Moms with 3 or more children

I am looking for others experience.

A little background: I am not new here but haven't posted in quite some time. I have two daughters, Nylah,3 and Savannah, 2. My husband has recently been talking about having another baby, he would like to try for a boy. So my question is, how do you ladies with 3 or more children do it? Especially working mothers? I currently work full time, my oldest goes to Preschool all day and my youngest is in a home daycare both of which I pay $1200 combined a month. If I got pregnant next year both my girls would be in preschool when I had the 3rd. I have a little anxiety about a 3rd for the financial aspect since I would have 3 children to pay for until Nylah went to regular school and my fear is I wouldn't be able to work and I like working out of the home.

So your experience please.....what you like about having 3 or more/dislike? Should I wait longer until they are both in school, but then I wonder do I want to have a newborn again at that time. Your input would be great! Thanks ladies!

Hi there,  I have 2 older children (almost 13 and 10.5 from a previous marriage), a 3 year old and currently expecting my 4th child (both from my current marriage).  However, our situations are completely different.  I'm a stay-at-home mom and wont have 3 very small children at one time.  I think you need to weigh all your options out.  What if the 3rd child is another girl....how would that make you and hubby feel?  How would you and hubby handle 3 small children (some people are cut out for this.....some are not)?  Could you swing it financially (by scaling things back and giving up some extras?), or would it cause you to occur more debt? 

I have no idea how old you are, but I know for myself being older with my last child has given me more patience and I've throughly enjoyed having him!  It also makes things much easier for me to have the age gap between the older 2 and my younger one.  I wasn't planning on having more children after my older 2, but my marriage to their dad wasn't a good one.  When I met my current husband, I wasn't sure I wanted more children or how it would be to have an infant (and basically "restart" all over again but I wouldn't change a thing!  So I suggest you weigh all your options and do what feels right for you and your hubby!  If something don't feel right, then it usually isn't, but if it does, then it is! Good luck in your decision!

 Hi I had my first 3 kids in 41 months.  It was crazy, loud, hectic and fun! I was totally overwhelmed for a while and going to work was a break!! LOL It also made me appreciate my little peanuts and I always loved coming home to them.  I had a lot of family help.  My hubby worked mostly nights at the time so I would work during the day and get the kids from him (We would meet at his work) in the afternoon on the days he worked nights.  The other 2 days they were all 3 in daycare.  It was pricey, but my boss gave us a stipend.  When my husband had to work more we switched over to a nanny.  (Again, my boss contributed to her salary).  When my oldest was 6(my son), my girls were 4 & 3, and my son got very sick.  They thought it was Leukemia. (Thank God it was not it is a platelet disorder called ITP) I cut back my work hours and then found out we were expecting #4.  Having that large (nearly 5 year) space between #3 & #4 has been soooo fun!! The older kids are so helpful and we all really enjoy "the baby".  When the other 3 were little...they were all babies, so I feel like they sort of missed out on the special attention that this one is getting.  On the flip side,they are all 3 very close and very protective of each other now that they are all in school together. So, there is good and bad in either choice (waiting or doing it quickly.) but you have to do what your hearts are leading you to.  Either way, I am sure you will be glad with whatever path your family chooses.  Having a family is such a blessing.

Well.....I have three and am currently pregnant with my 4th.  I work full time (will not work after baby comes though because....I just want to be a full time mom for awhile)....but with my three.....they were all in full time daycare until my older two went to school...it's a big of juggling the checkbook to make it work....but in the end.....it does work it's self out.

For me...going from two to three kids....wasn't that difficult.