Looking for a friend

My band  surgery is July 26th, and even though I'm super excited. I am a little sad that I don't have any friends that know what I'm going through. All my friends never had a weight problem, and neither does my husband. When I try to tell people why I over eat they don't get it. All they can say is "then stop eating" (Gee why didn't I think of  that) I haven't found a support group yet, but I do plan on one after the surgery. I think it would just be nice to shoot an e-mail or pick up the phone and tell someone im struggling, and have them totally get me. Is that to much to ask for?

Thanks
Darci

I am in the exact same situation, Darci.  I feel your pain and I would like to be your band-buddy.  My banding is the 20th.  My husband  hasn't a weight problem either and everything you have written, I have thougth myself.   Hope to hear from you soon.  cindy

Cindy,
It's so good to know there are others out there in my shoes. Right now im struggling with the liquid pre op diet and i've b een very cranky. I've gotten in all my protein, and have been sipping on my water. All I keep thinking is Pizza, and Tacos and I break out crying. I have to keep telling myself I'm better than this and deserve it. Thanks for taking the time to write me back

Darci

Darci

You can do this.  I know you can.  Try the slim fast.  I am doing that.  I have cheated a few times and I feel bad about it.  It is absolutely one of the hardest things I have ever ever done.  It is one thing to do liquid only when you are ill or have had dental work or whatever but a completely different ball of wax to do it when you are healthy.  I feel your pain.  You can do this.  I have researched it quite a bit and alot of doctors allow chicken and veggies for one meal a day.  My weight loss doctor only wants fasting the day before the surgery but I chose to do it for seven days based on all I have read online.  Listen, email me at my regular address which is  [email protected].  I check it more regularly and will get back with you as often as I can.  Stay Strong.  Cindy

Good morning Darci

I was banded March 30 this year and thought about this situation the following way:  My first week of protien shakes, my sister came to visit, and we went everywhere going out to eat, and everyone was eating hamburgers n fries, wings, pizza, chinese, etc., and I would just have ice tea and then a protien shake later after everyone ate...I figured that if I had enough willpower to sit through and watch everyone eat (although I played games on my phone or had something to occupy my time) then I was strong enough to change my eating habits for the rest of my life...
Good luck and hope youre doing well...
~~kim

What I say to people that say "well stop"....would you say something like that to a drug addict or alcoholic?  Most can understand addiction when it comes to liquor, drugs and even cigarettes but tell some one you have trouble controlling the amount of food you eat and they can't understand???  Or they act like they have the same problem.  Like they will say "I have trouble saying no to chocolate" ...well that's not really the same thing.  They will never understand.  Not to mention we also have an addiction that we are forced to face everyday in a way that others don't.  For instance drug addicts aren't told don't abuse drugs but here you have to have drugs three times a day.  Well we do.  We have to eat to live.  We HAVE to eat and struggle with that every day. 

If ever you need to vent, cry, or just ask a question you can always come here.  We are are here for anyone who needs us. 

Darci,

Sorry to start off this reply with a correction. You state you don’t have any friends who knows what you’re going through. Sorry, but you have a much of friends, RIGHT HERE, who know EXACTLY what you’re going through. So always know you can come to us.

Many time people cannot relate to a specific addiction. Having never smoked in my life I can’t understand how someone can’t just throw the pack away and stop smoking. Same can be said when it comes to food addiction. The average person has no idea what we go through. And the entertainment  (movies, television) and media (news) industry doesn’t help when they portray “overweight" people as lazy slobs who can’t control themselves.

Well, know you can always contact me via here, personal email ([email protected]) or phone (send me an email and I will give you my number – or just look at any truckers rest-stop men’s room wall .. I mean .. oooppppssss).

Good luck MY FRIEND!!

Everyone *****plied to you Darci, is right! We all are here for you...for each other! Now my experience was that I was on liquids for 2 weeks before AND 2 weeks after surgery and still that is the stage I felt/still feel the most comfortable with. I know I am strange.Please come back to this message board often..it helps to stay in touch with "friends who understand exactly what you are going through!" Good luck!!!!

I do have to say..you guys and gals are great, wonderful, kindhearted folks. As a newbie I appreciate the kinda slap on the back of the head, to help us snap out of it and realize we do have friends and can find support here.
Thank!!!