Update

I finally got my beta results back from my test yesterday. My level went from 22.1 to 28 in 48 hours. I had a feeling this was going to happen and I tried to prepare myself for it, but I am still crushed. I have to go back tomorrow for a 4th beta. There is some concern it may be ectopic so they are keeping a close eye on things. My hope is that if its not meant to be, that its not ectopic and will pass on its own, naturally. Of course I am still on the progesterone gel, so I probably won't miscarry until I stop that, but my doctor doesn't want me to stop taking it yet. The nurse kept saying "it could still be early" bla bla bla.
I am taking the day off from work and my sister is coming to spend the day with me from out of town. I keep bursting into tears.
We tried for 13 months to have a baby prior to WLS. Now I am pregnant for the first time and this is happening. Its just so devestating :(
Those of you who have gone through a chemical pregnancy, please tell me what to expect?

Thanks.

Many of us on this board have had MC's - myself included.  I got pg the 1st month we tried (last Nov) and I MC'd at 7wks.  It was hard emotionally and physically as well.  But my wife said something to me the day we found out I MC'd... she said "honey, if you were pregnant with our baby then you will still be pregnant.  That was not our child.  Our child is still on it's way to us."  there was something so calming and peaceful in that sentiment... it really helped me through it.

If you do end up with a MC and pass it naturally, it will be like the hardest period you've ever had.  The cramping can get pretty bad (like tylenol and heating pads got me through it) and the bleed is very heavy for a few days.  I bled for almost 2 wks.  It's the body's way of releasing the extra blood/lining from the uterus.  Make sure that you increase your iron during this time as many women going through a MC feel physically drained... that's caused by the large amounts of blood leaving the body and taking the iron with it.

Be gentle with yourself and know that your child is still on its way to you and ur DH.  Many blessings to you.

im sorry.

I am sorry you are going through this even if things turn out ok. The only bright note I can give you is that this pregnancy shows you can get pregnant and when you are ready again you will have that knowledge to help you get through the TTC phase. ::hugs:: We are all sending you warm thoughts.

I'm so sorry your going through this!  I can't begin to imagine how you are feeling!  Maryn had some great words for you!  I hope if in fact you are miscarrying this baby...you can pass it naturally!  I'm glad you have the support of your sister right now to help you through this!

I'm sorry.

Having been through multiple miscarriages, I can only say each one is physically different.  Four of my five have been 'natural' mc...my body did all the work.  The last one I had to have a D&C.  I think it depends on a few things as to whether you'll have cramping, etc...first and foremost being how far along you are.  The earlier you are, the less cramping you'll have - at least from my experience.  I would guess that if you're one who normally has cramps w/AF, you might be more susceptical (sp) to cramping during a mc.  I never get cramps w/ AF, so have only had cramping w/one of my mc; I was about 9 weeks along.  The others were all 6-8 weeks. 

Emotionally...to be honest, you'll be a wreck at least up to when they confirm 100% that it's a mc...then for a few days after that.  Just go with it, let yourself mourn - mourning is healing - and don't try to put a happy face on or hold it in for someone else's sake.  Lean on DH or your sister as much as you need to...they're mourning too and know what you're going through. 

It'll take a few weeks - or for some people a few months - to start feeling a little more 'normal,' but know that it will happen.  You'll always have part of you that's scarred from the mc...it's like someone ripped your rose colored glasses off and life's not all sunny flowers like it was before.  Something that always happened to 'someone else' has now happened to you...but just like the 'someone else,' you can make it through...and eventually, you'll be ready to pick yourself up by your bootstraps and try again. 

Praying first off that this is not a mc for you...and if it unfortunately is, prayingn for some extra strength and healing for you...and most of all that your next pregnancy comes as soon as you're ready...and that it's super sticky.  If there's anything I can do to help - or other more specific questions I can answer...please ask...Having been-there-done-that...the only 'good' I can come up with out of it is to reach out and help the next person who has to go through it.

[[HUGS]]

So sorry you're going through this. Keep your chin up! Don't give up hope! I've beeen through it once myself. The first few days are the hardest, but it gets better. I promise. *hugs* Just take time and work through it.

I went through a miscarriage with my first pregnancy after TTC for 6 years.  I went for an Ultrasound at what I thought was 9 weeks only to find out that the baby had no heartbeat and had stopped developing at 6 weeks.  I had no symptoms of miscarriage before that but the very night of the Ultrasound apparently my body realized what my mind now knew and I began bleeding.  It took several more days but I was able to miscarry naturally and did not need any medical intervention. 

As far as what it felt like physically, it was like a very difficult period.  Cramps that were almost like early labor contractions and of course, heavy bleeding with lots of tissue.

Emotionally, it was devestating.  My husband is a wonderful guy who I can't say enough good things about but, honestly, he was not that helpful during the MC.  Men don't really bond with their babies until they are born in my opinion and as mommies we feel bonded the minute we see that second line on the HPT.  He couldn't understand why I couldn't just move on.

The good news is, as soon as I felt like I could put my heart into TTC again and starting keeping track of cycles, I got pregnant within a couple of months and I now have a toddler.  If that first pregnancy had been successful, I wouldn't have my little Ruby. 

Try to look at the positive that now you KNOW you are capable of getting pregnant and it's just a matter of time before you get another BFP.  Hang in there!

Thank you so much everyone! Your support and kind words are exactly what I needed to hear right now. I really, really appreciate you all.