Starting Over

Where do I start....I was banded (realize) January 6, 2008. I did fantastic!! lost 100lbs by the fall all with only 1 fill.  then things went to hell... My husband and I moved (in with his family..) and couldn't find a house and months went by...we divorced and now have a wonderful girlfriend...yes things have have changed... and all while not being able to get fills and not eating right at all... i have put back on a tleast 40lbs...it's been a few months since i've seen a scale...

I was so on track, eating right and working out...now i don't have the energy or desire to do anything...

I WANT and NEED to get back on track.  I don't know where to start. I will have health insurance December 1st, 2010, i already put in a call to a Dr. who handles my band, they have to get back to me to see if she will see me or not.   

 

First thing you need to remember - you’re not a total loser .. well, ok you are – but in WEIGHT LOSS which is a good thing !!

 

Here is the toughest love you will get .. Yesterday is over and done with. There is nothing we can do about it. Tomorrow is NOW, and it’s time to get yourself back on track.

 

Please remember this isn’t a diet plan; it’s a way of life. So slips, stumbles and falls will occur. What we do when this happens is truly important. You need to get yourself up, dust yourself off, and get yourself to continue down the road to success.

 

What you first need to do is ask yourself “Where did I come from" .. then ask yourself “Why did I do this operation" – basically the answer is because it’s a last resort.

 

You need to realize you are stronger than any craving or any food. It took strength to admit you have a problem you can’t control. It took strength to decide to have an operation. It took strength to do what was needed before and after the operation. It took strength to say “I need help" .. So you have the strength, now you need to call on it.

 

GET BACK TO THE BASICS !! I tell everyone that. Pretend today was day one of the operation and go back to a strict liquid diet. Do this for a few days (maybe a week), then go onto the next stage of soft food then finally regular food. What you are doing it is detoxing your body of the sugars and bad carbs. When you find yourself hungry – eat .. but SENSIBLE foods. Make sure you also follow all the rules.

 

You need to go back and follow the rules that made you successful. You need to have the 64 ounces of NON-CARBONATE/DECAFFEINATED liquid. You need to have your 60 to 80 grams of protein. You need to make sure you don’t drink 30 minutes before/after or during your meal. 

 

What you need to remember is they put the band around your stomach, and not around your brain. You will need to use some self control when it comes to food. If you are hungry stop and ask yourself is this real hunger or head hunger. Asking that alone will probably be an indication it’s head hunger, so you know what to do. Get busy doing something else. If that doesn’t work, EAT – but SOMETHING HEALTHY. Have some salad; vegetables, PROTEIN, etc.

 

It’s great you have a call out the Doctor. IMHO Doctor Abkin is the best, and will give you the no nonsense answer your need. Feel free to mention my name, and this post.

 

You need to get to support groups. Look on line to find ones around you, or go to the office one. I can help you if needed.

 

You may need to speak to a Nutritionist. Many insurance companies allow you to see one X amount of times per year. Contact your insurance company.

 

You may need to go and speak to the person who did your psych exam, or see someone new. Again, insurance should be able to cover it. Maybe not the person you originally saw, but someone in your plan.

 

REMEMBER what it took to make you successful. YOU CAN DO IT !! And know I am here if you need me.

 

Now – get off your a55 – stop making excuses – and (sorry Nike) JUST DO IT !!

 

 Tom,

Thank you!!! I will be printing that and well putting it everywhere!!! I agree with you Dr. Abkin is the best, however I moved out of state and have to find someone new here in Rhode Island.  We've actually met before at a support group meeting, I had lived in Lake Hopatcong. 

Kim,

I am glad you took this in the way it was meant to be. Sometimes print is cold, and can be misinterpreted.

Now I see the real issue. You moved out of Hopatcong!! Duh, come back and all the issues will be resolved.

Truthfully, you need to discuss this with your NEW Doctor. However, if you feel you’re not getting the support from him/her, then you need to go to another Doctor. Remember you are the client/consumer. If you’re paying for a service, you want the best service for that money. If not, move on. You are worth THE BEST because YOU ARE THE BEST !!

Good luck, and please know - no matter how many miles there are - I am here if you need.