True? WLS only for fertility? Don't mind not losing the weight or gaining it back

Just curious, over the years I've seen so many state that they've only had weight loss surgery to increase their chances of fertility.  Being obese - some super obese do we really not care about getting to a healthy weight - is that really true?

I do get some of us have no co-morbities pre-op and maybe never will . . .  but the chances are well pretty slim???  How will we run after our toddlers/children.  How will be swift to catch them when they appear they will fall.  How will we raise them with healthy eating habits if we have not addressed our own?  How will we avoid victimizing them long-term as we age and our neglected bodies become their responsibility - yeah pretty dramatic yet true.

For years I've been saying that I'd love to have a baby (all the stars would have to be aligned ).  I'd be one of the ones who'd be fanatical on her pregnancy journey as far as health because I am terrified of diabetes, hypertention etc.  I simply could not become obese again because I physically can not hold the weight.

What are your thoughts on this?  Are there some of us *****ally don't want/care to lose the weight even after having WLS?

I can get it too.  My oldest sis is bad diabetic for over 10 years after initially having gestational diabetes.  She is declining as both my parents have from this torchuring disease yet she insist that she does not want to be "skinny".  Her husband said "you better not lose a pound" last week while I was hanging out with her at her house.  YES, big women (especialy nice well proportioned shapely) are beautiful - no doubt.  The point is can we really keep the weight and stand the best chance at being healthy ESPECIALLY for the helpless lives  we choose to bring into this world.

Just curious
L.

You know my main driving force behind WLS was to get pregnant. MORE importantly, the fact that I wanted to be healthy for my children, through the pregnancies was vastly weighed more heavily on me.

There's NO way in hell I'll ever go back. I've been through so much crap with weight gain this time around, I'm already 10lbs over my delivery weight from Tatum's arrival, right now, today, I'm looking at a total of 35-40lbs of regain between the 2 pregnancies. I know I lost 3/4 of the weight immediately after Tatum arrived last year, and I had 10lbs to lose before I started gaining with this pregnancy. I am still paranoid that I will not lose the weight. Grant it, I beat myself up more last year for the weight gain, but this time around, I really haven't given it much thought, because I knew it would only bring me down thinking about it.

You also know, that I hate to work out. Well, least to say, I've already told my husband that we will be walking as a family once I'm released to workout again. Because I am hellbent on losing the weight. I WILL get back down to my maintenance weight AND I will get back into my size 2 skinny jeans.

Ok so, in all truth, I've already qualified for a full tummy tuck with the only caveat is that I get back down to within 7-10lbs of my maintenance weight, and my body fat percentage remains normal. I qualified due to skin issues, 3 csections, and the sheer fact that my body is wrecked. So, my driving force to lose the weight is not only because being fat (all be it because of pregnancy) I am flipping miserable. Every joint hurts, my body aches every night, I'm miserable lugging this 40lbs around, and I'm just not going to live this fat life every again.

My main goal is to drop the excess weight within 3-6 months, allow my fat to redistribute/skin to adjust for another 3-6 months and then start the consults with plastic surgeons.

There's no way I will ever go back, there's no way, I'd allow myself to slip back into my pre-op lifestyle. Nope, being fat is miserable.

You're my inspiration hun.  I wish I could have 2 beautiful babies back to back - that would be a dream.  Before your pregnancy you lost all of your excess weight, you were tiny!  And you look gorgeous preggo, I mean you really look like a normal sized person with a baby belly.

When I got banded I wasn't in a relationship,  but I did know I was doing it so that I could have a better chance at a healthy pregnancy.  I expressed that to my surgeon and at the time he said I'll be in there just in case you need a c-section (I had concerns about the band hosing being cut - sounds stupid now).   Funny I wasn't having any type of sex, didn't ever have a man so I wasn't fixed on being infertile.  I did however get a period like clock work.  So not questioning my fertility, my idea was that being a healthy weight would allow me the best possible pregnancy.

You just take care of yourself now.  Don't worry about your weight!  You will get back down to where you need to be because you are proactive.  Having babies is a tremendous deal and you've done a fantastic job at it.  I can only hope that I can be like you sleeve sister.

OMG, I just had to edit . . . 34 fricken weeks!!!  Where does time go!

Love you,
(((SQUEEZE)))
Leila
 

 RAISES HAND...

Yeah, thats me.  Honestly I think I would have still been ok at a bigger weight, but the tables were starting to turn away from my favor.  I have tried 3 years to get pregnant, only to have the fertility specialist tell me that there is nothing wrong with me, just not ovulating because I am way too big.  I hope the baby dust factory at my work holds on for another 6 months before my hubby and I can start trying again. 50 lbs down and already my periods are different and I am having mid-month cramping and looks like things are starting to go back to normal.  Good luck to all of you ladies!

He'll be here next Wednesday, 26th ! ! !

My fluid level is too high, restricting his growth, so they are taking him 3 weeks early.

I'm huge, been on prednisone for the clotting disorder and my platelet counts tanking again. I gained 5-7lbs last week, and it's ALL fluid.

I hit 180lbs on Monday, devastated doesn't even describe it. I have to eat to feed him because the pred makes me all skitzy, and food isn't staying with me long at all.

50lbs above my maintenance weight, logically, probably 30 pounds of it is fluid. I can feel it under my skin, and I'm jiggly, not fat jiggly, fluid jiggly.

Anyways, I'll post pics, birth story and all that jazz.

Oh, and not going to be able to get the tubal during delivery. I'm delivering with the pernatologist group at the Catholic hospital, and they will not perform sterilization procedures. So, I have to wait on the tubal, but I don't care as long as he gets here safely.