Went off on MIL.. Long

**I am deleting this post in a day or two because I don't know if she stalks this site**

And so did hubby!!!!  Long story short, we live 30 minutes from her in PA right now.  We are buying a house in NJ because we cannot afford to live in Bucks county (PA, it's super rich).  Hubby works in PA still, and we NEED to settle down somewhere.  We are buying a house in central Jersey.  30 minutes from my family and 45 minutes from his, keep in mind we are 30 minutes away now.

So she offered to come watch Sage last night so we could go to a movie.  While we were out at dinner (Russ and I) he told me that his mom had come to his work during the day and started going on and on about how we need to "Have a meeting to schedule when she will see Sage."  Umm Soooo when Russ told her I would be staying at my moms for the 3 weeks before our house closes instead of his house (he will be staying there because it's close to work) she FLIPPED out, stomped off and slammed her car door and left.

WELL... he told me this while we were out.  I didn't know what I was going to say when I got home, but I was thinking of she didn't bring it up, I was going to let it go.  Well when we walked in she goes "I hear you're going to your moms for those 3 weeks.  Don't you think you should stay at our house so I can at least see my grand daughter before you move an hour away" (37 miles people, 37.)  To which I responded-  Your house is too small for all three of us to be there for 3 weeks.  My mom also wants to see her granddaughter, and you will still her when we move"  Then she says "well yea you say that but nothings guaranteed'  To which Russ responded "Getting to see Sage is a privilege, not a right.  We are her parents, we have lives and we do not need to make decisions with you in mind." YESSSSSSSSS! my husband is so shy and quite but he is getting so sick of her bull ****  Then she grabbed her bag and started going to the door and said "you're ripping my heart out."  OMG she is SO dramatic.  Then I said "Really, way to manipulate the situation."

Then she called Russ today and apologized but then said "I had to leave I was too sick about hearing that I wouldn't be able to see Sage."  NO ONE ever said that!!!  She is such a spaz!!  I think this all stemmed from when I told her I did not want Sage going in the baby pool she bought her when Russ or I wasn't around.  Shes 65 and has a hard time moving/bending, so god forbid something happened.  She got all pissy about that too.

I guess it's a hard pill to swallow for her, WE are Sage's parents, and we don't need to make "group decisions" about things we do in our life.  She should be happy we are getting out of our ****ty apartment and are able to purchase a 1200 sq foot house with 3 bedrooms for the same price as our rent monthly.  Instead she's been pulling up newspaper articles about how bad the schools are there (the high school isn't great but elementary schools are awesome).  I grew up in that area, I know the town, I would not move my family to a ****ty part of NJ.  She is telling my FIL we are going to keep the baby from them.  Like WTF I never said that.  UGHH at least she was put in her place last night, she is such a controlling manipulator. 

Family dramas suck! I think you're making a good decision about settling in and building your life. She just has to get over herself. I think you and hubby both did a good job. Hopefully she'll move onto a new drama soon. In the meantime hang tight!

Carrie

Now don't get me wrong I love her dealry but we live right next door to my hubbys grandma she 88 years old I know she dont have much life let but I feel you on the distance.She gave us our land to put our home and if it wasnt for her we wouldnt have it but man oh man give us some space.The distance you will be is great they need to get over it!

Sounds a lot like my mother who's always had a sense of entitlement and lays on major guilt and tries to manipulate situations like that. She got pissed off when my brother's wife wanted her own mother there for the birth of her daughter and not my mom.
Glad you and hubby stood up to her! It's a privilege to see Sage, not a right and your family is your priority! You and your hubs do what's best for you and your kids! She'll just have to get over it if she wants to see her grandkids. She's acting like you're moving across country or something! It's not the end of the world and if she let's it keep her from seeing her grand daughter that's her issue!

Uhm yeah, she totally sounds like how my EX**** mother in law is. Psycho biznatch! lol I am so GLAD you guys put her in her place. But if she is anything like my ex's mother, she will continue with her craziness no matter how many times you put her in her place. If she know's what's best, she would stop this nosense because at one point you guys may want to completely disconnect with her.

I love how your hubby thinks! i have said that many times to my mom. Its a privledge, not a right for my kids to be at her house. Just because she says they are and will be there, it dont work that way.

Im sure your FIL is rollin his eyeballs at her too and knows better. What has she said about this pregnancy after you told them? or did i miss that post?

We told them and they were happy.  She gave me a super guilt trip again today trying to "schedual" times to see Sage.  I told her "you will see her when you see her"

wow. she needs to get a clue at least. Q's dads mom, aka gma sandi, will stop over anytime she wants. I seriously dont mind that really. Her stops are usually a "going thru town i needed a q fix" comes and kisses and hugs on him and loves him and then leaves when she gets her fill. he is her stress reliever. =) On the other hand? my mom seems like she is related to your MIL....long lost sisters perhaps?