Gender disappointment.

i didnt say i cried for weeks about it... i cried a few hours... its normal... get over it... i never said i have a kosher life.. ever.. its far from it.. however.. my 2 ( almost 3)  out of wedlock children are happy.. healthy... well adjusted.. smart children... who are not mean and dont have anger issues..  they get along with people and dont wish harm on their unborn siblings.. sound familure? judge all you want... my grip on reality is quite strong... my legs will stay open... and if you **** rainbows and gold i would wonder if you have a fever... i dont think you have a nice, caring well meaning ounce of life in you... didnt you say months ago you were leaving the board? ..best of luck in life chelle...  i really hope you let go some of your anger and hostility towards life and people in general... be a little more accepting of other peoples emotions and feelings in their life... "attitude is a small thing that makes a big difference"

 You seriously are the biggest ***** I have ever come across on the Internet, and I have come across some big ones. You really need to get some help for your issues.

Why are you so angry?  You don't know any of these people in real life and you don't have to be their friends.  But there is also no reason to get up on a soap box and be so horrible.  Karen never insinuated that she wouldn't love a baby if it was a boy.  She merely started a discussion that she feels strongly it is a boy and really wants a girl.  I think that is pretty harmless since she suffers from anxiety and could be worrying about something so much worse.  I find it cruel in fact that you would be so harsh in your words to her rather than just keep them to yourself and decide you don't agree with her.  You seem very educated and can be well spoken but for whatever reason you chose to take it to a very nasty place.  If it weren't enough for you to attack Karen then you decided Alexa could be your target too.  Her life choices have no affect on you.  Are you reacting to how you have been treated by them or are you just mean?  This forum contains a lot of different women and I have certainly rolled my eyes at many of posts and laughed at others but I chose to be nice and keep my disapproval to myself.  

Karen, I have to agree with you.  I think some people just read way too much into your post and took it too far.  I know that you will love this baby no matter what.  I also agree that issues like this are real and for someone to suggest that women who feel this way even for a minute need therapy, is completely unfair and extremely judgemental and I think they need to take a step back and chill.  Good luck to you!!

Thank you!  I know I am only "7 seconds pregnant" but I've been thinking about my kids, their names, their genders since I was a little girl.  I've come to realize that some people become "e-hardasses" behind the computer screen.  O well!!
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I totally agree Cass!  Of course we will love our babies NO MATTER WHAT!  It's very common and I'm sure almost (I will stress ALMOST) everyone has a preference or feeling of one sex over the other.   Does that mean we are heartless over those that have a hard time conceiving or can't conceive at all or those that have babies with disabilites or health problems......OF COURSE NOT.....that is insane!  It's just human nature!  If chelle would re-read what the woman said, including myself, we all have gotten over that disappointment and love our babies regardless!  She herself even admitted to being disappointed (so stop being so judgemental already)!  Some take longer to get over the disappointment than others and I do feel truely sorry for those few parents that don't accept the sex of the child.  Bottom line is, it's normal to have some disappointment if it's not the sex you desired or felt you were having....but we end up loving and excepting them NO MATTER WHAT.....including their sex, disabilites or health issues!  Some people need to find better things to do with their time than go around judging others!!!

After trouble with infertility, I can only imagine ever wanting to see a positive HPT :(

You will love your baby no matter what it is :)

I hope you get your BFP soon!!!

Thanks :)

I am one of the women who tried for EIGHT YEARS and yes, I found out (through genetic testing for other reasons) at 11 weeks that we are having a boy.  I have always, only, wanted a girl.  A lot of women experience gender disappointment, no matter how long or how hard they've tried.  And other people's problems don't negate our feelings.  A friend just asked me this week (so 16 weeks later) if I could go back and change LO into a girl, would I - and the truth is, absolutely, yes.  I suspect until I meet him I will.  He is an abstract little boy, and boys are icky. (again, in the abstract, no offense to ANY little boys out there!)  I want a little princess.  We will be stopping at one so it is HARD to let go of an 8 year dream.  

I'm sure I will adore and worship my little guy, but while I'm ok with the idea now, I won't apologize (and this is my soapbox issue) for my current feelings.  Anyone who feels like bashing me, go ahead, I so couldn't care less, I've heard worse I'm sure.

Karen, what you're feeling is normal, when I found out I cried for 12 hours straight, and was on the verge of tears for a few weeks.  Don't let anyone get you down for experiencing normal human emotions.