WHAT or HOW to Say What Needs to be Said
Howdy All,
I am now 6 months post-revision (erny). I am also down BELOW my goal..... 138. Honestly I didn't really want to get below the 140's, but here I am...
I have been ill, as some of you know... Hence, I have lost more weight as of late... lost 8 pounds in just a few days over the past week. My problem is: the CONSTANT BARRAGE OF COMMENTS I get from friends, family, and co-workers..... such as:
"You are WAY TOO SKINNY!!!" or, "You look EMACIATED!!!"
Yes, I got thin quite fast, in my estimation... and my body is just not able to catch up with the weight loss.... the skin sagging is a big part... my upper arms look like empty stretched out bags...they not only sag, but I may almost appear to be quite dehydrated (I do drink)... my veins all stick out on my arms... My face looks a bit 'drawn'... but like I said, I am ill for the past several months also...and so I LOOK sick. At present I have no strength or stamina to use weights or anything to build muscle, if in fact this might help somewhat. Maybe in the future.
What and How can I say (kindly) that may just alleviate some of this skeptical & critical comments??? People make these comments in groups of my co-workers, and I hate to address a personal comment to a group of onlookers.
Sign me: Feeling a bit Skinny-Comment-Phobic
Liz
I am now 6 months post-revision (erny). I am also down BELOW my goal..... 138. Honestly I didn't really want to get below the 140's, but here I am...
I have been ill, as some of you know... Hence, I have lost more weight as of late... lost 8 pounds in just a few days over the past week. My problem is: the CONSTANT BARRAGE OF COMMENTS I get from friends, family, and co-workers..... such as:
"You are WAY TOO SKINNY!!!" or, "You look EMACIATED!!!"
Yes, I got thin quite fast, in my estimation... and my body is just not able to catch up with the weight loss.... the skin sagging is a big part... my upper arms look like empty stretched out bags...they not only sag, but I may almost appear to be quite dehydrated (I do drink)... my veins all stick out on my arms... My face looks a bit 'drawn'... but like I said, I am ill for the past several months also...and so I LOOK sick. At present I have no strength or stamina to use weights or anything to build muscle, if in fact this might help somewhat. Maybe in the future.
What and How can I say (kindly) that may just alleviate some of this skeptical & critical comments??? People make these comments in groups of my co-workers, and I hate to address a personal comment to a group of onlookers.
Sign me: Feeling a bit Skinny-Comment-Phobic
Liz
Congratulations on a successful revision! I'm sorry you have been having health troubles and I really hope they are now behind you.
Here's my suggestion for a comment:
"I know, isn't it cool?" and grin. That should stun them into silence, and you can have a moment of rejoicing in your success rather than focussing on the negative of your current health battles. Positive focusing is always better than negative.
Here's my suggestion for a comment:
"I know, isn't it cool?" and grin. That should stun them into silence, and you can have a moment of rejoicing in your success rather than focussing on the negative of your current health battles. Positive focusing is always better than negative.
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