Hubby's 44... too old for a baby?
Hi all,
I'll be having VSG in less than a month and I'm stoked! One of the things I'm looking forward to is ovulating again (thanks PCOS!) I'm aware of the need to wait 12-18 months and that'll put my husband at 44 and me at 33. I'd love to hear from others out there in this age range... what are the goods and bads of having a first baby later in life? Thanks for the input!
I'll be having VSG in less than a month and I'm stoked! One of the things I'm looking forward to is ovulating again (thanks PCOS!) I'm aware of the need to wait 12-18 months and that'll put my husband at 44 and me at 33. I'd love to hear from others out there in this age range... what are the goods and bads of having a first baby later in life? Thanks for the input!
I am 39 and will be 40 the day after baby is due, Hubby is turning 44 this year. This is our first, we had a hard haul getting here, but we are now 14weeks 4 days along. We have been trying for almost 18 years. I have severe pcos and since my rny a few years ago I started ovulating, something I rarely did before surgery, I have been pregnant 4 previous times in the past 2 years all resulting in mc's but so far #5 is sticky. Good Luck!!!
No reservations, but kinda thought the same thing about DH retiring when the child graduates. I also looked at it this way, when my child decides to make us Grandparents (hopefully one day) if they decide to do it early we will be of grandparent age. LOL Not like my mom becoming a grandma at 38 thanks to my brother. We are just excited to be having a baby and getting a chance to raise a child. I do believe we are too old to consider adoption (not totally checked out this theory) so we feel our options were slimming.
My father was 49 when I was born, and I also have a younger sister, he was 51 when she was born. My Mom was younger, obviously. I had a great childhood and he was an amazing father: mature, respectful, and most importantly ready to be a parenty. He had already had his *glory* days long before I was born or he met and married my Mom. Being older meant he had finished his education, had a stable career and income, and was able to provide a roof over his kid's head and food on the table. I never felt "weird" having an older Dad, he was just MY Dad. It was weird being the youngest of all the cousins and some of my cousins are in their 40's, 50s and my aunts and uncles on my Dad's side got confused as my grandparents, and even my Dad, but oh well. I think to each his own and 44 is not OLD to have kids.
Ditto what the others said! My hubby turned 41 3 days after our last baby was born and I will be 39 at the end of this month! I have 2 older children from a previous marriage and we have a 3.5 year old and 3 month old together. I find I have more tolerance now then I did in my 20's. I think there are many great reasons to have kids later. I too worry about the ages we will be when the younger 2 are out of school and I hope we will be able to see all our grandbabies! Nowadays people are living longer than they did years back due to better life styles! I say go for it!
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on 1/24/12 1:45 am - HI
on 1/24/12 1:45 am - HI
I am 40 and my husband is 57 and I am pregnant right now.....