Looking for some advice

Next month I meet the fertility doctor with my wife. We
are going through the steps of IUI with an anonymous sperm donor. We have been
together for 5 years and married for 2. Last year we moved in with a family
member to save our money, to have enough for a down payment on a house. We have
been pre-approved for a loan and are currently looking to buy. At the same time
we would like to start trying to have a baby in January with our first round of
IUI. Before we moved in with family we knew that once we started trying this
was going to be only between me and her, we didnt want out family to know and
put more stress on an already stressful situation. We planned on telling family
after the first trimester. Would it be wrong to get pregnant without telling
the family member we are currently staying with? She already knows that we are
looking for a house, I just dont want to be told we should wait. I hate this, I
want to be able to make this decision with just my wife and I am just feeling
guilty not sharing this with her not because I the family member to know but I
dont want to be looked at in a different way because we want to do this our
way. Confused any advice would be appreciated.

Do it your way...You may be thinking about this too much...

I think this is a very personal and private descison that should be made between you and your wife. I understand you want to be honest with the family member, but  really, it isn't any of there business until you make them a part of it.

Good Luck!

I agree it is a personal decision between you and your wife. Unless you plan on continuing to stay with the family member well into the pregnancy and after the baby is born, and in doing so, that creates some sort of hardship for them, I don't see why they need to know. As you said, you are actively looking to find a home and move out. This is a private decision that I think only needs to be you two.