for all you soon to be first time moms
ladies, i just want to say please don't stress about your weight during pregnancy. the important thing is you stay healthy for your baby, get in enough calories, yeah you're gonna go over, yeah you're gonna gain weight, yeah you'll give into cravings. as long as you don't go overboard and you keep your weight gain in check you'll be OK. guess what, pregnant women gain weight. its what they do. i know WLS ppl are super worried about gaining weight back but its for a good reason, your baby.
and after the baby is here DO NOT STRESS. don't beat yourself up because even women who didn't have WLS, even women who have been skinny all their lives, have a hard time losing the weight after. it took 9 months to put on the weight, it doesn't just magically disappear (unless you're one of the lucky ones) it takes 9 months to a year to lose it. and the first couple of months you're in NO shape to be working out. your body is going through major major changed quickly and you're dealing with the stress of adjusting to a newborn. you have enough to worry about. give yourself a pass. focus on your baby and adapting to motherhood.
my baby is 4 months old and only now am i capable to even focus on getting back in shape. how can you workout when you're not even sleeping?! now that things have settled into somewhat of a routine i'm able to start. i'm not going crazy either. this is a marathon, not a race. baby steps, gradually working something into your lifestyle means you're more likely to keep up with it than just jumping into something extreme. whether is extreme exercise or DIETS. ugh i hate the word diet. i hate all these people who are the food police. but i digress!!
i just want to give you girls a pass. i want you to know its ok. its gonna take a while and its OK. so many of my friends with kids told me its OK, they went through the same thing. we are our harshest critics. after the baby we still don't fit into old clothes. we look pregnant in maternity clothes. we're in this weird wardrobe limbo. i tried buying new clothes and i look horrible in those too! also its hard to look cute when you spend most of your time in sweats with your hair unwashed and spit up on your clothes. we feel like everyone is watching us. thinking we're still pregnant or still fat. wondering why we're not back to cute yet. but in reality thats US thinking that, not them. no one has said anything to me about my weight. no one has told me to work out or eat better. its really just me. just how i feel. shlubby. and its time now for me to work on getting cute again. i know its gonna take a while. probably till the end of the year and maybe longer than that. but i'm ok with that. until YOU are ready, you and no one else, to get back to where you used to be, just chill. no one expects anything from you. just enjoy your baby. enjoy this journey. give yourself a break.
i just wanted to give my 2 cents.
You hit the nail on the head girlfriend! Hard to believe your little guy is 4 months now! My little Olivia is 11 weeks now.
You are right.. even if you lose all your weight, your clothes don't fit the same. Your body does some shifting around. Especially around the midsection. I gained 30 pounds. Luckily for me I lost 25 of those pounds. But my clothes do not fit the same.
Jana
