Filthy Friday!!!

they dont owe you anything... you didnt have to invite them... a party is an event you throw for others to enjoy and celebrate whats going on.. not to get gifts...you did expect something from them because your complaining that you didnt get anything...

I no longer expect anything from them after that. A wedding is not a "party'. Anyone who shows up to catered affair like that with no gift or acnkowleging the special occassion in some way is clearly behind in common ettiquette rules. I have never heard of or seen such a thing until I met these people. And they only did it to us.
You are lucky you have awesome in-laws. But I'm sure if they showed up at your wedding empty handed you'd be a little annoyed & hurt.

naw.. they are poor and rasing 3 of their 5 grandkids... i would never expect anything from them... and discourage them from bringing anything but their person. but to each their own.

ohh.. and my parents offered to pay for my wedding.. i declined.

Well I dont have a MIL and idk if I ever want one with the stories yall have. My rant for today is about my daughters father. He makes me so mad. I found out he came to Houston, he dose not live in the same city as I do, and didnt bother to try and contact me and ask to see his daughter. Then this week I get a letter from the state from her newborn screen that they did and it said she had sickle cell trait. Now the trait just means she a carryier and dosnt have the disease. So I text her dad and ask if he has the trait and he no shantly says yes I do and so do my other girls. That would have been something to tell me before now. If you know you have the trait you should tell the person your with that you have it so if you do axcidently concive a child you know that child wont get the disease. My daughters father also ****** me off in the fact that he dose everything for his other two daughters he claims he planned but dose absultly nothing for mine. She didn't ask to be here but she is here and deservies to be loved. At this point knowing that hes just going to keep lying and not doing anything for her I dont want him in her life. I guess it comes down to I'ded rather u not be in her life at all instead of being in and out of her life and making things more complicated on her in the long run. I feel a little better after getting that out.

O wow, sorry apryl.  Is he paying child support? if not he damn well should be!

No hes not but I have filled out the paperwork and the last time I looked online for my case it said it was in the location phase and then I got a letter saying they were transfering my case to another office. I will make sure he pays for my daughter.

you go girl! will Hazel ever get to know her half sisters?

Idk if shell ever get to know them b/c idk there mother and her father barley talks to me so theres a good chance she may never know them

 I can understand MIL issues.  My MIL really doesn't care for me.  My husband keeps saying "She doesn't know you"...but I don't understand why after 7 years together almost 5 married.  I feel it's because my husband is from a very small town and the day after he graduated college he moved to the "big city".  He lived her for a year was contemplating moving back relationship he would never move back home because he really doesn't like it there. Well, she thought he wouldn't move back because of me. Oh, also, he's white and i'm black and she has never been comfortable about thatt.  She told me that the bible condemns interracial relationships.  Wow, ok.  I thought it was funny she was throwing the bible at me when her son doesn't belive in it.  

Anywho...she doesn't know I'm pregnant.  This woman cried for several hours during our wedding. You would've thought I stole a toy from her.  I think she hopes we would get divorced, but haven't.  Now that i'm expecting, my husband and I have stated divorce is not an option.  That's why we waited to have kids (not that this one was planned!).  She's going to cry....and cry..and cry.  Because don't cha know, biracial children have it rough nowadays, she told me the last time we mentioned starting a family (are we still using this argument?).  

I love my husband very much, but I've told him I'm not about to force this woman to like me.  I know I do like her but I don't care for her points of view on life and how she carries herself.  She's not a confident woman and is very co-dependent.  Doesn't change that I like her.  I just wish she was more open to accepting me, especially since this is her only child and will be her 1st grandchild.  I treat her with respect, but I feel like she doesn't respect me.