OT-Got emails from ex-boyfriend today

I dated this guy several years ago.  We didn't work out because he was and is still married to his job.  He's always treated me like the one who got away.  I think he was just impressed that his money didn't keep me interested.

Anyhoo, he emails twice a year to see if I'm still happily married.  I always say yes and I always let my husband know.  I have nothing to hide.  My husband thinks it's funny.  When I initally told the ex that I told my husband about the emails he got very upset.  I told him if he didn't want my husband to know, then he shouldn't email me.  He still does, so he must now understand.

So, today he asks if I had any kids. I said, not yet but working on it.  He said, what does that mean?   I said I'm pregnant so the baby is in the oven.  So, then he starts emails stating that I should have never gotten pregnant because now if I get a divorce that will complicate things.  I waited this long to have a baby because I wanted to make sure my husband was the one for me. I'm very happy to have this baby with DH.

In my hormonal state, I shot of a pretty intense email basically stating that I really don't think about him until he sends the emails and that he had his chance and lost it.  I also thanked him for showing me how not to let  a man treat me so when I found my husband I knew he was the man for me.  I also told him that if he is only contacting me to see if I"m still married he can stop.  That even if I were I wouldn't go back to him because he was a lousy boyfriend.  

I received 2 apologetic emails after that stating he was only joking and that he wishes me the best.  My husband said I should accept them and move on as if nothing happened.  I think I should just cut him off completely at this point.  

What you think?  Am I over reacting due to my raging hormones?

Just quit responding to his emails.

The guy sounds like a jerk anyway. You're married, he should respect you and your husband enough to BACK OFF.

I don't get why you ever replied in first place. Exes are exes for a reason, even more so after you're married and he was obviously showing interest.

Just my 2 cents tho

I agree with the PP, dont even respond to his emails.  Youre just encouraging him by responding.  Let it go and enjoy your life with your family.

Block him from your emails. This is a hot mess waiting to happen. If I found out my husband was communicating with an ex about their past relationship or our marriage I would be furious. You don't owe this man any explantions about what you did or are currently doing.

NOTHING good can come of this. I totally agree with the PP and think that any response is one that eggs the ex on and keeps the lines of communications open. I would FLIP the EFF out of if I found my DH was communicating with an ex ... I just don't see the point. Cut it off, block him, do what you need to do, because as Chelle said I think ... it truly is a hot mess waiting to happen.

I am gonna agree with the previous posters in that (1) You should not even bother to reply and (2) He is an EX for a reason
He may be a "good" guy but regardless there is no reason to remain in contact with him as you are both married, have no children together, so case over. Sounds like he is having a hard time understanding that and you replying to the emails may imply to him that there could be even the slimmest chance of something even if there is not. I had a similar situation with an ex at one time and it was hard to not reply but soemthing that had to be done. I commend you for telling your husband but nonetheless do not see the point in entertaining his ideas or emails. He obviously has no issues with you being a happily married women. Just my 2 cents!

 I'm friendly with my exes that I didn't have issues with, so that's about 3.  DH is friendly with 2 of his exes.  We aren't in constant communication with them or Facebook friends, but if they drop us an email or text every blue moon it's not big deal.  This guy was one I was friendly with, up until yesterday.  

 

Hey,

I think your husband is right.  Accept the apology, that is the right thing to do.   I would however also cut him out of your life, as much as you can.  If he is not attached to other friends and family, it won't take long for him to get the picture.  If there are others involved, just have contact with him when decorum forces it. 

Even though he apologized, I think he may be off his rocker just a tad.  The comments he made are over the line.  Just be careful.  I had a guy like that in my life for a couple of years and it can take its toll.

Hormones don't help and my response is equally tainted with abnormal hormonal levels.

Jenn

I think you are flirting with diasaster by keeping the lines of communication open with your ex-boyfriend.  Everytime you respond to his email, you give him false hope and he thinks he might have a chance someday (and his last emails prove that).  Also, God forbid you and your hubby hit a "low" point in your marriage (which often comes after the arrival of a baby....with all the stress, adjustments, lack of sleep, post partum depression and hubby not understanding your hormones, etc.) and this guy contacts you during one of your weakest moments, you could very well be tempted to fall under sweet words or what appears as understanding and let him smooth talk you and make you question your feelings and marriage (the grass is greener on the other side syndrome).  Trust me, when times are tough and someone else is there willing to talk and listen, it can tear a marriage apart.  Instead of possibly allowing this to happen, it's best to ignore him now and in the future!  When those tough times come around, you and hubby can pull through them....but having support from another man would make that very hard to accomplish!  Like another poster said...an ex is an ex for a reason!