Baby shower - to have, or not to have? Please advise.

 I agree with the other ladies on not throwing your own shower and I LOVE the idea of a welcome to the world party. 
My personal opinion is that every life has value and deserves to be celebrated! I see no problem with having a shower for each child! I think it would be TACKY not to celebrate the beginning of their new life with friends and family :)

Best wishes!

Thank you!  My sis told me last night about a sip-and-see party she went to where the adults had drinks and sat around ooohing and awwwing at the new baby. :)  

I had one with Hayvann and another with the twins. My best friend gave it for me and I was very happy she did. I did not ask for one though but had a blast at them

I literally bow down to mothers of multiples....my throat gets choked up thinking of buying two+ of everything, and then when I think about actually caring for TWO+ BABIES....  I don't know how you do it! (I'm sure you get that line too much, huh?)

I had this same problem when I became pregnant with my daughter. My Husband and I were told 10 years ago that we would not be able to have a baby. We tried anyways even using fertility treatments. Well, we decided after 7 years to have a family in a different way. Adoption. We adopted our son when he was 8 months old. We had had him since he was 2 weeks old as a foster baby. Instead of getting the baby shower I always wanted we decided to have an Adoption party instead. and we did receive nice gifts from people for him even though my Husband and I had already bought most of his "baby" stuff because he was our foster son and he still needed things prior to his adoption. 

Well fast forward...I got pregnant last year and had our DD in January. I wasn't planning on having a baby shower but my cousin insisted she wanted to give me one. I had no girl items and I was excited so I agreed. Some of my Husband's family didn't think it was a good idea. They felt it was tacky and that I shouldn't have one. My MIL and my SIL didn't come to the shower even. I felt hurt. I have never been pregnant and had a baby shower before. I wanted to sit in that special chair with my cute round belly and have all of the baby shower games and just be, well, the cute pregnant girl. I wanted the pictures for memories. I was made to feel ashamed of having "another" party.

So...I made a decision... the party went on anyways...screw stupid people even if they are family members! ALL babies should be celebrated no matter how they come into your life or which number they are! That's my say on this. =)

Agreed!  And what a beautiful story!  Congrats on the new little one! :)

Oy, you deserved a beautiful baby shower!!!  Your MIL & SIL sound like two witches!  They should feel undeserving to hold Luciana in there arms.

 

All Best,

Leila

I went to a baby shower once where everyone painted a piece of mural for the baby's room. It was really cute and special. I think it would be alright to throw your own baby celebration party even before the baby is born if you do something like that! You could provide a light lunch and all work on a craft or something special for baby! I'm sure some people would still bring gifts, but wouldn't feel obligated. 
I LOVE going to baby showers! I think they are fun and I love to eww and awww over the cute baby gifts :)

Me too!  Thanks for the mural idea!

Well, Im from the south too so IDK how much help I'll be, BUT all my cousin just had her 2nd and we didn't think twice about throwing her a shower, especially since her first child is 9 years old so she had nothing.