you say and ends up with a life threatening illness... or worse DEAD....

This has happened... I have been around when it has recently....

I think that we have all been heavy and we all (in one way or another) know what goes into it emotionally... These 'mean' people are the same ones that cheer for you when you succeed and answer the same question over and over again (even if it has been asked a million times)...

IMHO the above should be taken into consideration!

    Your so right ,  these vetts really do answer the same questions over and over and they do know their stuff.     I just hate to see feelings get hurt to those that come in here asking a question and get jumped on.   I can tell u ,  I had NO idea about anything surgery wise  (4 yrs ago****il I found these message boards.   I ended up meeting a very sweet lady from the board and she and I had our surgey done together.   IT was great,  and I made a great friend in the process.     But most of the time newbies here really dont have a clue until they come here and ask questions and read !!    

You cannot win with this one.  some people are just mean to the bone and that i presume permeates every aspect of their lives and personality, so pointing it out just begets more of it.  It is unlikely the people you are referring to, keep their vitriol for these boards, They just are who they are and they seem to like it.  Go figure!

I hear people explain that they're "just trying to help" a lot, but honestly I think many of them could not care less about other people's success.  I think for many of them it is an ego boost to humiliate someone on a message board.  Or maybe belittling people is just a hobby of theirs.  Either way, they don't seem to have any knowledge that can't be gained elsewhere, so over time I've blocked people who are consistently unpleasant.