Today Perinatologist Appointment

was a real waste of time!!! and I left there crying and depressed. He basically told me that he could keep me PG but the RE would have to help me get PG- so basically I waited for you for 45 minutes to tell me that there is nothing you can do for me???  When we went and saw him last year he told us, "if you aren't PG within 6 months of trying come back and see me and I'll get you PG".  He said b/c of my age that he would be aggressive about it and started talking about HSG's and hysteroscopes and IVF. I said "whoa, I thought I would be walking out of here with a prescription for clomid and see you back here in a couple of months of trying or when I got pg". He wants the RE to order labs and other stuff like an ultrasound and maybe an analyst for DH. I called my OB/GYN, that I go to see next month anyway for my annual to ask their opinion on what they think is my next step.

Sorry for the vent, I'm trying not to be discouraged, but it's hard....

wow.  he really didnt do anything did he? what a jerk.  I think you should seek a second opinion.....

good luck darlin!

I am so sorry to hear this, you must be so devastated! I am sorry I have no words of wisdom, or can say I have been there, I can only imagine how horrible this is for you!

Whatever the next step is, I hope that it brings joy to you and your family.

Cheers,
Carrie

 WTF?!!! ughhhhh!!!! this makes me so anrgy. they waste our time, they get our hopes up and they do NOTHING. i've had so many docs like this. its like they just want the co-pay. i'm so sorry. but f-him for now. just focus on seeing your OB/GYN and get some info from them and i would make an apt with an RE. my RE is really great. he's very caring and he treats every patient like they're his special project and i really appreciate it bc i've had so many docs that don't care. they just wanna get you in and out.

i know you must feel REALLY deflated right now. just know this isn't over!! just on to the next step. 

I agree w/the previous poster...get a second opinion.  This dr sounds like an arrogant ass making promises he has no way of knowing if he can keep. Regarding pushing the IVF etc...I too heard that from the first dr I saw here in Bulgaria...b/c he operates an IVF clinic.  That's the bread and butter for them...clomid doesn't make near as much money for them as IVF treatments.  Sad to say it does seem to all come to money...but it does for some drs.  You need to find one who doesn't run straight for IVF and lead one to think it's a miracle 'cure.'

Best wishes.

Im sorry love to have hope then not hear what you want.Cant your regular OB just gie you cloimid mine did several years ago when I was having problems getting pregnant.I hate the fact they use womens age.I wish you the best of luck and will keep praying for you!

I'm sorry :( I don't have any advice because I havent worked with a specialist yet. I hope you are able to get the assistance you need and are able to start with clomid!

That is crazy I would get another opinion as well. I will be praying for you!!

Victoria,

Never worry about venting here.  Always feel free to let it go, especially in situations like the one you're experiencing not.  I am so sorry for your awful appointment today.  What an absolutely terrible experience. 

I hope that the labs were ordered as STAT because if he is worried about your age, then time is important.  I also hope, as others have recommended, you are able to get a second opinion very quickly.  It seems as though you are not going to be completely comfortable with this doctor.

Good luck my darling.  Keep us posted and as I said, vent whenever you need to!

Jenn

Sorry for your frustration and let down. I agree with some of the other posters... I would see a second opinion.  I don't know how old you are... but it doesn't make sense to start with the simplest intervention... i.e. Clomid, rather than jumping to talk of hysteroscopes and IVF!!!

Hope you find some better answers soon!