New with questions.

Ok before I get into my questions I want to explain why Im here. My names Lisa, I am 28. I just had gbs on nov 27th. When I was 16 I was Dx with Pcos, and told Id never get prego. When I was 19 I some how got prego, but miscarried at 5w6d. Ive tried on and off since then to get prego with no luck. Thats the biggest reason I had wls.

Now I know that getting prego before 18mo post op is extreamly hard. Im here for support! If your going to tell me how wrong or horrible my decision is THEN LEAVE! I dont need your negitivity. Now with that said I'll get on with it.

I know lots of people that have gotten prego in the first 4months post op, and I'm hoping to be one. I am currently 15days post op so I want to start planning things now, thats where you guys come in.

For those of you who had the unplanned surprise.

How far out post op were you?

What did your drs do first? (as in preventive measures to make sure you and baby are healthy due to having wls)

Anyway just kind of let me know what to expect.

Again be supportive and nice!!!

Hi, I can't really offer you any advice, I just wanted to say good luck and congrats on your surgery I hope you can get prego soon!  I know that there are many people who are recent post ops and get pregnant and have perfectly healthy pregnancies and healthy babies so don't worry too much, just make sure you take your vitamins and drink your protein! Good luck!

I'm sorry but you are asking a lot by telling people to be nice and supportive of something that has very serious potential health consequences to you and your future child. Perhaps you should tell your surgeon your plan to get pregnant very early post op and see what she/he has to say about it before you ask random people on a message board?

I totally understand your position on wanting to be pregnant and having kids. They truly are a gift from God. I have 5 and I'm a teacher (speech therapist actually). I have a time share membership with Disney and we go all the time for the kids. I also have a membership to our zoo, Legoland and go to the Little Gym every week. (and that's just for the two year old!) My life truly revolves around my kids.

I work with developmentally delayed kids. Some are just working on catching up on the little things, others will never ever walk or talk or have a so called "normal" life. They will always require a caregiver. Some of these kids never had a fair shake at life because their parents didn't make the best of choices.   

You've waited 9 years to be healthy and have a healthy baby. PLEASE wait another few months. Statistically when you have a baby after WLS your results aren't going to be as good as someone who hasn't had a baby. That's not to say it doesn't happen but its much much harder on your body. Next, the baby is going to require a lot of nutrients. This soon after WLS your body is going through a condition called ketosis. Ketosis is harmful to a growing baby. It CAN cause birth defects. Also, read up on not taking folic acid and the co-ocurrance of birth defects. The March of Dimes has a good website that is very informative about it.  Then double check with your dietician and make sure your folic acid is at the right level for you and a growing baby and then see what you can do to make sure you're getting enough.  

Obviously you know that your decision isn't a good one or you wouldn't be begging for this board to be nice in our responses. Doing what I do for a living and seeing kids suffer (yes, suffer!) because their parents made bad decisions I cannot give you a post full of fairy farts and rainbows. I was 6 years post op with a band when I got pregnant and I had to work VERY hard to get in enough calories. I took all of my vitamins regularly before, during and after my pregnancy. I was regimental with getting in enough iron and calories and everything else my little guy needed. Can you guarantee at this point in your WLS journey that you can give your CHILD every thing he/she needs nutritionally? If your answer is no then it is selfish to put your unborn child in that position and risk birth defects. Birth defects are very real...I'll give you a tour of a day in my life so you can see what it does to a person.

I love what I do and I love working with the kids that I work with. I do wish, however, that some of these kiddos parents had thought things through before they got pregnant or while they were pregnant. Knowing that what you're doing is HARMING your unborn child is abuse- plain and simple. Knowing that your body is not in a position to support another human life and possibly cause birth defects or miscarriage falls in the same category.   

Let me add that I understand accidents..... I am in NO way trying to hurt anyone's feelings who have gotten pregnant accidentally. I AM however advocating that if you have a choice and a decision of whether or not to PURPOSEFULLY get pregnant that you reconsider.

Can you get pregnant right now and have a healthy baby? Yes, possibly. Is it worth the risk? No- especially when you can wait a few months and do yourself and your child a favor.

I sincerely mean this...... 

GOOD LUCK on whatever choice you make!

 

I have to agree with Tracey as i am a nurse who has worked in Peds for years and seen the consequences of poor decisions.  No one wants to be mean and don't feel you have gotten any mean responses just the reality of the decision.  To purposefully put an unborn child and yourself at risk esp. since you have waited soooo long is poor judgment.  Could you actually live with yourself if something happens to the baby or yourself.  I know how i am and i would constantly wonderful "what if".  And how would you feel if you aren't able to care for your baby due to irreversible effects of certain vit levels .  I had RNY and i know it took me a good 6 months before i felt i could eat semi-normal and got energy back up.  I could not imagine adding possible morning sickness and a growing little bean to my changing body.   I hope you really think about your decision as it doesn't just affect you and part of being a mommy is always putting the welfare of your child above your own.  I do wish you luck in you journey and hope you get your little bambino.

Tiff

I also was diagnosed with PCOS at an early age and suffered with it and not being able to conceive. Like you, that was one of the main reasons why I had WLS. However, I will tell you, it did not cure my PCOS, nor make me a fertile myrtle so to speak. I did choose to wait the 18 months as per the doctor’s request because I wanted to be healthy, happy, and for me, the pain and struggle of surgery and weight loss was not easy and I did not want the surgery to be a waste. I did not want one other complication that would possibly make me high risk. Your baby will take what it needs first, you will suffer. However, in the end, the baby will suffer because you may run the risk of being unhealthy due to not getting what YOU needed. It still look me another 2+ years after the first 18 months of waiting to conceive and that was with assisted medications and a specialist. So please don’t be jaded or make the assumption that the surgery will cure the problems. I am not your mother, doctor, nor do I know you, so me telling you to wait means squat. However you decide, I hope it works out the best for you.

I am 3 months post op gastric bypass and am 11 wks pregnant. Not a day goes by that i dont worry that even tho unplanned ive chosen apath that may in the long run harm my child or cause me to lose this pregnancy at any point. I was just learning to take in foods when the morning sickness kicked in full force. This completely stopped me from taking in my vitamins... i would bring them right back up no matter what. I am just now able to take them again and feel guilty for not having the necessary nutritional intake. I had my labs drawn this week and look forward to and dread the results at thesamme time. I hope thay dont come back as bad as the could be but feel so guilty for risking the healthand development of my unborn child. I tell u my experiences just for another perspective on the subject. Did i want another child yes def. But i really wics the timing was a little better for babys safety and my health. But am at the same time hoping that i am one of th eones that has a healthy little miracle come june. The best to you in what ever path life leads you!

I found out at 2 1/2 months post-op but it was calculated that I got pregnant after 4 weeks of having RNY. I am having twins.
Many preventive and invasive measures were put into place. The nausea and vomiting was horrendous! After several hospitalizations, I ended up with a PICC line, where I received IV fluids at home around the clock. I was also connected to a ZOfran pump for vomiting. I couldn't work or get out the bed. I was and still am unable to take vitamins. My pregnancy was not planned. But the complications I had being pregnant an a fresh post op was crazy. I wonder everyday if my babies will be okay. If they will grow and develop to be "normal" without complications. Everyones story is different, but heres a glimpse of mines.