Weight Gain - Its going to happen.

Most of us still struggle and will most likely always struggle. That is why there are support meetings. This is a mental disease. If just eating right and exercising was all we needed we could have done it without surgery. One surgeon I went to before picking which surgery said "I only fix your stomach.. I wish I could go in with surgery to fix your brains"  It is so true. I think it is hard too when we compare who gained how much during which trimester. Some of us lose tons and come out even or barely a few lbs up. Others gain and gain. It sucks! And can set us up for that unrealistic ideal too.

For me I had my surgery so I could get pregnant yes I loved being in the 120's which I'm not still have 20 pounds to get off but now I know I can get pregnant and that's why I had my surgery.I'm OK with being 20 pounds heavier if I dint get it off I'm still a healthy weight and like you said a far cry from where I was at.

I am so glad someone had the guts to say it! I was getting really upset about so many people complaining about the weight gain! I gained 65lbs! I lost 30 and still have a bit of a way to go. I was really depressed after giving birth and now I have been at a stand still for the past 2 months. Although I tried to go back to the bariatric way of eating, I got extremely sick because I am nursing and I was not getting enough calories.

Long story short, I will have to continue to eat higher amount of calories until I wean my little man (advice from the nut). I am more interested in him getting the nutrition he needs. I can focus on me after!

Thanks, Lianne. It looks like from a recent post that I ticked somebody off in stating it. But, I've been on the board for a long time and it goes in cycles. It's funny ... the point of the recent post is that we should all appreciate each other's diversity, and thenshe goes on to flame others for posting about being uncomforatble full term and being idssapointed by gender. Anywhow ...
Some of the best advice I ever got was from my Baby Massage instructor who told me to avoid the scale for a full year after giving birth. She pointed out that it takes ten months for your body to prepare and support a new life, and to expect our bodies to return to "normal" any time before that is unrealisitic and really quite a high standard. She suggested just doing activities to really take care of ourselves as new mothers ... yoga, walking, hobbies, eating and drinking healthy ... and then see where we are at 12 months. NOW, if I could only follow that advice ... lol

Wow I wish I had the strength to not touch the scale for 12 months. I can't even go 12 days!

Right? I just thought it was good advice. I wish I could follow it. lol

It really makes me sad to see people that cry over 10 lbs! I wish I only gained 10 lbs! To say I do not care about the weight I gained would be a lie, but it was for a healthy happy baby and I would do it again in a heart beat! (maybe in a couple years though) LOL

Im with you I dont like the weight I gained and would love to have it off and Im trying but I would rather as well have a nice healthy baby as well.

Those are the same words my doctor said to me. YOU ARE PREGNANT. YOU WILL GAIN WEIGHT. YOU NEED TO GAIN WEIGHT. IT'S FOR A GOOD CAUSE. EXPECT TO GAIN 15 TO 30 POUNDS. IT'S OK. I WILL LET YOU KNOW IF I AM CONCERNED ABOUT YOUR WEIGHT GAIN.

I admit to dreading the scale every time I go in to the dr. I hate that I'm worried about it, but I can't help it. I spent a lifetime being fat, busted my butt for a year and a half to pull almost 182 lb off at my lowest, and was just getting to a point where my body image was starting to be ok when I got pregnant. I was too thin (112 lb at my lowest) and developed an Eating Disorder. I was obsessed with being thin. I loved being thin. I loved being a size 0. Now I look lumpy and have a huge spare tire-looking belly and it's HARD to accept it. Some small part of me is insanely worried I will go back up after the baby and go back to being overweight. I KNOW I need to eat for the baby and I'm really, really trying, but the thought of getting bigger still makes me miserable. I do it because I have to, but it still terrifies me. And I've only gained 6 lb! It's going to be an even bigger head trip when that's 26 lb :(