Heres The Deal

Normal I'm a very nice person and several of you have me on facebook and know that but man something is really bothing me here and you all will know were I'm coming from on this

I understand and know there are a lot of women who have troubles getting pregnant and I was one of them so I hate when I hear someone complaining about their weight and whats going to happen to them and how big they are going to get or if their body's can with hold it or if they are pregnant these are my symptoms.We all know our body's don't absorber well so if you don't want to be pregnant use back up method as well.

I'm not saying any of this to be mean but ......

One having a baby your going to gain weight

Two if your body cant withhold a pregnancy that must mean your doctor said so why are you pregnant.

Three if your pregnant dont come here asking about symptoms go to your doctors.I'm telling you this from the heart by saying this doctors can even miss things they may not even see something.I lost two beautiful girls one day shy of 25 weeks because I got e coli were not doctors here we can only tell you what we went through

If you don't want to gain weight  then having a baby isn't for you.Don't get me wrong I was but that wasn't the first thing on my mind I didn't ask questions about weight I knew its a given I still have 14 pounds to loss and already trying to me a healthy baby is more important.

Really I wish the best for everyone and best of luck but some people just don't realize how lucky they are.

xoxo Jen

You are a sweetie Jennifer and I don't think anyone would argue with that. It is upsetting to me to, reading certain posts on here. I usually don't say anything cause I've got no balls :)
Those of us who have experienced loss especially are probably even more sensitive. People who are worried about becoming pregnant should do everything in their power to prevent it! I know accidents still happen... but most people know what they are risking when they slack on the birth control. I know I certainly did.
I get you on the weight gain thing too. I think sometimes people complain about the weight gain for attention. But I can also imagine that a lot of people are sensitive to the weight gain because of our history of obesity. I think most people are just venting. Maybe when I am safely pregnant I will feel comfortable enough to vent and complain about things like that. Its hard to imagine right now. I will be so greatful to be healthfully pregnant... I imagine that I will never be in a bad mood again ever! LOL

I am keeping my fingers crossed for you that your next precious baby is waiting in the wings! Who knows... maybe you've already got a little bean in there ;)

you know how i feel about this.

Healthy baby more important and healthy mama too. If that even means putting on weight. I had kids presurgery and i have had one post surgery and post panni. When I found out i was pregnant, first thing out of my mouth was..."what do i need to do to insure that i have a healthy pregnancy possible and baby?"...I didnt care if i was going to gain weight, did it scare me? hell yeah! I gained the weight AFTER i had Q. no shock there, samething happened with my others. I made sure that I didnt gain AS MUCH as what I did with previous 3. Now working my damndest to get it off, not so much for the vanity part, but for the healthy part. have had to back off this past week because i had a cyst pop by my eye and it got staph infection in it.

My back is hurtin more, my hip started to hurt again because of the extra weight and believe me, i am gettin that weight off so I dont have to go back on the pain pills etc. For those of you who have had hard times to get pregnant and are pregnant now? count your blessings...for those of you who are still trying? good luck lots of baby dust...

Dont forget what the "books and drs say is a healthy amount of weight gain through pregnancy is anywhere between 15~30lbs" most of that is basically baby weight. You will lose majority of it the day you deliver and with in the next couple of weeks post baby.

For those of you who are a few months out from surgery and got pregnant and you werent ready to be? you were warned on here, your surgeon and other places youve done research. IF you didnt want to get pregnant "right a way" then you shouldve doubled up on the BC or had better options. The babies you have had, or are pregnant with are gifts to you. YES we know what each of us are feelin when we get pregnant at first. The weight will come back, yes weight will come back, temporarily. These surgeries are a tool in weightloss, and we were lucky to have it done. OUR responsibility to make sure we use these tools right and according. I was freakin out during my pregnancy because i WASNT gaining weight. Ironic, dont you think?

Wish there was a like button like both your guys post!

Jennifer i completly understand! My husband and I have been married almost 10 years and have been trying to have a baby for most of it. the only thing that was causeing problems was my weight making me infirtal. So i went and had the VSG for 2 reason 1 to be healthy and 2 to be able to have children. I lost the weight a right at a year i came up preg. Supriced the pants off of me i thought that i would have to get treatment to help me along but it was really truly the weight that kept me from having children. 

I havnt thought about or werried about the weight gain, all i really want is a healthy baby and pregnancy.

Im sending you some sticky baby dust

Hi Jen,

I am one of the symptom posters and I am sorry if I have upset anyone with my many posts about my pre-natal bumps along the road.  I try to be wary about posting things that a ridiculous, but honestly I am simply looking for someone who has "been there, done that."  I do report everything to my OB, but sometimes anecdotes make me feel more secure.  I found that posting on another OH board in the few months before and after my RNY invaluable in dealing with symptoms and normal vs not so normal.

Again, if my posts have seemed insensitive to anyone, I am sorry.  I have misunderstood the purpose of the board.   I do realize that I am lucky to have conceived without intervention and to have so far carried a healthy baby to 34 weeks.  I have just had a very difficult time this pregnancy and have found the board helpful when it comes to questions that pop up.  Of course I have my husband, friends, family, and OB to help me through, but it helps to have the board as a support network.

I will be more careful about my posts.  

Jenn

 

Love your fine people are going to do that I do it we all do but there are just some that really seem like its something they don't want.You can tell the difference in people with whats more important.Hell I don't want the weight on but I want a baby and it needs to be healthy so in other words  can care less how big I get when I get pregnant.I had my surgery for that reason because my weight and couldn't.I have room with weight to play with I got alot smaller then what I thought I would as long as I don't end up over 160 after all said and done I'm good now don't get me wrong would love to stay at 125-130 but since girls I'm holding at 145 and I'm good there.

This board is meant to talk about pregnancy issues post WLS!!!! Its totally appropriate to "complain" or worry about things etc. It helps us newbies know what to expect. Its more the random posts with people insensitively complaining or freaking out about being pregnant too soon (when they didn't do anything to prevent it) etc. that bug me.

Thanks Nikki.  One of my issues - super sensitive and not wanting to bug others! 
J

k now off to store to get a pee stick LOL.......oh please pray I want this I hope I will have no period and its just not my body messing up!