missed period? *update*

ok sooo....my baby Benji is 7 months old now. ever since i stopped breastfeeding (in feb) i have been consistently getting my period (like clockwork) on the 17/18th of every month. this month i was due to get it on the 17th (wed) and i didn't. on friday i started to freak out. i took a pregnancy test. negative. ok....weird....

its sunday now and i still haven't gotten it. but weird things have me confused.

 

reasons pregnancy is a possibility:

-a week ago i was nauseous for a couple days. had some intense cramps. i thought, why am i getting this a week before my period? it only lasted a couple of days. 

-i'm  5 days late and i've been on time for months

-i did have sex a month ago when i was ovulating

-they say you're really fertile the first year after having a baby

-my temp is a little high

 

reasons i'm probably not pregnant:

-negative pregnancy test

-hormones could be the cause of the missed period

-while i haven't had any spotting i have seen a teeeeeeny tinge of pink in my cervical mucus when i wipe (only twice)

-while i did have sex a month ago, it wasn't to completion (we stopped before it ended bc it didn't feel good for me) 

-i ended up getting my period last month, 2 weeks after the sex, like clockwork

 

i'm soooo confused!!! i will take another pregnancy test again today and it will be negative again. and i'll just chalk it up to i'm just not getting it this month. you know, even though my brain knows being pregnant right now would not be a good idea (we don't have the finances, i have a hard enough time with one baby, i don't know how i could handle a newborn and an infant, i didn't want to have kids this close together, i fear the stress will hurt my marriage) i can't help but get excited at the notion because i'm a girl and its in my DNA. also i really really loved being pregnant.  loved it much more than the newborn stage, that was soooooo hard. and now...my husband is working full time again. (he had taken 2 months off to help me with Benji) like...how...HOW could i possibly do it?! then i think i'll be better this time bc i know what to expect. but still..ugh..so many emotions!!!

 

has this happened to any of you? you were getting steady periods and then just missed a month?

 

i'm going to make an  appt  to see a new gyno/obgyn (i haven't seen one since i had the baby) for my pap so i'm hoping she will shed some light on this.

 

 

 

 

 

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*UPDATE*

 

so like i suspected i took another test and it came out negative. i still haven't bled into my underwear but i have seen streaks of pink in my cervical mucus which is very wet. this is so strange. its not like a period at all. at all! its almost like ovulation. ugh this sucks because i was so proud of being regular. i hope this month is just a fluke and i got off easy. but i better get my period next month. 

I've learned that when it comes to our bodies, anything is possible!  Keep us posted!  It may not be ideal timing, but after all you went through to get pregnant with Benji, it would be pretty awesome to have it "just happen"!

am i just grasping at straws here? am i being silly?

A side note to think about also...you are stressing about this...so maybe it's holding out because of that!  Stress can do some weird things to a woman!  Lol!  Especially if you have other stresses going on right now as well!  Good luck to you...hope you get the result you are hoping for!  (You could always go for a blood test?!  Or maybe you didn't ovulate when you thought you did?  Wait a couple days and test again!). :) 

Any new developments?

Actually, yes. I wasn't able to get a gyno appt till August 7. But finally today I got my period. Almost a week late. And you know what I think? Honestly i really think I got pregnant but it went away. It was just a chemical pregnancy or whatever. I remember my RE telling me that sometimes women will get pregnant and miscarry without even knowing it. It sure woul explain a lot of things. The hot flashes, the extreme emotion, the *****iness I only got when I was pregnant, and the streaks of pink that came out in some tissue/discharge. Anyway I'm glad I got my period. I said I either want my period or a positive pregnancy test bc this limbo stuff is the worst. So now I'm like ok that's good, I can concentrate all my time and effort on this little guy. But I def do plan on getting pregnant again. In a couple of years. If I can wait that long! Lol

Well, glad you got an answer.  This is what happened to me in February, I KNEW I was pregnant, had all the symptoms, but the day I was going to take a test I ended up getting my period.  The following month was when I confirmed pregnancy only to start bleeding and mc a few days later.  Even though I'm pretty sure I lost babies both months, I definitely preferred not knowing for sure in February!  Glad you didn't get a positive test and then start bleeding!  Either way, it has been enough to have me on pins and needles with this pregnancy.  Can't wait for my doctors appointment next week, I'm hoping to get an early ultrasound to put my mind at ease a bit. 

Anyway, for now, enjoy that little man of yours!!

Hi!
I have not been here much but I remember your wonderful story of finally becoming pregnant. Sorry you had a hard time during the infant stage. I had my first baby then got pregnant 6 months later. And it is hard, needless to say two weeks after Valentina was born my husband got a vasectomy. It does put stress on your relationship or it did for us, luckily we make it a point to talk about EVERYTHING, which is new for me since I typically keep things from significant others. I am luck to have such a good husband and I think I try so hard to make him happy because he does that for me.

Glad to hear the scare got sorted out but you might want to see now that you are not breast feeding what type of birth control you will get on now. 

It is not any of my business, and I dont want to come off sounding like old mother hubbard but babies are the best miracles that can turn into huge issues in relationships. I even have a lesbian couple friend who came to me the other day in tears because the dynamic of their relationship changed so much.

 

Good luck!

i agree. i think it would  put a HUGE stress on our marriage. i have to be careful!! we do want another kid but not for a few years. however i don't know if i can wait that long if i get the pregnancy big again. lol.