Pregnancy/baby envy?

I'm guilty of feeling like the green eyed monster. I'm ready for a baby and am tired of seeing so many people on my Fb either pregnant or having a baby. I feel bad because I dont want to go to another baby shower in a long time. Anyone else feel this way? 

 i definitely felt this way. for a loooong time. its really hard to see everyone around you  (including celebrities!) getting pregnant and you're not.  its natural feeling that way. i've waited sooooo long. even before i was trying i wanted a baby for years. so trust me, i know how you feel. but it WILL happen for you.

I struggled tremendously with this issue. In 2010, 3 of my close friends and I were all TTC together. I was the ONLY one who did not conceive, on top of that I had a chemical pregnancy in June, and was devastated. I was doing everything "right" and still not getting a sticky baby. Devastated does NOT even begin to fully explain how I felt.

Then, I had to endure 3 baby showers, the births of ALL their children within 3 weeks of each other. Literally, they ALL got knocked up within weeks of each other and I was the lonely, non-pregnant friend. Deep down, I was bawling, struggling and had a referral to an RE. I went to the hospital for each of their babies arrivals, overjoyed and so elated for them, but with each month that past, I grew more and more bitter.

I didn't successfully conceive until a full year later. Now, looking back, it is kind of cool that Tatum doesn't have to share her birthday with all my friend's babies, they all have to juggle when/where to have the parties, and Tatum gets to have her own little party without competition of the other babies. I can totally relate to those feelings, and it was beyond difficult for me to cope. Just know that your friends appreciate your support.

I am guilty of that myself.  It seemed at my office everyone was either expecting a grandchild, and one of my co-workers announced he and his wife were expecting.  I was one of the few that didn't attend the baby shower for him, I admit because I just couldn't do it.  I had several losses before my surgery and even though I wasn't quite at my 18 month post-op point yet, I was was getting tired of all the happy parents and grandparents and constant talk of labor stories.  Low and behold though here I am just over 18 months post-op and surprise.  My husband and I didn't think it would happen since we weren't really trying for several months, but we didn't exactly prevent the way we should have.   I know you probably don't want to really hear this from someone now pregnant (not that other people outside of my doctors and here know, since I'm fearful of another loss), but don't feel guilty if you don't want to attend a shower.  People that really care for you and know your struggles will most likely understand, or may come to understand.

 Raising my hand and admitting to the green-eyed monster of envy (and jealously)!

It def can be difficult..i havent had such mixed emotions since my miscarriage! I feel happy for my friends but also sad because this month was my due date...so I feel envious that they went on to have healthy pregnancies and im left w no little one. But then I try to remain in prayer and hopeful that it will happen soon (told u...mixed emotions). So i def feel ur pain and can relate.....when does ur hubby come home? Isnt he in the military? Baby dust to u!

It is SO understandable and natural to have jealousy and guilty feelings over seeing everyone else around pregnant while you are struggle to get pg yourself.  It took me a year and 2 MC's until this one nestled in for the long haul.  It was SOOOOOOOO hard.  The worst part of it for me what this board.  I HATED coming to this board every day and seeing so many people daily say "woops... I got pg... how did that happen?" and I just wanted to rip their heads off and scream at them.  The worst ones were the ones that were less than a year out from their WLS and had no clue about how to change up BC after WLS.  Duh... you had a malabsorptive surgery and do you really think the pill you're injesting will actually continue to work to supress your ovulations?  *smack*  OMG... I became so bitter and hurt and angry.  Here I was... 40 yrs old (now 41) and I waited the right amount of time after my WLS and got the green light from my bari surgeon to TTC.  We tried and tried and tried and it was SO hard every month to either see the BFN and AF or a MC.  I finally had to take a serious break from this board for a few months.  It really helped for me.

Now I'm 29wks pg and super happy about it.  The silly young ones that go "woops... I'm pg after just a few short months after my WLS" still **** me off, but oh well...

Try to remember that you can do or not do anything you want.  If it's too painful for you to go to another baby shower then don't.  Be gentle with yourself and start that nurturing of yourself... you know... that nurturing that you are eager to give to a child...   Take care of you.

Imagine how people in their 30's & 40's feel who can't conceive!  That's the kicker!