Off Topic! Should I be upset?

Ok so I see a few people on here talk about (or rather vent) stuff that bugs the crap outta them!
So let me know if I should be 'upset' (to put nicely)
My oldest brother has planned a trip with his girlfriend! I cannot stand her!
She tries to keep him to herself! She is so possessive. He cant do a damn thing!
He will be missing my daughters first birthday!
I am beyond angry!
I dont let my kids call his girlfriend Aunt because she's NOT! She wont be an Aunt unless they get married! (call me old fashion) Its just what I do. I dont judge what others do at all!
She is so P*ssed because I dont allow it!
So now he says that my kids dont have to call him uncle. Just call him by his name!
Ummmm..... no!!! We respect our family! He is their uncle therefore they will call him Uncle!
Uhhhhh.... GRRRRRR!!!!
Anyways I had to get that out!
Should I be angry?
Or should I just let it go?!
Thank you to anyone *****sponds!
I dont usually get too many responce's on here lol!!!

I can see why you would be upset, but you need to let it go!  It's beyound your control that your brother and his girlfriend planned a trip on your daughters 1st birthday.  They are the ones missing out.....not you and she wont remember who is there anyways!  As far as calling her aunt, I agree with you....unless they are married, she isn't officially their aunt!  If your brother don't like that, he needs to deal with it.  However, I do agree that your kids should still call him unlce and that is the way you should teach them.  Sounds like he is overreacting with his girlfriends feelings and telling you to have them call him by his 1st name.  I don't see where it should matter to him, he is their uncle regardless and should be fine with whatever they decide to call him!  As far as his girlfriend is concerned, you don't have to like her...but ultimately it's your brothers life and he decides who he wants in it.  As long as she is a part of his life, be as nice as you can to her and try to accept his decision.  Having and/or making conflict don't solve anything!......This is jmo though....take it as you may.

I think you have a right to be upset that he is missing her first birthday if your family makes a big deal out of the first birthday party. I, however, think you are placing the blame on the wrong person. He is an adult and she can't "make" him plan a trip. It was probably a mutual decision as to the timing. You seem to have issues with his girlfriend before this and I think it makes her an easy target for your anger.
She needs to respect your decision to not call her "Aunt" until they are married, but soming from someone who waited 12+ years for a propsal, your kids will think of her as an Aunt if she is around long enough, no matter what she is called.
I think it would be good to clear the air with her about the issues the two of you have, but place the blame for your bother missing her party squarly on his sholders. You should tell him how hurt you are by his timing of a vacation and maybe they can reschedule or something.

Good luck!

Kim

I totally get you on this one.My brother had a few girlfriends and we did the whole Aunt thing well when they come and go its just not right so we stopped it.he should still be uncle.Just a word to the wise even though you dont like her be nice or you will never see your brother been there done that.Sad to say but he has a say and needs to speak up so its just not her I learned that to.I wish you the best of luck.I so feel you!

how old are they? if they are young i wouldnt bother being upset... my 18 yoa brother has yet to be to one of my kids parties.. my other brother has been to them all.. hes 21... my youngest brother is just to busy  with his friends to come.. and really i dont expect either of them too.. they know they are invited and we just leave it at that... they ( my brothers and my kids ) still exhchange gifts at bdays and holidays... my brothers are called uncle so and so... they think its cool and makes them feel adult like... plus they think its funny because my kids really cant say uncle LOL.. i wouldnt be mad at your brother.. he picked a loser.. pray they will break up and move on

My brother is almost 36 and shes close to 38
I pray all the time that they will break up!
Its been 2 years theyve been together and a year theyve been living together!
EVERYONE cant stand her!
Shes so rude.
Oh please pray with me they break up!
And no they are not happy. Well they dont look happy!
she yells at him every chance she gets!
She starts crap any time any place. She doesnt care!

Your brother sounds really immature. How old is he? I married the "baby" of my Husband's family so all of his older sibilings had children before we married. I did not have them call me "Aunt Teresa" until after we had married out of respect for my SIL/BIL and also I didn't want to confuse my neices and nephews. As far as the birthday party goes I would be upset also if my brother didn't try to attend my daughter's 1st birthday. No matter if she remembered or not. What's sad is if your brother and his girlfriend don't work out he will have lost that "time" or memories he could have had with his family. Sounds like he's got his priorities a bit mixed up. He should put family first. They are all you have in the end.
 

Haha! My brother is almost 36 years old!
Hes old enough to know that this is not the best choice!
He has come to my other kids first bdays!
And now that his dumb GF is in the damn picture! (I do hate her she is not nice at all!!!)
I know he makes up his own mind in the end. But gawd! Im just so mad!
My dad said 'oh they've been planning the trip for a while now!' Ummm... news to me!!!!
Besides its not like they didnt know her birthday was coming!!! It didnt just spring up outta nowhere! Theyve known for almost a year!!! lol!
I could just suck it up and forget about it... but Im just not that type!
I could just tollorate(sp) her to make face! But... Im far from that girl!
I dont llike her, I think she is mean, not smart at all, useless!!!
I wish they had never met!!!
Im not the only one who feels this way about her either!
Ohhhhhh...... Being pregnant with my hormones and having to deal with this garnage is not what I want to do!