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I'm currently 11 weeks 5 days. Only 3 people know I'm pregnant, one is my supervisor/friend. I haven't told a lot of people because I've had 2 instances of bedrest and spotting and my nausea has been horrendous. I wanted to make sure I made it out of the 1st trimester before I told anyone else and planned on announcing the day before Easter.
My supervisor/friend called today as a friend and stated she had dinner with a mutual girlfriend the other night. The first question out of her mouth to my supervisor was "Is she pregnant?". My supervisor stated no and this is a question she needs to ask me directly. My friend told my supervisor she was lying and she knew I was pregnant. My supervisor is a great secret keeper but can't lie. She told our friend that I was but the only reason she knew is because she was my supervisor and if she wasn't, she doubted I would've told her. My supervisor felt terrible, but I told her I was ok. I'm not angry with my supervisor but I'm annoyed that our friend would pressure her like that. Our friend knows my supervisor would have to know since I work for her.
I just thought that women understood when you didn't announce a pregnancy right away that you were waiting for the right time. This is my information and I will disseminate it any way I want to on any schedule I choose.
So now we are supposed to have dinner together next Saturday. I originally planned on telling her at that dinner and asking her to not tell until Easter weekend, but now I really just want to play the whole thing off. If she asks, I would deny everything. My supervisor stated she would back me up however I decided to handle it.
I'm just angry that she would go behind my back to find out info from me. It makes me rethink our whole friendship.
My supervisor/friend called today as a friend and stated she had dinner with a mutual girlfriend the other night. The first question out of her mouth to my supervisor was "Is she pregnant?". My supervisor stated no and this is a question she needs to ask me directly. My friend told my supervisor she was lying and she knew I was pregnant. My supervisor is a great secret keeper but can't lie. She told our friend that I was but the only reason she knew is because she was my supervisor and if she wasn't, she doubted I would've told her. My supervisor felt terrible, but I told her I was ok. I'm not angry with my supervisor but I'm annoyed that our friend would pressure her like that. Our friend knows my supervisor would have to know since I work for her.
I just thought that women understood when you didn't announce a pregnancy right away that you were waiting for the right time. This is my information and I will disseminate it any way I want to on any schedule I choose.
So now we are supposed to have dinner together next Saturday. I originally planned on telling her at that dinner and asking her to not tell until Easter weekend, but now I really just want to play the whole thing off. If she asks, I would deny everything. My supervisor stated she would back me up however I decided to handle it.
I'm just angry that she would go behind my back to find out info from me. It makes me rethink our whole friendship.
I don't know how good of a friend this girl is and if she would keep quiet at telling other people. But, if she is the type to spread the news around, I would give her a call and explain to her why you didn't tell anyone yet and for her to please not say anything to anybody else. If she goes and tells other people about your news against your wishes, then I would seriously consider having her as a friend. If this is a good friend and she had a good idea you were pregnant...the best thing would have been to ask you 1st and not your supervisor.....however, if she truely cares for you, she probably knew you had your reasons for not telling her yet, but curiosity got the best of her, so she asked your supervisor. Is this a friend you really care about, is a good friend to you and you value your friendship? If so, I would give her the benefit of doubt and see what she has to say.
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