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I am about 8 months post op..my obgyn had me discontinue my depo shot (6month before I start trying). My surgeons plan is to wait 12-18 months after vsg. So I am right on track. I just got off zoft, holly withdrawals and now the depo is leaving me very hormonal. I am hoping I can get pregnant. I tried for three years to have my son(morbidly obese during that pregnancy). I have endometriosis, which was removed once and I was full of it. I know it's going to be tough for me, emotionally. The physical stuff I can handle, mostly. I really don't want to wait past 35 to get pregnant. Every single woman has had to have a hysterectomy before they turned thirty. I get so worried about that. Cross your fingers that in 6 months I can get pregnant. Thank you!
I am about 5 lbs away from my doctors goal weight for me. Yea! I am pretty happy where I am right now. And god bless my husband. I have support and unconditional love from him and my son. I have really horrible saggy skin on my thighs and a giant flappy belly. He still thinks I am sexy! Anyway..just wanted to talk..thanks.
I'm 13w2d today and I'm struggling with the up and down weight too but now I seem to be more on the down side. Within the first few weeks I went from 140 to 144 and fluctuated for a bit there while I had some issues with morning (afternoon actually) sickness. Now being sick isn't an issue and I'm eating much more but losing daily. I'm down to 134. Definitely lower than I'd like to be but I tell myself I might appreciate those few lbs towards the end when I'm inevitably packing them on. I was 13 months post op when I got pregnant though so I had been solid on my weight for a few months. I am really worried about the nutrition part however. I have the AFP test on the 17th to check for genetic issues. I've never had the tests with my other two and I'm honestly terrified for this one. I have no idea if baby is getting what it needs :/
Congratulations on your pregnancy!
HW:274 (Nov 2011 pre-pregnancy) Starting weight: 243 Day of Surgery: 231
If he refuses to get help for his temper and emotionally abusive ways-then for your sake and the baby's I would leave and never look back. He sounds very hateful. He sounds like an ex of mine sounded-turns out he was having an affair. Seems like he doesn't want a 3rd child support coming out of his checks and maybe he has been straying or thinking about leaving but now he resents you because of the baby and he doesnt want yet another child support payment. I don't mean to sound cruel, but you deserve much better. The baby will only be in the middle. The baby will only be yelled at and made to feel like a burden by a father like that. He obviously has issues. If he doesn't want to fix them and treat you better-than he can hit the road! You will find someone amazing one day. Choose happiness.
If baby is making nice wet diapers (not too yellow for the pee) and is having normal consistency (wet and mustard-like) poops - not hard lumps - you are probably just fine.
Things to do:
first - go to a lactation consultant and do a weighed feeding...you'll get an idea of how much baby is getting. they can check your latch too.
second - know that there is a 3 week growth spurt and baby nursing more and more is helping build your supply up.
third - if you want to do it...you could pump and bottle feed. It could be hard to go from breast to bottle to breast...but if you are really worried about baby's consumption - that is a way to see exactly what baby is eating. (my 1st had a hard time getting milk, so I ended up only pumping for her...it is a lot of extra work)
if this phase doesn't pass on its own, talk to the pediatrician about colic/reflux/gas treatment options.
both my kids cluster-fed in the evenings...on the boob all evening long with little break between nursing sessions. totally normal yet frustrating for mom.
5'-8",HW 347,SW329,M1-25 M2-17 M3-11 M4-13 M5-14 pregnant-->
I probably wouldn't have tried to start a family with him given how he acted before the pregnancy - but you are in the situation now, so you need to make the best of it. The way he treats you is unacceptable. He needs to be reminded that he was there for the baby making too - so it is his responsibility and he has a choice...be an active partner and parent - or you will do it on your own and he will be paying for a 3rd kid's child support.
You don't need to put yourself through his verbal abuse.
He needs counseling with you or on his own or you need to get out.
5'-8",HW 347,SW329,M1-25 M2-17 M3-11 M4-13 M5-14 pregnant-->
pregnant at 5.5m post op, now almost 15w. Lost 22 pounds so far. only lost 1 in the past 2 weeks, so I think I have bottomed out for now. Hoping to not gain more than to be where I was when I got pregnant.
Got pregnant at 252, now 230...hoping to deliver no heavier than 250.
I could be eating better but I am balancing between following the rules and not being nauseous all day long. I average about 1500 calories a day now.
5'-8",HW 347,SW329,M1-25 M2-17 M3-11 M4-13 M5-14 pregnant-->
I haven't popped in here in MONTHS, maybe a year, but I'm glad I saw this update! So glad you're doing well now. My little man is the biggest handful ever I can't imagine adding a third lol!
Changed for good
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I'm currently breastfeeding my three week old and concerned he isn't getting enough from me. Did anyone else experience this? He is gaining weight but having gas and never seems satisfied. Any advice?
oh sweety.....so many many many red flags. and i think you see them. what i don't understand is why you put up with it. he's not gonna change. in fact a baby is ALOT of work and causes tons of stress even in solid marriages. celia is right, you DO NOT deserve to be treated this way. i say get out while you can. its scary but you have to think of whats best for you and the baby now. i would never be with ANYONE who talked to me that way. clearly he doesn't appreciate you or want to be with you. and if he loved you he wouldn't talk to you that way. thats not love. please know there's more out there. and you deserve to be happy with someone who truly loves you. that baby is an absolute blessing!! congrats! and maybe its just what you needed, that push to really make you change your situation. best of luck. we're here for ya if you need to talk.
