A decision has been made..

We have decided to schedule a c-section.  In some ways I feel like a failure, I was in such a funk after my first c-section and cried over it for months.  However, I had about an hour chat with my fave OB of the practice, and we discussed all the risks ect...  He said the risks occur rarely but when they do they are "catastrophic." 

He also said because my hospital does not do vbacs, if I wanted one I would have to switch to one of 2 hospitals that preform them, which I knew.  But then he told me he works with all of those doctors and 99% of the time they lead you to believe you will have a vbac but the entire time they are really planning your c-section.  He said they will break your water, let you labor, then by the end of the day if you are not pushing they will preform a c-section.  And in our child birth class last time the nurse there echoed the same sentiments saying that the mal practice insurance in NJ is SO high no one wants to risk it.

So based on these facts, and also knowing I may have another problem with IUGR, we went ahead and said we would schedule it.  The tentative date right now is Feb 10.  I have 7 months to deal with it now, so I know as time goes on I will be more at peace with my decision.  I just wish I never had the first one so I never had to make this decision but those things cannot be changed.  I have a plan this time, daddy will cut the cord, grandma (my mom) will watch right outside the window, and the baby will be brought over to me right after birth (unlike last time).

 i totally feel for you. i would have felt the same way. but in the end the most important thing is the baby and your safety and as long as the baby comes out safe thats all that matters. and you do have control because you are deciding to do this after much deliberation. unlike you would if you were promised a vbac and then were told last minute you were getting a c-section. so its the best decision you could make given the cir****tances. sounds like a great plan :)

I'm really glad they were honest with you about everything! I can't imagine going along the whole time thinking you're going to have a vbac and the emotional trauma of going through everything only to have a csection anyways. Its good that you have a plan and your ob is supportive and honest!

Its nice that you got the choice of c section OR vbac this time!
I dont get to choose! :-(
But it IS all about a healthy baby in the end!
Have a happy pregnancy!

Ok I know you didn't want to have a c section....but look on the "bright" side you can pick when your little one arrives.....or rather at least you will know when he/she will arrive so you can plan childcare for your dd! Right now I'm dealing with the waiting game (I'm due Monday the 25th) and every day is a waiting game! Plus at least with a section date you can tell people when the baby will arrive. I'm getting the daily "so when us the baby coming"...hello if I had it my way it would have been already! And the good news is that the dr said she won't let me go much past 41 weeks (tHAnks!)

Try not to feel too bad about your decision, you want to do what's safest and best for your own decision. The important thing is that you are healthy as is the baby! Good luck!

Courtney

A planned C section really is much better than having it sprung on you after trying to push for hours. Here's some positives that you can think about that might help you feel better about having to get another C section:

- No labor!!!!
- You'll be rested when you get to hold your baby for the first time and may look good in your pics!
- You can plan the day and have people ready to watch Sage and hubby can get time off of work scheduled.
- it doesn't hurt having sex for the first time post partum
- you get to stay in the hospital for a little longer and have the nurses help you for the first few days (take advantage of that!).

Just thought I'd try to tell you about a few things for you to look forward too.

Bless your heart!  I know how you feel.  Even with all the added assurances, something hurts in us knowing we won't have the child naturally....

I had my daughter naturally, and it was terrifying...  she had Apgar of 2 and then 7, she was blue and floppy, had to be resuscitated, thank God, after only 2 breaths, she was breathing on her own and didn't even have to go to the NICU, but I've never been more frightened in my life.

Because of this and the fact I had a terrible tear with her, even though she was only 6 pounds... when my son was born, (projected to be 11 pounds) The doctor and I decided we'd deliver him Cesarian.  It was hard for me.... it's not the same not being able to take the little one directly in your arms....  BUT, knowing that they are safe certainly outweighs that sadness. 

I know the disappointment... but, the control you gain by knowing it will be a section is really a benefit... try to focus on that.

I wish you peace!!  It will all be good!!

Best wishes,
Linda