Oh life... you're such a b**** sometimes!

Hi guys!

So I know I just posted here on Friday about being on team pink. I am happy. Thrilled, actually, to be having another girl. I didn't tell you guys what else is going on in my life, though.

I will soon be a SINGLE mother of two with one on the way. Dear Lord I hope I'm divorced before January, anyway. 

Learned my hubby has been molesting my 8 year old nephew. I've left (well,made him leave) and I'm not going back. As much as I would LOVE to give him the benefit of the doubt and think he would NEVER do that to his own flesh and blood, I'm not about to stick around and find out.

It's been a rough 8 days since I booted him to the curb. I've cried a gallon of tears, I've missed him so badly I ached inside, I've gone over and over everything in my head trying to find a way to explain this all away. But I know in my gut that these accusations are true. What reason would a little boy have to lie about that?

So single-motherhood, full time college student, probably a job or something like that very soon, pregnancy and depression/anxiety due to recent events.... fun times! I need a drink (or four) or maybe even a Xanax but I can't. 

I'm starting to feel a little stronger and more confident now. I know it's going to be a long hard road ahead, but I can do this. I have lots of help from my family, thank God.

Wow....that's a lot to take in all at once!!! I do want to give u a round of applause for standing up for what's right and for ur nephew. I will tell from experience nothing hurts worse than ur family not believing you. I was sexually abused from at least 3yr to 10yr by my uncle. My grandparents to this day didn't believe me and said a lot of hurtful things. My mom on the other hand cut all ties with her brother. I will also say it didnt stop with me he did it to his daughter and step daughter as well, so don't think for a minute that it stops there. Your job as a mother is to protect your children at all cost, and u have done just that. Also educate your daughter on what to do if something like that were to happen to her. My biggest problem was I felt ashamed of what was happening so i was embarrassed to tell anyone....like I was the one doing something wrong. I am soooo sorry that you are having to go through all this but I will say once again.....good job mommy. I will keep u in my thoughts and prayers. If u ever need to vent just send it my way.
Tiff

My daughter is already actively involved in conversations regarding this issue. The concern began over her when my brother walked into her room to tell her she needs to take her nap and found her naked in a chair in her room looking like she was playing with herself. She has been asked repeatedly if anything has ever happened like that and repeatedly she has said no.

My hubby's relationships prior to me were primarily with men and he was never able to fully let go of that part of him enough to completely be faithful to me. Never did I think that tendency would extend to little boys, though. :( Aside from it being sooo wrong to not believe a child and instantly take action to protect them when accusations like this come up, I've had moments in the past that made me go 'hmmmm...' Walking into my bedroom while hubby and nephew were watching wrestling together (not unusual) and cuddling (also not a red flag) and seeing hubby get all jumpy like I just walked in on him jacking off (hmm....?). Not to mention that my nephew was able to describe to his mom the differences between his anatomy and hubby's (DH is not circumcised, nephew is). How do you not believe that? There have only been more reason to believe all of this since then.

Thanks for the support and prayers. They're very much appreciated. While I know this is the right thing to do, it all hurts like hell.

I gave you many prayers. I know this is hard, however, you would have to follow your gut.

May I ask what your husband has said? If anything???

I don't know if this will help you are not, however http://tabithaprice.com/author/joyinthemourning/ Tabitha is a married women who found out her husband was viewing child porn, and was busted by the FBI... she has a book out and she goes through the trials and tribulations of what its like and how she over comes it... but she like all of us has those days.

Many Prayers! You are strong, and some how you will make it through this.

Hubby has attempted to convince me of his innocence by spouting off lies and pointing the finger at everyone else but himself. All actions of a guilty person.

Thanks for the book recommendation. I'll have to check it out.

Thanks for the prayers as well. They are very much needed and appreciated.

oh my friend, you are so brave and so honest. i  commend you for having the courage to leave him. it CAN'T be easy for anyone but especially a mother of 2 and one on the way!! i wish i lived near by so that i could be of some help. if you ever need to talk i'm here for you!!! thank you for being an amazing mommy and aunt and standing up for whats right. i'm very sorry you have to deal with any of this. its horrible. please keep posting. i look fwd to all your posts.

Not sure what to say other than stay strong, hang in there, and know that it is OK to mourn the loss of your marriage.  Right now you're hurt, angry, and disgusted by what has happened, but you also need to allow yourself time to feel sad.  You've just lost your husband and the future you saw for yourselves, despite what he's done, that still hurts.  Make sure you take some time for yourself to heal!

Thats a lot to have to deal with while you are pregnant. Hopefully someone reported this to law enforcement - they will make it easier for you not to go back to him when they lock him up....child molesters rarely ever have a single victim or stop with one...(i work with these people for a living....)

Take care of you and the baby inside of you - and congrats on the baby girl ;)

It was reported to the authorities and legal proceedings are under way.

All I CAN do right now is focus on me, my kiddos, and my baby bean.