Heres The Deal

Pee baby pee!  Prayers and good vibes being sent your way!

im preying for a positive

Well doctor told me not to do it tell Monday and I did it....................... nothing.I should have waited he told me it wouldnt read tell Monday if I was having implation this past monday so if nothing come Monday will try again.Got my hopes up to soon.Guess my body is off track.

Thinking of you... am so glad you are back on the baby-making track.  Maybe it is too early for the test but if not, 25 more days.

J

I understand your points/opinions. However, I am one of those that have a difficult time with the mental aspect of gaining weight and physical changes that come with pregnancy. Not that I am any less overjoyed, or grateful that we were able to conceive without assistance after 14 months of TTC and 2 chemical pregnancies that were devastating losses, or that I've had a healthy pregnancy up to this point. I simply think it is wrong to deny, or negate those feelings and fears. I want to make it very clear, at the ripe age of 34, I'm well aware that weight gain happens in a pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to accept, or have a rational fear of not being able to lose it after the baby arrives.

For me, being aware of the issues and being able to seek support from others that have struggled with the same fears, is one step in making the necessary changes to navigate througha  pregnancy post-WLS,  lose the baby weight and not lose our minds in the process. My best friend was so mad at me for being upset about the physical changes, and weight gain. We talked about it, she thinks I should just be grateful that I'm pregnant, and thriving. BUT, when I told her that it's kind of like she had this well-written, best laid plan of a birth plan laid out, written out and recorded in her L&D chart, none of that happened because she went into labor early and delivered a preemie, had to have an emergency c-section. At 2.5 years after delivery, and her son is thriving, perfectly healthy, she still feels robbed of her "birth plan" and is resentful to this very day about it. When in my mind, she should just be grateful to have a healthy child after a traumatic entrance into this world. So, I think we all have different needs/wants in pregnancy, L&D and even parenting. Mine happens to be a very rational fear of getting fat again, and trying to deal with the weight redistribution, aches and pains of packing on 18-20lbs already and it's all in my stomach. I want to be able to share those feelings without being told that it's selfish, or unrealistic. Going into TTC, I knew I'd gain weight, I also know I'll lose it, I think it's a lot more of a mental and emotional concept that some people would like to just deny. I would rather grab hold of it, and work on those issues now instead of being resentful and angry post-delivery. I realize every day just how lucky I am. I'm just not naive enough to sit back and coast through weight gain as if it doesn't matter.

I'm right with you I feel the same.....but there are just so many out there who   don't  realize how lucky they should be.Yes I worried about my weight.You see so many post were they seem ungratefully about getting pregnant and the weight or if their body's cant withhold it. Well if your body cant with hold it be safer then what you were.I have an 8 year old and it took six years of trying tell I gave up and had my surgery waited 19 months like my doctor said used pills and back up as well and when time came bam I was pregnant and at 25 weeks lost my girls after watching both die in my arms and to see one for 12 days before passing.My point here was if your not ready to gain weight or be pregnant be safe use pills back ups what ever.

I think for you and I and others here we knew this is what we wanted we knew what was going to happen and yes we don't like the idea of gaining weight but we were going to deal with it to get healthy babies and we were safe going through the process.