Having a hardd time gining weight

I am 28 weeks 2 days and to date have have only gained maybe 8 pounds I keep gaining and losing the same 5 pounds.  I am not trying to lose the weight I'm eating all the time it seems the weight just doesn't seem to want to stay on and to think before surgery I just looked at food and I would gain weight.

So far Liam seems to be growing all right I am measuring 31 weeks as of yesterday he is transverse and high up in my rib cage I'm not showing unless you know I am pregnant then you can see it otherwise i just look a little cubby

Had the most wonderful bonding experience a couple weeks ago with a 3D ultrasound now it feels more real

I am just concerned that he isn't going to be very healthy because of the lack of weight gain and the fact that I am still taking narcotic pain killers for an weird unknown pain that has been investigated like crazy but can't find a source for.  So far my OB hasn't said anything about my lack of weight gain and he is the one that is prescribing my pain meds 

Has anyone else not really gained anything?

My prepregnancy weight was 210 I am now 192

I don't really know much about this whole subject either, but I'm in the same boat as you.  I'm 22 weeks and I lost 28 pounds in the first 3 months, now I've just been at the same weight since the beginning of March.  I've been bouncing around between 230 and 233 since then.  I eat all the time, and at my 20 week ultrasound I was told my baby girl looks perfectly healthy and she's growing like she should.  I have the same worries, so you're not alone.  Since our babies are parasites, I think they're going to get everything they need, we might be the ones who suffer. 

From what I know there is no reason for concern--it's really only if you are underweight or in the normal BMI category that they care if you gain weight--if you are overweight at all the recommendations I have heard are to gain no more than 20 lbs and if you have gained 8 you are probably pretty much on  track to gain close to that.  If there are any nutritional issues it won't be for the baby--the baby will get what it needs from you, even if it depletes you.  If everything looks good on the ultrasound there is no reason to be concerned.  I have gained close to 40 lbs (almost 39weeks) and I didn't look distinctly pregnant until the last month or so.  And while I have gained close to 40lbs it hasn't been a slow steady gain it has been in junks and not reflective of my eating either--I will go weeks at the same weight then put 5 lbs on suddenly.

There is really no need for you to gain weight.  As long as the baby is growing fine, don't worry about it.  Like Alice said, unless you're underweight, there is no real need for you to gain.  Your body could be losing weight while the baby gains, and you'll end up with a net loss at the end.  Baby will do just fine! 

Thanks for the reassurance that has made me feel better I will just continue doing what I am doing and see what happens in the long run 

I'm 17 weeks and haven't gained anything yet. I don't think I'll be able to gain much either, because I'm feeling increasing restriction in my pouch as my abdomen grows bigger and bigger. It's ok though, the midwife doesn't think I need to gain any weight.

I am the same as you! I am 23 weeks pregnant and look like I have put a couple pounds on. 6 pounds to be exact.

I am under the care of a few specialists and my weight is of no concern to them. They contuine to do ultrasounds and the baby is looking great. I weight approx the same as you. My High Risk OB who works with Gastric By Pass patients said that this is normal - as long as the baby is growing all is good. Basically he said that I am loosing some weight while the baby is gaining. I find that I am eating a lot healthier even more so now that I am pregnant so it makes sense that I loose a little bit of weight. My High Risk OB says to keep doing what I do!

Since your doctor is saying that your baby is measuring just right I think you are good!

I have been concerned also. I am 17 weeks and am having a hard time gaining.  I am below my original goal weight, in fact I got down to 125 lbs.  My goal was 135 lbs. In my first trimester, I lost about 5 lbs but not because of morning sickness, i think it was the lack of calories.  My family doctor is concerned cause she said I am looking too skinny (never thought I would ever hear that). I have been also working with my bariatric dietician and since i can handle some simple sugars in moderation without dumping, she said I can eat the odd snack to get the calories in.  I am eating all the time it seems (alot of fruit cravings) but still find it difficult to get the amount of calories in that my dietician is suggesting.  I am currently aiming for 1600 calories a day and it is hard.  Last time I weighed myself (a couple of days ago) I was only at 127 lbs.  I have talked to some people who haven't had the surgery and they only gained no more than 10 lbs total during their pregnancy...mind you it was because they couldn't stand the sight of food.  I am just concerned that my baby will be affected.  I take my prenatal vitamins religiously as well as extra folic acid, my regular calcium and vitamin D supplements.  I just had another full panel of blood work done to see if I am deficient in anything...just waiting for the results.

I had a growth ultrasound last week and my baby is measuring slightly behind I go for a second growth ultrasound in two weeks they will then decide if it would be better to deliver him early my bariatric dietitian now has me drinking 2-3 ensure a day in addition to eating just to get extra calories in and it seems to be helping I've gain 3 pounds will see if the 3 pounds stay on