Lets talk about vaginas...

Ok, so I'm pretty sure mine is ruined!  My first baby was a c-section, so this was my first vaginal birth (5.5 months ago) and I'm still waiting for things to get any where in the same zip code as "normal". I had a second degree tear that didn't heal well.  At 11 weeks post partum I had the area cauterized to "help promote healing".  Here we are, months later and I'm still waiting for things to bounce back.  Now, I was prepared for things to be different "down there" after childbirth, I figured things would be looser and generally different, but I was not prepared for what I've been left with!  I think I must have a lot of scarring because things have gotten so tight (that's right, I said tight) that we can't even really have sex.  My husband can barely get the tip of his penis in and it feels like he's coming at me with a battering ram!  He's being incredibly patient, gentle, and understanding, but I'm honestly wondering how we'll ever have more kids at this pace!  Luckily, I have a great sense of humor and can laugh at all the weird things that my vagina now does!  Aside from being tigter than a 10 year old virgin, I make all kinds of weird noises when I stand up and things generally look like a grenade went off somwhere south of my belly button, lol. 

So, let's hear it... who else has weird post-baby vaginal tales to make me feel better?

Now I have never had an actual vaginal birth, but my first pregnancy, I pushed for 3 hours and her head would get stuck but it ended it a C section. I remember afterwards things hurt for about a full year after that during sex. It sucked, but then it went away. I think everyone is different cause I remember talking to my sister in law who said she was ok with sex 4 weeks after delivering vaginally!

three vag births and a huge weight loss... im left with a crotch of a 90 yoa lady...

funny story... i went to take a sexy pic of me to send to husband.... afteri checked it.. i deleated it and who the hell would ever want to see that old wrinly deflated thing...

Yah I've had 120 lbs and 2 kids in 3 years time. My vajajay is not pretty either. I had a 2nd degree tear with both. The first one was horrible and sex was not fun for almost a year. The 2nd I didn't tear as bad but I bled for at least 12-15 weeks. So when we did have sex it was tight but now things are back to normal( she's 7 months)
Alexa- sex pics haha let me do a headstand and then take a pic in the almost dark and it will be almost bareable.
Now side note- As far as sex drive I have a negative one. Just the thought of sex makes me want to puke which is opposite when I'm pregnant then i can't get enough. My poor hubby hardly ever gets sex.
Jess

I had the same thing with my first baby. Oh man I thought I was never going to be the same. I can assure you I was WRONG! I am just fine and dandy..as my hubby would say. Only thing that made intercourse bearable for the first while was for me to have an ****** first  then him....etc. It relaxes the inside and made it easier. We worked at it really hard LOL...and now everything works PERFECTLY Glad you can laugh about it..I didn't back then. Now it would make me laugh for sure!

After all that I went on to have two more vaginal home births...and God willing, will hopefully have more babies!

I'm 4 weeks post partum and had a second degree tear. I'm nervous about how things are going to be when we eventually actually try to have sex again...

you guys are scaring me!!! i'm so screwed because i have a bad track record to start. i had a very traumatic experience years ago with this jerk of a gyno (not my gyno) who didn't explain what a biopsy was and then proceeded to take what seemed like a whole puncher to my labia. and for what?! an overgrown sweat gland!! meanwhile they had such a hard time stopping the bleeding that there was blood on the table and the floor. and when they finally stopped it they just left me there in the room to clean myself up. i was shaking and in shock and scared and alone. i saw all the blood. they didn't even tell me how to care for the wound. and i left sobbing and called my mom (who lived in another state) just bawling because i felt so violated. and every time i sat down to pee the wound would re-open and i would bleed. and freak out. finally we called the office and they prescribed some ointment. i had to have my husband apply it to my labia and i would cry every time he got close to the area because i was afraid of getting hurt again. i would scream out "please don't hurt me, please don't hurt me". this experience caused so many ******g problems.

after this i didn't want anyone going near me. couple that with little to no sex drive from the birth control. and i don't know if it was this experience or an episode where my husband used his fingers on me and his nails irritated me. but ever since then having intercourse was painful. you can imagine the strain that put on our marriage. i never wanted sex. and even when i wanted to, i couldn't. it physically hurt. his penis would irritate the walls and they would swell up to the point where one time he got stuck in there! we went through a lot. it wasn't till after wls and i finally got off the pill that things got better. using lidocaine and preseed helped us have sex at first. but after the months went by and my sex drive increased i was able to find ways for it to hurt less. i would get myself off first and that would always help. it got better and better and we stopped having to use the preseed or the lidocaine. and this month when i got pregnant i was even able to have a quickie!! with no prep at all. just a good ole spontaneous quickie like we used to have when we were young. i miss those. it made me so happy. made me feel like i was normal again. female.

so not only does the whole tearing thing scare the crap out of me. i'm so scared of that pain, and of the healing. and the cauterizing makes me cringe sooooo bad. but having to go back to not physically being able to have pleasant sex scares me. because i've already put my husband through so much. so this whole thread really freaks me out!

Sorry!  Maybe I should have put a disclaimer on the title warning you not to read if you haven't given birth yet.  Don't stress over this for the next 8 months!  Everything will be fine!  After all, if they never went back to normal, no one would have more than one kid!

 no this is the stuff i wanna know! the stuff people don't tell you! at least i can mentally prepare!

First off all thank yuo all for your stories, now I was not pretty down there to begin with I was so overweight that  not only did my belly cover the area but it had rolls of its own. lol then the weightlos came and everything went south of the border lol and yes I can relate to the 90 yr old vajayjay lol. the outside looked horrible but thank God for the hubby I have, he was only concerned with the inside lol, and that felt great. I was able to lube myself up naturally only with thinking about him. Till I had my first babyvaginally and now  I can not even recognize myself anymore. Sex is more painful because I am so dry, and hubby is not fond of using artificial lube, so yes we have come to the compromise of foreplay till i ****** that gives just enough lube for peaceful not pleasant penetration. Now since the delivery it looked like things were getting back to mormal, my husband liked the tightness, he said I felt like I was a virgin all over again, so I felt bad to tell him just how much it hurt especially when he got into his stride. All of a sudden one night after sex, I went to the rest room to clean up, and felt a big round ball the size of a grape in front of my vajayjay and I screamed it didnt hurt but I was alarmed because that didnt belong there. I paniced and called my GYN the next morning, and she told me to come in. She said I had developed a skin tag and that for some people it was small and stuck to the walls but for others it hangs off a stalk and can get as big as a grape who would have thought just my luck mine would grow to the size of a grape. So consequently, during and after sex, it swells up, because it also has a blood supply like everything else down there, and when I am not arroused, it lays flat over the opening of my vajayjay. I told hubby about it and he asked me Is it a health risk for you, I said the doc said no, he said can I still get in there? Is the hole still there? and I said yes he said then I dont have a problem with it Now I am pregnant with my second child and I am afraid that things are gonna get even more screwy down there. I stated looking up vaginoplasty the other day and checking under what cir****tances insurance would cover it lol.