venting

ok guys i dnt have any other place but here....i dont understand man...i cant stand mine acctually i broke up w him and i want him to dissapear from my life...many issues and not enough time to go on w the list short version...we both a little older wanted kids for over 15 yrs and could not have any for either one previous marriages and all...well was blessed with my 20 month old now and thankfully preggos w my second....HE DOENST EVEN KNW HOW FAR I AM OR MY DUE DATE IF that tell yall anything!! with my first he was completely hands on appointments, medications, sonos, everything!!! and with my second nothing!! at all well **** i dont need him regardles ...heres my biggest thing he gives me 100.00 a week for my little girl, i work full time and i changed jobs due to my schedule...and because i refuse to have my daughter all day long being taken care by someone else and not be able to enjoy her after soo much...well lets just say i went from making 18.00+hr with benefits, paid days off , vacation and all the works for a 9.00hr no benefits no nothing ....i pay 105.00 on day care alone and he refuses to help me he said i should be able to make it on that and the fact that he pays for my and my babys health insurance!!! really ?? and this is a God fearing man that proclaims to live right and love his kid more than life itself? sooo im lost and so dissapointed!! to me hes worse than a dead beat dad cause he knws how it is and still makes the choice of being a dick!! so i guess child support is gonna be...he tells me if i file he will take me to court for custody ....mmmm well see how that goes... i just wish he would dissapear!
sorry just needed to vent! :(

I would go through the courts to get child support! They will calculate it based on what you both make and if he decides he wants to miss a payment or more, it will be recorded in their records and will be past due child support. If you accept cash from him without going through the courts and he misses a payment, it's your loss and not his.....meaning he wouldn't get in trouble for it or they wouldn't go after him to collect it! Let him threaten to take you to court for full custody. If the child is in your care now, you take care of her all the time and there is NO legitimate reason for him to have custody (talking about neglect, drug or alcohol abuse, etc), then they would never approve his wishes! I'm sure they will try to establish parenting time for him. From experience, if there is parenting established, make sure you write everything down on a calander such as if when he picks up and drops off kids (especially if he late or early without warning) and if he don't pick them up for whatever reason. By doing this, I was able to prove my ex-husband wasn't responsible with his time with the kids and they took over half his time away from him! I continue to write the stuff done because you never know when he might decide he wants more time with them or try to gain more custody (which he tried to do half and half and of course didn't go through....he didn't even bring the paperwork they asked to be filled out.....LOL). Anyways, if you have question**** me up.....I will give you my experience! Kerri

I am sorry hes not bein active during this pregnancy. The best thing u can do is to file with the courts for child support and custody. If youve allready been doing the primary parenting and they have no reason to find you unfit they will most likely give u full custody and him some visitations. Just like PP said write down if hes late early etc when picking the kids up and dropping off. You in the long run have to do what is right for you and your kids not what he wants. I personaly dont have exsperince with custody and child support as I gave up on really persuing it b/c at this point my daughter is 11 months old and he hasent seen her or done anything and me and my daughter are doing well with the help of my family. I did file for child support but things are moving so slow its rediculus. I wish u luck and hope he comes to his sinces.