Filthy Friday

The ONLY time I hear from my ex is when he receives a letter notifying him of his pending arrest for being behind on child support. Begging me to nt press charges (its out of my hands but he thinks if i plead his case they will listen)...Hold your ground. Don't let ANYONE make you feel guilty for doing what is right by your daughter. She deserves support, and you can help get that for her. I know how hard it is when someone we once cared about pulls out all the guilt cards, but just hold onto the fact you ARE doing the RIGHT thing

As someone who is going through child support hell right now....DO NOT let him talk you out of filing the paperwork no matter what he promises.  He can just change his mind and then you are back to square one.  This is in the best interest of your child and that is all that matters.  I actually have a child support order in place on my ex-husband and he still doesn't pay.  He sells houses, or tries to, so he really doesn't make any money.  He has 2 other part time jobs but he won't tell me where they are so that I can tell child support enforcement.  They are going after him now and they know where he lives so he's going to be in trouble.  Funny thing is, he still expects me to pay to send her to see him....not going to happen, his turn to pay.

So, yea, don't stop the process.  This is what you need to do to make sure that he steps up and provides for his child.

Maryn, I used those little dip strips (ovulation tests) and they helped narrow down the days. My cycle is always off! When I started seeing a faint line, I'd call/text the guy and work out days with him. I'd continue peeing in a cup (at work around lunch time****il I got the dark line! Made sure to get the stuff that day!! The sticks are cheap and they help!!

No big gripes for the week! Just normal idiot parents at work! "My child will get sick if they get a chill therefore they must wear fleece footed clothes with socks and a long sleeved onesie (keep in mind it's 70-72 in my classroom EVERY DAY!)."
Child i****ting parent in the face, I say "be nice to mama" Mom says "oh she is!"
Parent takes child for a walk, I close shades and turn off lights (for nap time, not completely dark, just dimmer than bright), parent comes back with child and says "oh it looks like it's going to rain, it's like the sun just went away!" DUH

Not that I'm the brightest bulb on the tree, but seriously??? It gets worse, but it's way too hard to describe without writing a book!!!

OMG I have to talk to someone!  I have to confess, get this off my chest, I cannot sleep or stop crying.  How do I say this?  My father in law gropes me.  He has groped me for 2 years.  But Saturday he fully cupped my breast and squeezed.  And when I tell you he is the grossest old man who is missing teeth, picture the dirtiest and grossest child molestor and that is him.  I cannot stop crying!  And the worst part is, his wife, my MIL from H#$%, barged into my bedroom screaming at me, thinking I was upset at her.  And as much as I hate her, I could not bring myself to tell her that her husband is a gross rapist/molestor.  I finally told hubby, I have kept it inside so long but this was the worst incident of all time.  It is escalating.  Hubby told his brother, brother admits that father has "grabbed" his neighbor's wives bottoms and the brother has had to apologize.  How did I MARRY INTO THIS TRASH?!  I grew up with the best family, picket fences, classy nice people who treated me with love and care beyond words.  I was told 4 times that my husband was "marrying up"!  Why didn't I RUN?!

OMG... I'm so sorry!  You DO NOT have to take this anymore.  I'm glad you told your husband.  It is his family and he now needs to stand up or you.  YOU can set boundaries.  Your home is just that... YOUR home.  You do not need to let anyone in your home that you do not feel safe around.  Your husband needs to back you up on this.  You deserve to continue to be treated with love and care beyond words.  No one deserves to be objectified by an in-law or anyone else for that matter.  Your FIL crossed the line one too many times.

Oh... and from the looks of your screen name, you might also be aware of the fact that what your FIL is doing is illegal.  You can press charges if you need to.  Your husband is the man you love, not his family.  He needs to protect you.

Maryn,
Thank you so much for your response.  It has been the most awful thing.  My husband is on my side, and told me if we never had to see them again than that is what we would do.  He said I will never be alone with his father again or have to see him again for that matter.  I had these awful thoughts/fears because the FIL is visiting my BIL/SIL who was a 6 year old daughter, so I emailed the mother and just said please watch her, I would not forgive myself if I didn't warn you.  Well they repay me by the SIL not emailing me back and instead getting her husband (my BIL) to call my husband and say they trust him around their children and don't leave their kids alone with him.  But I was still hurt that she ignored me and went about it this way.  I still think I did the right thing though.  My FIL will probably be on the news soon, people think he will either rape or do something like that.  He is the most disgusting person I have ever met.  He has groped all these other women, even my own father saw him groping and being inappropriate at my wedding.  He said if I have a daughter, that he, my brother and my uncles will surround the baby girl when the FIL meets her.  I am so blessed I have my family and husband on my side but it is the most disturbing thing I have ever been through.Thank you so much for your words, they make me so strong.