Mean comments about names.

Okay. I know I have not been pregnant long now but it's always fun to look at names and wonder what you will name your baby boy/girl. So My husband and I had decided to not find out the sex of this baby because we already have a boy and a girl. We want to be surprised so we decided somewhat on one of each for names. I told my family first and I got some "Okay" comments. Not excited sounding but the Oh-OKAY kind of tone. Then I tell my Hubby's family today and I got all kinds of rude comments. 

We like the name Theodore James (Teddy) for a boy and Bianca Danielle for a girl. My FIL actually made a disgusted throw up look when we said "Theodore" and said that he would be known as one of the chipmunks. Then he said that he's just going to call him "Ed." I wanted to slap him. What's wrong with people anymore? It's not their kid to name nor their decision to make! I guess I am feeling let down by our family, they could have been a little nicer. 

I feel like looking at other names now and then not telling them what we will be calling him/her until after the baby is born, but I do like these names still also. I just want my family to respect our new baby's name and not cut it up.

 First big congrats on your pregnancy!!! I can't see how far along you are, but I am also pregnant and due May 11th, 2012.  I ran into same issue with family and names for my children.  I ended up changing names a few times.  Then I finally just didn't say anything and named them what I wanted and it was a surprise to all.  I still heard comments.  Very aggravating!!! I like the names you picked out.  And if you do, that's all that matters.  Good luck!!!

I like both of the names that you picked out.

Remember when the rest of your family has something to do with making the baby, they can have a say in naming the baby, but until then it's yours and your DH's decision.

I'm sorry they did that to you.  I like both of the names and if you like them, you shouldn't care what others think.  When we told my MIL that we were naming out son Liam, she was like, "I don't like it."  Hubby was like, too bad, that's what we are naming him.  She also told me to my face that she hated my middle name when she found out what it was.  I couldn't believe how rude she was but she's old and set in her ways.

I say, find the names that you love and just don't tell anyone until the baby is born and if they don't like it, tough.  It's your baby and like a previous poster said, when they have a part in making the baby, then they can help with the name, until then, it is you and your DH's decision.

Good luck!!

Yah we told people our names Isabella and Reese and people were hater too. Screw them there my kids. Of your happy then who cares.
Jessica

I love the name of both your kids. My baby that was still born almost 4 most ago is named Reese Abigail. Honestly when I read your posts it makes me sad, but only because I want my Reese like you have yours.

I am very sorry for your loss. Now that I wrote this message it seems so stupid to be upset over what people think of the choices in names we like. I hope you can move forward and hold that precious baby you have been dreaming about in your arms soon. I do know what it is like to loose a baby. I lost my son at 26 weeks gestation. I held him as he took his last breath. That was back in 1998. You NEVER forget the loss, but time does help heal the pain of the loss. You didn't loose your daughter not too long ago now so give yourself that time to find a place where you can move forward with life. This may be opinionated some but I would look into a support group on line or in your area of living that supports the loss of a baby. Coming on pregnancy websites whether it's this one or another one can only deepen your depression. You need to be able to connect with other women who are also seeking emotional support with this type of tragedy. I hope that is not too forward but coming from someone who buried a baby I know what you are going through.

It is hard to come on here and read about everybody happy endings but at the same time I cant pull myself away....its like a constant tug of war. Does that make me crazy or something. There are local support groups here and even the hospital where i delivered has one but i haven't attended one. I know my baby died but going to a support group just seems like a way of officially acknowledging something that I don't want to be real

First off..congratulations on your pregnancy.  Secondly..I totally hear you about the rude comments some people make about names you may like for YOUR child.  With my daughter...I made her name up out of a combination of names my BF was throwing at me that he liked.  When i told my family what the name was I got some of those..OH OKAY and Why...My response was..its our daughter and we love the name so whatever.  People are gonna call her what they want no matter what.  But MYANAH SOLEI is an awesome name....lol.  

Now I am pregnant again (yes they will only be a year apart) and found out its a boy and we have chosen ARIES XAVIER.  I've already gotten the..OH OKAY I guess....and the UMM WHY.  I love the name, it has meaning, and its different.   

So my advice for you....its your baby...if you like the name...go with it.  If others don't like it tell them where to go...lol!

 My mom hated the name Sabrina, she kept saying it was the name of a teenage witch!  Now, she loves it.  I wouldn't worry about others opinions about your choices.