follow up to previous post

Ok I admit I was a bit flippy in my response. This came after reading her whole OTHER post and saw where she wrote individual nasty responses to anyone who told her that her priorities were questionable.Then to be told (as if we are all 5th graders) that she WAS using 2 forms of BC and only had sex once. Ummm....are you freaking kidding me? How many of you on here are struggling with infertility or have been TTC for a long time....this statement was a slap in the face to anyone who is even remotely familiar with how their reproductive organs work. Sorry but it is. I believe her posts have "me me meeeee" and "purposely pregnant' all over it.. Whatever... but then why complain she is not losing any more weight? Where is the concern for her baby's growth? Sorry but I hae no tolerance for this kind of stupidity. After having a miscarriage and a teenager w/ a disability, I have a big distaste for anyone who treats pregnancy so selfishly.

Yeah, I have to admit, I was so disgusted and still am that all the other ladies on here talk about the freaking out because they have gained a pound in a month! I was going up 10 lbs a month in the last few months. I was afraid to even have artificial sweeteners as well. So I gained 65lbs! I am all upset because I thought I should be losing faster. The past 2 weeks I have been at a stand still at 35lbs lost. I have to keep reminding myself that I JUST had a baby 6 weeks ago. I also have to remember I gained all that weight and have a happy healthy 11 lb 6 week old! He was 8 14 at birth though. So am I jealous I did not lose weight or gain only a pound a month? Heck yeah, but I am even more happy to have a healthy baby!

We all have to hope for the baby's sake that she did not do it on purpose and that the baby will be healthy! I was not even allowed to have sex for 6 weeks, and I waited longer than that after surgery. I did not want to chance a complication with surgery either!

certainly not on purpose and was devastated when i found out. thrilled now that I know my baby is growing well and is healthy. i eat constantly to support her growth and dont give a crap about losing weight right now. its after that i was asking about. congratulations on your new baby. i wish you all the best!

to CHELLE614. You obviously just dont want to accept that my intentions were not as you interpreted them. again, wasnt complaining that I hadnt lost anymore weight just stating that it stopped suddenly. you obviously have bigger issues. you can think what you want about me. i did not want anymore children but am certainly grateful that I have been given such an amazing blessing. My TOTAL concern has been for my baby and her growth and NOT my weight loss at this time. I do have concerns about my weight loss AFTER and dont see a damn thing wrong with asking about that! me me me! WHAT? screw you. I am usually last on my list lady, like most of us moms out there.  i think you might need some help! Ive had miscarriages in my past as well and how dare you indicate that I treat pregnancy so selfishly. my best friend of 30 yrs is struggling with infertility and its heartbreaking. i cant explain why things are the way they are but you have no right to blame me because my birth control didnt work and i got pregnant when others cant. doesnt seem fair to me or make much sense either but certainly shouldnt be viewed as a slap in the face to any of those struggling with infertility. my heart goes out to each and every one of you struggling with such heartbreak and wish i could take that burden away from all who have to deal with it. Still am having trouble wrapping my head around this meanness. blows my mind!

No One has the right to be harsh..I always have a motto.."You can asy what you mean but you can't be mean when you say it"...People SHOULD belive in samta Claus..I met my husband 13 years ago and the 1st thing he told me was that he could not have children because he had had Hodgkins cancer and the radiation goes below the groin and men after this cannot have kids. we took a chance and went through fertility ( I was also overweight and had PCOS and ovualtion was crazy..) After 3 years we got pregnant..but that is NOT the big mews...I had the gastric bypass november 2008...lost 166lbs and may of 2010 has my panni remmoved. Went to the beach in July..mind you I NEVER used any type of birth control since it was next to impossible to have any more kids. we were grateful for the one we had. Got back from the beach and found out I was pregnant!! I am 38 and my husband is 41. My daughter will be 7 in april adn like you have 2 degrees a professional and work tons of hours...This was the last thing on my mind. People have told me I was dumb..should have used birth control...it is basically a medical miracle..I am still uneasy about this change in life...and I know people will say that is stingy and yes it is..and I am ALLOWED to feel that way!!!!!! So keep your head up and who the heck cares about the ignorant people who have nothing better to do than to judge others because chances are they are not perfect

WOW. that is quite an amazing story. What an eventful past few years you've had!  Thank you so much for the support and a giant congratulations to you and your family. Ill bet thist truly was a huge shock,  but how very exciting! sounds like much like me although you've adjusted to the idea and are happy to be so blessed, it came as a big surprise. I was devastated to be pregnant at first (not so much anymore) so its frustrating to hear people accuse me of doing it on purpose if all I was going to care about is weight loss. I have accepted it but like you it took me a long time to accept the reality that Im starting over. You are totally allowed to feel that way. it doesnt mean that you're a bad mom or love your baby any less. Thanks for sharing your story. I really appreciate your kind words of support! Also congrats on the weight loss and panni surgery. I may look into that for next Summer!

I can also say I am a very bad speller!! LOL..as I read my post!!!

Tracy - I am so sorry that you have had such a bad experience!!!  I know how that feels. On the Lap Band board when I was newly out of surgery, I asked questions and people went bananas over the what I posted I ate everyday even though those were the ONLY two things I could get down!!!!  Then months later, other posters would post much worse foods and nobody said anything rude to them.  I just don't understand why some people are that way!!  I also have a very dear friend who just delivered a baby and she also used 2 forms of BC and definitely did NOT want another child.......and she got pregnant (no WLS, so no malabsorption there either...and her husband travels and was only home 3 days during the month she conceived!) -----so all of this to say, I believe your story; it happens!  I never thought your original post was offensive in anyway, shape, or form.  I did not respond to it because this is my first baby so I didn't really have any input.  Again, so sorry for the way some people act.  We aren't all that way.  :-(