Baby shower - to have, or not to have? Please advise.

Like the gf I mentioned...I called her Babyzilla to my hubby...she acted as though we were planning her wedding and made so many crazy demands!

I had a baby shower for the second one, mainly because there is 13 years between my first and second.  But then for the third and fourth we didn't do a baby shower, but we did a party before they were born.  Well, not the fourth, it was after he was born because he came a month early.  Anyway, we called it a celeabrating of life party.  It ended up being like the showers as people brought gifts but that was not the intention at all.  We just wanted to celebrate their lives and praise God for them. 

I like this idea!

Thanks for all your responses ladies...I agree with you all. My plan now is to have a shower if someone offers one, but I will adjust my registry to only include the smaller items.  If no one offers, I will throw myself an intimate baby celebration get-together after baby is born.

And even if it means my tiny NYC apartment will be cram-packed, I'm keeping everything...just in case! LOL

I just had one a couple weeks ago that my friends threw for me and I see nothing wrong with it especially if someone wants to throw you one...this baby is 11 yrs apart from my oldest and it's a boy(we have two girls) so I definitely had nothing and have had to start all over...I did buy most big ticket items on my own, like the bedding, crib, all the furniture, stroller, car seat..pretty much everything I received at my shower was towels, wash cloths, diapers, wipes, clothes.  I say another shower quite alright :-)

Thank you!  Awww, I bet your daughters are going to be so happy with a little brother!

I say do what ever you feel comfortable with.  If someone doesn't like it, they can choose not to come.  This is baby #2 for me and my first one is 12 years old so there is a big gap but we decided not to have a shower with this baby.  I don't have any family or friends here and we decided that we don't have a great deal of space for extra stuff so we are just buying what we feel we need and then if family decided to send stuff then that's a bonus for us.

We're pretty much in the same boat....the amount of people I could even invite in my immediate area wouldn't be more than 10, really.  It gets me depressed sometimes...having no one around during this time - maybe that's the real reason why I want a party.  How are you dealing with it?  I mean, the loneliness and all?

I deal with it fairly well.  I have good days and bad days, lol.  I am alone a lot.  My fiance drives a truck and is gone sometime for 2 weeks at a time.  Lately it hasn't been for that long but it's always atleast a week that he's gone.  I have my daughter, who is 12, when she is home from school but that's it.  I have a few people that I know but I'm not really close to them so I talk to them maybe once or twice a month.  If you ever want to talk, I am always around.

Same here my dear....anytime.