Feeling so down and depressed, just need someone to talk to
My pregnancy has got me so depressed. I feel like a failure. I only lost 101 pounds, I still have another 99 pounds to lose until i hit goal. Right now I am supposed to be working towards that goal. Ever since I became pregnant in December, my weight loss has not been the same. I have been 249 pounds since January. That's 3 months in a stall which is terrible! I do not over eat. I did increase my calories a bit per my doctor's request. I walk daily and am very active with a 2 year old just as i was doing before and the weight was falling off but now no. I eat my protein, take my vitamins and drink my water. Why am I not losing weight? I hear some others on here saying they lost weight while pregnant. I go to my 2nd prenatal appt tomorrow and praying to God that I haven't gained much weight. I don't need anyone to judge me but just be a listening ear and maybe lend some advice. i feel like until i have my baby and be able to get back on the weight loss band wagon. I'm due in September which seems like eternity. I hate feeling like this. For the first time since I had surgery I am feeling like a failure.
My understanding is that the doctors don't like you to continue to loose weight while pregnant--they are ok with you not gaining if you are still overweight but typically discourage any kind of weight loss while pregnant.
You are having a baby, welcome to motherhood, life is no longer about you but the new life growing inside of you and taking the best care of the baby as possible. Focus on eating healthy--protein forward, drinking plenty of water, vitamins and moving your body--stay away from the scale.
My understanding is that the doctors don't like you to continue to loose weight while pregnant--they are ok with you not gaining if you are still overweight but typically discourage any kind of weight loss while pregnant.
You are having a baby, welcome to motherhood, life is no longer about you but the new life growing inside of you and taking the best care of the baby as possible. Focus on eating healthy--protein forward, drinking plenty of water, vitamins and moving your body--stay away from the scale.
I'm already a mother of a 2 year old so I know all about motherhood, thank you very much!
I think we all have our moments where we feel like we have backslide and it can sometimes be a long slide. I would mention to your dr. how depressed you are though. Emotionally everything is hard right now. I know I can break into tears because of nothing and I never cry outside pregnancy. Keep in mind pregnancy does end and life with your new one begins. Focus on your overall heath and not that scale number (as hard as that is)....Good luck and I hope you start feeling better, enjoy that time while you can.
Stacey
Stacey
RNY-10/27/04
I think we all have our moments where we feel like we have backslide and it can sometimes be a long slide. I would mention to your dr. how depressed you are though. Emotionally everything is hard right now. I know I can break into tears because of nothing and I never cry outside pregnancy. Keep in mind pregnancy does end and life with your new one begins. Focus on your overall heath and not that scale number (as hard as that is)....Good luck and I hope you start feeling better, enjoy that time while you can.
Stacey
Thank you Stacey
What you are feeling is perfectly NORMAL it's alot to process having had WLS to lose weight and now be pregnant. Just be strong and TRY not to worry about any weight. Continue to track your calories and remember not to go hog wild. Because you are overweight your baby WILL take from you so keep hitting your protein, vitamin, water numbers so your baby won't deplete you.
Are you logging your food intake? Maybe that'll help you feel "more in control."
Ms Shell
"WLS is only for people who are ready to move past the "diet" mentality" ~Alison Brown
"WLS is not a Do-Over (repeat same mistakes = get a similar outcome.) It is a Do-BETTER (make lifestyle changes you can continue forever.)" ~ Michele Vicara aka Eggface
What you are feeling is perfectly NORMAL it's alot to process having had WLS to lose weight and now be pregnant. Just be strong and TRY not to worry about any weight. Continue to track your calories and remember not to go hog wild. Because you are overweight your baby WILL take from you so keep hitting your protein, vitamin, water numbers so your baby won't deplete you.
Are you logging your food intake? Maybe that'll help you feel "more in control."
Ms Shell
Yes, I still do log. I just needed a pick me up. I will be ok. I'll continue to stay on the right path. Thanks for the pep talk Ms. Shell.
I too struggle with the whole thing of wanting to lose weight, but not losing like I did. I've lost around 117 pounds and I'm 6 months post op (this wasn't a planned pregnancy). There are days where I'm happy that I'm stalling and then others when I feel like I've failed my whole surgery. I have lost 2 pounds in the past month and that's it. I had my 20 week ultrasound today and the baby is looking great and growing right like it should. That really helped me feel better about not losing weight, because as long as she's growing good that's all that matters to me.
I too struggle with the whole thing of wanting to lose weight, but not losing like I did. I've lost around 117 pounds and I'm 6 months post op (this wasn't a planned pregnancy). There are days where I'm happy that I'm stalling and then others when I feel like I've failed my whole surgery. I have lost 2 pounds in the past month and that's it. I had my 20 week ultrasound today and the baby is looking great and growing right like it should. That really helped me feel better about not losing weight, because as long as she's growing good that's all that matters to me.
That's true and congrats on your pregnancy!
