I want another baby!!!

My husband and I have a beautiful 3 1/2 yr old daughter (the light of our lives), and we are ready for our second child. I keep debating when we should try to conceive... I flip back and forth in my mind from waiting out the full 18 months after my RNY and just going ahead and trying to get pregnant soon (beginning in Oct). I don't think I will have any problems eating enough to support a child. My weight loss has been very S L O W. I've lost just over 40 lbs in 8 months (probably the slowest weight loss on record)... so I really don't think not getting enough to eat will be an issue whatsoever. Also, I just had my labs done, and I have no Vitamin deficiencies (though my Cholesterol is on the high side - as it's always been). We really want to try for another baby ASAP, but I also don't want to put my child at risk if there's some other reason why we shouldn't conceive so soon after my surgery. Please... could someone tell me the reasons why we are supposed to wait for 18 months???
Thanks so much!!!
Sincerely,
Leslie

Girl I know what you mean. I wanted a baby so bad I took my Mirena out and got preg that weekend. LOL. I believe we are suppose to wait because we still lose soo much weight. I got pregnant in Feb. and hadnt lost any weight in like 6 months before I got pregnant. Then when I got pregnant I lost 50 lbs. They so growth scans on the baby monthly. She is growthing beautifully! I have gain 9 lbs nows, I gained that in a month by the way. I just became soooo hungry. So I am suppose to be watching what I eat now. That's not going so well for me. I still eat!! Sending good energy to you and your family.

Thanks so much for your nice comment! At least I know I'm not alone... Best wishes to you and your growing family. I will be so happy when we're able to have another child. I really want my daughter to have a sibling, and I'm not getting any younger!!!  May the rest of your pregnancy go smoothly! Good Luck!!!  

its dangerous for you and your baby

Yes, but isn't it because most people who've had RNY lose weight rapidly (which I'm not) and because of possible vitamin deficiencies (which I don't have)? Are there other reasons that I'm unaware of? This is the question I am really asking.

Yes it still is, because you are not even a year out yet, you have no clue if you will continue to lose weight slowly, or if it will start to pick up.  Vitamins are stored in our body for months, so just because your vitamins are good now, you have no idea if that will change.  I lost 100 lbs in 3 months, then I didn't lose anything again until I hit my year mark.  I lost a total of 170 lbs, but not all at once.  At 1.5 years out I started getting severe hypoglycemia, it was scary and still takes a lot to manage it.  I waited until I was 23 months out to get pregnant, and I am glad I did.  I could hardly eat anything at 8 months out.

Okay, you've made a very good point. I guess weight loss slows down and picks back up again... However, I can eat a great amount of food. I can eat a Lean Cuisine with ease. I have been told that the upper part of my intestines are very spongy, so this allows me to eat more that the average person who's had RNY. I do dump, though it doesn't seem to deter me from eating...  I guess I really want people to tell me it's okay to have a baby now... but I know it may not be the best decision. I feel like I can eat enough to support myself and a child, but I guess the vitamin deficiencies would be a scary thing to face during pregnancy. I have also read about others who have had a perfectly healthy pregnancy having gotten pregnant earlier than recommended (but I guess this probably isn't the norm). Thank you for your comment. I am really going to think this through before coming to a decision.

Your deficency may not show up right away. I am further out and suffer more from anemia very extreme anemia as with many of us who end up needing transfusions. Our body is recovery from major surgery and a major change in the way we had our food going through. I also have issues with b12 and calcium along with a few others. Everything the 1st year or so showed up alright. We had this surgery to be healthy and better of for ourselves and many of us for our kids but the wait is there for a big reason. Its best for our body which in turn is best for the baby for us to be at the best of health.

Thank you so much!!! I really appreciate the information. I was unaware that it takes time to develop these deficiencies. Sorry to hear you're having to deal with this, as I know it must be difficult. I will take your advice to heart and continue my research. I will try not to act impulsively (though it's in my nature to do so)... Best of luck to you!!! 
Thanks again.

It is very hard to wait I know look at all of my kids listed. I also know that right now I am very weak and not much help with them which makes me sad. I am working on getting better but sometimes I wish I could have seen these issues ahead of time and been able to stop them ahead of time but sometimes they dont show up right away. It is really best to wait for your baby. They are the greatest things in the world. I got pregnant about 4 months out and had a ms and when it happens no matter what we feel guilt or blame or however you see it. When the doc tells you to wait the time its for a wonderful reason. No I did not get pregnant then on purpose. was on bc and condoms. I also was on other pills which lowered the bc pills on top of the rny. I felt awful for a very long time for that. I just know that doctors know more than we do and the time limit is not a torture even though it feels like it lol. They see more than we do.