REASON: A few of you have mentioned you’d like to get together for a dinner. We can sit around, meet each other, share our trials and tribulations and maybe a few laughs. While we want to help each other lose, maybe we can also help each other gain  … a new friend or two (or 5).

 

EVERYONE is invited to come. It doesn’t matter which operation you had, or even if you haven’t had a procedure yet, or maybe you’re just “thinking" about it !! COME and have a good time !!

 

If your apprehensive in attending, let me assure you – you will have a good time. There is NO JUDGING !! We are tolerant of each other’s decisions. In addition, if it means anything, the Food Police are banned from our gathering.

 

Each time we do this, I will try to “move" the location - since no one location will be convenient for everyone.

 

This time we’re in the “Northern" section of the Garden State !!

 

While the date has been confirmed, the location hasn’t (just yet).  

 

Normally we have it at the Park West Diner, in Little Falls NJ. Recently many like having our function in a more “private" section. If you know of an establishment in this general area (Wayne, Pompton, Clifton, Rutherford, etc) that can accommodate about 20 people, and has a private room, please let me know. If not, we’ll be at the Park West Diner.

 

Place:  Park West Diner (TENTATIVE)

Location: 1400 Route 46, Little Falls NJ.

Time: 5:30 p.m.     it is understandable that not everyone can arrive at this time, so come WHENEVER. We probably won’t order until 6:30 p.m..

Menu / Website: http://www.parkwestdiner.com/

 

In the meantime, for the “meeting newbies" here are some meeting request. I hope I don't offend anyone - it's not meant to be that. Just helpful. 

 

(1) If you want a separate check, please let the server know prior to taking the orders. It’s a hassle to ask the server to do this later on. And some places won’t do this if the crowd is too numerous.

 

(2) Usually when we do a group meeting, I like to divide check by the total number of folks at the table, instead of trying to figure out who had what. (If someone brings more than one person, they multiple the total owed by the number of people they have). Now I understand if you only order a coffee and someone else has a Filet Mignon with a 5 lbs Lobster – then we can address that more diplomatically.

 

(3) Please bring CASH (unless you want a separate check). And please make sure you have an assortment of bills. It’s really difficult to make change when everyone brings only 20’s.

 

(4) Bring a CAMERA!! Even if you are like me and camera shy, you’ll still want to take some photos of the folks who are there. I don’t have one or I would.

 

(5) Bring “proof" of your former self. Nothing says “how far you have come" like older photos. Even if you lost only 1 pound, bring your “before" pictures (and at the last meeting we all agree we hate that word only. Be proud of any amount of weight you lost).

 

(6) Please feel free to post and link this on any other forum you peruse (ex. Lapband,  Realize band, RNY, VBG, VSB, etc). The more the merrier !!

 

(7) Print your Obesity Help “Membership" card so we hand them out. If you don’t know how to do this, send me an personal message, and I will send you the instructions.

 

Remember this is a GROUP effort. Please feel free to add your suggestion and/or voice your opinion on any suggestion. AND NO HARD FEELING – this is meant to be a pleasant experience

 

For those who haven’t had the operation yet – you too are more the welcome to come. In fact, you are encouraged to come!! This would be a ‘true-life’ learning experience to see “life after the operation". You will be able to hear what our ups-and-downs are, and you are encouraged to ask as many questions as you want. Other “up-comers" have come, and found it interesting and educational.

 

Significant others and/or kids are also welcomed (however you may want to leave them behind so you can really enjoy yourself  – it’s up to you)

 

Finally, please feel free to tell ANYONE you think may be interested, and since I cannot post on every board, feel free to copy and paste this on the boards you frequent.

 

If you'd like to email me directly, my email address is [email protected]

 "We must not, in trying to think about how we can make a big difference, ignore the small daily differences we can make which, over time, add up to big differences that we often cannot foresee."
– Marian Wright Edelman

You have a therapist and you like her, what are you waiting for. Run!!!!!!! Every bit of backup you need. Katie in New York

Heather,
  Thanks so much for the encouragement.  How are you feeling?  I am so excited about my upcoming surgery.  I went to the grocery today and bought some s/f popsicles and chicken broth.  I am going to order some more unjury shakes.  I love those things.  I hear that your tastebuds may change after surgery,but I hope I will still like those shakes.  They are delicious.  I didn't like the GNC protein too much or the muscle milk stuff.  I was almost ganging on those.  It does help when I put them in a blender.  It taste much better.  I will let you know what happens.  Again, thanks Heather.

Hi Purplelady,

Just read your post and you hit the nail right on the head.  First, congrats on your upcoming surgery.  I was banded last Tuesday.  I can understand that now that the date is coming up its natural to be nervous, I was a bit and mostly excited at the same time.  Sounds like you did really good on the pre-diet as well, give yourself a pat on the bag for follwing that regime.

Don't beat yourself up over eating the Easter candy, sometimes our emotions get the best of us.  But I can understand I struggled for years with emotional eating and its something that I don't think I've ever been "cured" of. The good thing about this tool and possibly the other WLS options (I had RNY 7 years ago before being banded) is that you cannot simply grab anything that you want and eat it, although its tempting.

You won't blow it, we are here to help, I have a difficult time even making my kids lunch without wanting to sneak a bite here and there, alot of it is emotional and I know that its something that can be worked on for the better.  Take your time and follow your surgeons/doctors advice for the post-op diet.  I think its great that you recognize this in yourself and you did not go bonkers and run through a zillion fast food lines.  Take a break give yourself a pat on the back, follow the doctors order and join us here on line.

Good luck on Tuesday, please email and let me know how you do after surgery.