CD 20 and still no ovulation!
Meli,
So sorry you have been going thru so much!! I've been crazy busy with school and such but wanted to let you know that you are TOTALLY NORMAL!! After so many years of TTC and not being able to I could almost retire if I had a dollar for each time I heard the dreaded "Just relax" mantra from those who have never had to really try to have a baby. Anyhoo, I can tell you one thing: Breathe, I mean really take a deep breath and let yourself feel whatever you need to feel. I tried to be a stoic pokerfaced person when I really wanted to yell, cry and punch a wall and instead I swallowed all that pain just to make others "comfortable" and to not cause concern. Then one day I blew up and then I knew I needed to go see someone and work through the peaks and valleys of infertility. I'm not saying that this is what is going on with you, I just recognize many of your frustrations in my own journey.
Have you thought of joining another online group for support? Hannah's Prayer is an excellent resource that you may want to check out. Infertility is clinically defined as one year of active trying with no pregnancy for women under 35 and 6 months for women over 35. The average time to conceive has been moved up from 6 months to a full year to almost 18 months, per recent reports. Please PM me if you want my number and need someone to chat with "in real time."
Another thing that has helped me ALOT is the Circle and Bloom meditations, they are not cheap but if you need financial assistance to get it there is a online form you can fill out and get the program that way. To me it was worth every penny I paid for it. You are so sweet Meli, I wish you well, hang in there hun!
EstherStar
So sorry you have been going thru so much!! I've been crazy busy with school and such but wanted to let you know that you are TOTALLY NORMAL!! After so many years of TTC and not being able to I could almost retire if I had a dollar for each time I heard the dreaded "Just relax" mantra from those who have never had to really try to have a baby. Anyhoo, I can tell you one thing: Breathe, I mean really take a deep breath and let yourself feel whatever you need to feel. I tried to be a stoic pokerfaced person when I really wanted to yell, cry and punch a wall and instead I swallowed all that pain just to make others "comfortable" and to not cause concern. Then one day I blew up and then I knew I needed to go see someone and work through the peaks and valleys of infertility. I'm not saying that this is what is going on with you, I just recognize many of your frustrations in my own journey.
Have you thought of joining another online group for support? Hannah's Prayer is an excellent resource that you may want to check out. Infertility is clinically defined as one year of active trying with no pregnancy for women under 35 and 6 months for women over 35. The average time to conceive has been moved up from 6 months to a full year to almost 18 months, per recent reports. Please PM me if you want my number and need someone to chat with "in real time."
Another thing that has helped me ALOT is the Circle and Bloom meditations, they are not cheap but if you need financial assistance to get it there is a online form you can fill out and get the program that way. To me it was worth every penny I paid for it. You are so sweet Meli, I wish you well, hang in there hun!
EstherStar
aww thats so sweet! thank you so much for caring so much. that makes me feel better. and just knowing that people get the reason i hate hearing "relax" helps a lot too. even though i know ppl are only trying to help.
well i hear you. you make good points. i see myself as someone who needs a forum to talk to other ppl in my situation but i also keep people at arms length. thats why this site works really well for me. for the stuff i need to just get off my chest i have a baby blog that no one reads but me. and its helped me a lot, not only to get out all my thoughts without boring ppl, but it helps me keep track of everything thats going on with this TTC journey.
i know i haven't been trying that long. doesn't make it any less frustrating though. i'm so impatient and i've been wanting this for so long. more than anyone i know. and its hard to see all your friends get pregnant without even trying.
but the ladies on this forum are so awesome. talking to them makes me feel a lot better. i get so excited to get on here and see what people are posting about. lol.
thanks for your concern. and for the tips. :) you're so sweet.
well i hear you. you make good points. i see myself as someone who needs a forum to talk to other ppl in my situation but i also keep people at arms length. thats why this site works really well for me. for the stuff i need to just get off my chest i have a baby blog that no one reads but me. and its helped me a lot, not only to get out all my thoughts without boring ppl, but it helps me keep track of everything thats going on with this TTC journey.
i know i haven't been trying that long. doesn't make it any less frustrating though. i'm so impatient and i've been wanting this for so long. more than anyone i know. and its hard to see all your friends get pregnant without even trying.
but the ladies on this forum are so awesome. talking to them makes me feel a lot better. i get so excited to get on here and see what people are posting about. lol.
thanks for your concern. and for the tips. :) you're so sweet.
i wanted to try to wait till i missed my period. just because i know its probably gonna come. but maybe i'll test tomorrow. thats like...3-4 days b4 i'm supposed to get it. but i'm putting it off. lol. i don't want to get a negative test. i feel like the morei put it off the more chance i have lol.
but thanks! i was waiting to hear your response. now i might even test tonight. lol.
but thanks! i was waiting to hear your response. now i might even test tonight. lol.
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